Body Language & Boundaries

ARE YOU SENDING THE RIGHT MESSAGE?

There is a lot more to communication than just the words you say. Damona sits down with Kim Seltzer, certified style, confidence, and dating coach, who has helped thousands of people find lasting love and connection using her unique “confidence makeover” process returns this week to talk body language. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH

The hidden secrets of Miranda Lambert’s new hot cop husband

Miranda’s new husband makes scandalous headlines this week when his ex-fiance’s mother makes a HUGE announcement. Damona and Kim break it down.

The new and extreme way couples are making sure all their needs are met

Couples are now writing and signing contracts that detail everything from sex goals to off-limits fighting strategies to non-negotiable personal quirks. Is this too much?

Is this the end of dating apps as we know it?

Dating app registrations have dropped 485% since last year? What does this mean? Damona explains.

Body Language & Boundaries

If 93% of communication is nonverbal, are you sending the right message? Damona and Kim are joined by Silvy Khoucasian, marriage and family therapist known for her work with attachment styles and cross cultural communication. We talked about A LOT:

  • Attachment Styles
  • Creating Boundaries
  • Boundaries are the lifeline for a thriving relationship
  • Only giving out information when it’s earned
  • Damona and Kim’s tips for the BEST first impression
  • How culture plays a part in relationship roles
  • How knowing your attachment style now can prepare you to meet your perfect match
  • And so much more!

TECHNICALLY DATING

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Should you keep dating someone if you don’t feel chemistry by the fourth date?
  • Should you just flat out ask someone out?

 

ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?

There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com

Black Love & American Intimacy

LOVE IS LOVE

To celebrate Black History Month, we talked about #blacklove on this week’s episode. This is a BIG discussion so Damona sat down with two couples who are living the principles of black love and what it means to them. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:39)

Should you pay to have your dating profile to be featured on Bumble or Tinder?

Bumble has just announced its new profile boost feature, Spotlight. Damona tells you why this feature is not worth your money.

A Star is Born IRL (kind of)

Offset made headlines this week at the Grammy’s for being obviously insecure in his relationship. Is it okay for Offset to be acting this way? Damona has thoughts.

Intimacy in America

Thank you to NonFiction Research for sending us their new study on intimacy in America? Did you know that 44% of Americans report dreaming of a deep connection in their sleep, then wake up to no such connection in their real life? Damona and Dr. Ryeal break it down.

#BlackLove

What exactly does Black Love mean and to whom does it apply? Enter Dr. Ryeal Simms, Monice Mitchell Simms, Ollie Gabriel, and Quené Forée to talk about their love stories and what we can learn from their relationships. For a long time, the concept of black love has been confined to such a small definition. We love that our guests this week were able to expand and explore new definitions and meanings with the Dates & Mates Community.

“It’s about self love first, and then family love, and then romantic love, and then overall community world love,” said Monice.

We talked about this and so much more:

  • Amazing Love Stories
  • Do you agree on the story of how you met?
  • Is your partner who you imagined they would be?
  • Who did you imagine you would end up with growing up?
  • What were your dating patterns growing up?
  • How traveling brings you closer together as a couple

We can all learn from the main principle of black love: Love as you are. Be yourself and let that attract your highest love to you. Don’t be afraid to fall in love if it doesn’t fit into the box you think your love should fit into.

“Love is Love,” said Quené. “Black love has its specific category, but of course you can always be an advocate for any type of love.”

ROMANCE ROLLBACK

Damona and Dr. Ryeal close the show with a look back at famous couples who have shaped the meaning of #BlackLove. Read more about Ray and Rosa Parks, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr and Coretta Scott King, and Barack and Michelle Obama.

TAKE THE TRIP OF YOUR LIFE WITH THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE

Enter to with the iLove Love Giveaway HERE. This could be you:

ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?

There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com

Valentines & Love in 90 Days

WHY YOU SHOULDN’T STRESS ABOUT VALENTINES DAY

Are you facing another Valentine’s Day single? It’s not too late to change your luck in love. Damona specializes in helping people get unstuck in love fast and so does our co-host for this week, Dr. Diana Kirschner. In this very special Valentine’s Day episode we get you answers on how to change your dating destiny! Here’s the rundown:

LOVE IN 90 DAYS (1:41)

You may know Dr. Diana Kirschner from her PBS show or her best selling book, Love in 90 Days. Love in 90 Days has changed so many lives over the past 10 years that Dr. Diana has updated, re-released, packed it with even more advice on how to find love fast.

  • Dr. Diana’s three steps to finding love in 90 Days
  • Where most people go wrong in dating
  • Identifying self-sabotaging patterns that prevent you from finding love
  • Finding Self Confidence & Self Worth
  • Diamond Self Identity & The Radiant Beacon of Loving Guidance
  • Dating three people at once
  • How to make sure you don’t miss “The One”
  • And so much more!

Get the book and $1000 worth of BONUS content at LoveIn90Days.com

TECHNICALLY DATING (18:41)

This week we coach singles LIVE on air! We gave so much good advice so TAKE NOTES:

  • Why do we put so much pressure on our dates?
  • Where do you find people who won’t ghost you?
  • What do you do when someone wants to commit too fast?

Thank you to Marquis, Deb, and Lauren for coming into the studio and allowing us to give them guidance! Marquis, Deb, and Lauren are SINGLE and READY TO MINGLE, Ladies and Gents. Slide in those DMs!!

(But def use a better opening line than this^)

And don’t forget to submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show!

SPREAD THE LOVE THIS VALENTINE’S WEEK

A HUGE THANK YOU to Apple Podcasts for featuring us on the front page this week! We are one of a handful of podcasts included in their Valentine’s Week “In the Mood for Love” playlist! Do you love the Dates & Mates Podcast? If you do, please take a moment to  REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE! The more subscribers and reviews we get, the longer we can continue to give all of this great dating content for free!

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ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?

There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com

Breakups & Quitting By Design

BABY DON’T HURT ME, NO MORE

To close out this #DivorceMonth2019 we talked all about breakups and quitting relationships. Breakups are a pretty heavy topic so Damona called in reinforcements. Enter Lynn Marie Morski, self professed “professional quitter” and Jonathon Aslay, Midlife dating and relationships coach. We talked about A LOT today. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:24)

Your New Matchmaker revealed: Your DNA

New dating app Pheramor matches you with your DNA. Is this the answer to finding love now? Damona and Jonathon discuss.

The TRUTH behind your romantic type

Meghan Markle seems to be pretty different from Prince Harry’s other girlfriends, right? Wrong. According to foot analysts, all of Prince Harry’s girlfriends have the exact same (very specific) foot feature. Damona and Jonathon tell us what this means for you with the help of science.

Channing on life as a single dad

This Divorce Month, Channing Tatum is being the best dad he can be and trying to find a good balance with ex-wife, Jenna Dewan nee Tatum. Is he doing a good job? Damona has thoughts.

Quitting By Design (14:00)

There are lots of steps to a breakup – even when you haven’t been in a relationship for very long. How do you sort through all the BS and make the best decision for you?

Lynn Marie Morski has quit several times in her life. She is a physician, attorney, speaker, author, and the Founder of Quitting By Design, Lynn Marie is on a mission to help people carve out a successful life through strategic quitting to inform your life’s true purpose and path which led her to write her new book, ‘Quitting by Design.’ We talked about A LOT:

  • Deciding to quit
  • The 5 step quitting process
  • Fears of quitting & quitting fears
  • Logistics of quitting
  • NO GHOSTING!
  • Sunk Cost Fallacy & “I’ve invested so much time!”
  • And so much more!

TECHNICALLY DATING (40:20)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Should your boyfriend have to deal with your family drama?
  • What to say when you don’t want a second date

STAY SEXY IN 2019

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The Future & Dating While Busy

BUSY BUSY BUSY

How do you make time for Slow Love when you are #bookedandbusy? Marquis Olison, writer, community organizer, and lifestyle coach, returns with his insight on the mind of the single men. We talked about A LOT today. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:55)

Marie Kondo Your Life Even More

You’ve seen Marie’s hit Netflix Series “Tidying Up with Marie Kondo”, but did you know that Marie’s method also applies to your messy love life? Damona and Marquis break it down.  

Future is Ciara’s Past

This week in things we already knew: Ciara has moved on. Here’s why Damona and Marquis think that Future has not.

Some New Pick Up Lines for 2019

So you’ve match on a dating app. Now what? Bustle released a list of suggestions to spruce up your message game. There are a few good ones on here according to Damona.

Dating While Busy (14:26)

Yes, RiRi is busy being a boss babe, BUT when she’s ready for another relationship we’ve got the how to guide on making time for a relationship when you don’t even have time for yourself. We sat down with La Presa King and Dwayne Colbert who know all about being BOOKED & BUSY. Even Damona actually learned a thing or two:

  • Where do you fit in dating
  • Treating Dating like its your job
  • Single Moms: Where are all the single Dads?
  • Men: Are they dogs or are they vultures?
  • Bad Moms & Getting our of your normal cycle
  • Making time for your marriage
  • Training your man to check in with you during the day
  • And so much more!

TECHNICALLY DATING (39:15)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Should you put your socials on dating apps like your millennial niece?
  • The pros and cons of dating

STAY SEXY IN 2019

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Intimacy for Men & Rebel Love: Bonus Episode

“Y’ALL TALK?”

This holiday season, let’s take some time to work on our emotional intimacy. As we know this can be a little harder for men and we want to give you all the best tools to set you up for lasting and clear communication. This week, Damona sat down with Dr. Chris Donaghue, a psychotherapist, a sex therapist, and host of Loveline’s “The Amber Rose Show with Dr. Chris” for a special bonus episode. We talked about A LOT. Here’s the rundown:

How can we improve communication over the holidays? (1:17)

Prepare to have your mind blown: The first step to better communication is SELF CARE. Don’t see the connection? Dr. Chris breaks it down.

How do we carve out the time for emotional and sexual intimacy during the holidays?(2:30)

Does Feminism have benefits for men? (3:10)

THREE MUST-HAVES BEFORE MARRIAGE (4:20)

December 25th is the most popular day for engagements and New Years Day is the second most popular. Whether you’re single or coupled up, Dr. Chris Donaghue, from Loveline’s “The Amber Rose Show with Dr. Chris” tells us three relationship must-haves on this week’s episode before you consider moving on to the next step. 

How much information should you give away when you first start talking? (5:20)

What dating rules should you break? (7:01)

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON AFTER BEING GHOSTED BY YOUR CO-WORKER?  (7:43)

We LOVED having Dr. Chris on the show this week! Be sure to pick up his upcoming book Rebel Love: Break the Rules, Destroy Toxic Habits, and Have the Best Sex of Your Life.

STAY SEXY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

On average people gain 2-5 lbs over the holidays. You can fight to get it off in January or you can stop the holiday heaviness before it starts by beginning a program with Beach Body on demand. Just go to DatesandMates.com and click the Beach Body Banner to get started.

Addiction & Love

WHAT ARE THE RED FLAGS?

What are the signs you might be in love with a junkie? How do you get your partner help? Dr. Cali Estes, an addiction therapist and life coach, tells us the truth about addiction and love on this week’s episode. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:36)

The perfect day to kick off your dating game in 2019

Mark your calendars! According to Match, the best day to be online is Sunday, Jan 6th. Damona tells you why this is the best time to be online. 

Do you research your dates before you meet them?

According to a study done by JDP, 72% of people research their date before the first date. But is the behavior good for your date? Damona has thoughts.

The latest secret celebrity relationship

Spotted: Demi Lovato kissing her sober companion, Henry Levi, outside of Nobu last week. We had to call in the big guns for this one, people. Dr. Cali weighs in.

I MARRIED A JUNKIE (15:46)

Dr. Cali Estes is an Addiction Therapist and Life/Corporate Coach who specializes in harm reduction and utilizes holistic approaches to treat addiction, as well as mental conditions holding her clients back from reaching their full potential. She has over 20 years of experience working with drug, alcohol and food addictions.

Her unique no-nonsense approach of cognitive behavioral therapy, positive psychology and life coaching combine to provide the perfect support for an addict. Dr. Estes knows from personal experience the emotional and physical tolls that addiction takes on one’s psyche and physical well-being. We’re SO THANKFUL she joined us this week. We talked about A LOT:

  • The Signs that your loved one is a junkie (spoiler alert: They’re easy to miss)
  • What to do if your SO is a junkie
  • The best way to be supportive if your loved one is recovering
  • How to tell if a person is an addict from their dating app profile
  • How to tell if a person is recovering from their dating app profile
  • How to tell if a person is an addict when you’re on that first date
  • Are you an addict to sugar?
  • And so much more!

TECHNICALLY DATING (34:45)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

    • How do you avoid a co-dependent relationship?
    • How to get over the paranoia that your girlfriend is cheating on you
    • How to help your girlfriend get over her insecurities from her past relationship

STAY SEXY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

On average people gain 2-5 lbs over the holidays. You can fight to get it off in January or you can stop the holiday heaviness before it starts by beginning a program with Beach Body on demand. Just go to DatesandMates.com and click the Beach Body Banner to get started.

 

Religion & Relationships

HOW DO YOU CELEBRATE THE HOLIDAYS WITH YOUR BOO?

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With the holidays in full swing, cross-cultural romances can get a little sticky. How do you incorporate your SO in your family’s traditions? There’s no right or wrong answer here, but we invited Evan Marc Katz, one of the foremost dating experts for women in the world, in studio with us to talk it out. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:39)

Cardi B & Offset Break Up: Y’all Won

In case you missed it, Cardi B announced her split with Offset via instagram. While this is not surprising, Evan and Damona have some solid advice for Offset, who seems to be taking this hard.

Do you have the “skin hunger”?

No, the Zombie Apocalypse is not impending. We’re talking about the simple, human desire for physical contact called “skin hunger”. Did you know that cuddle parties exist just for the sole purpose of giving people non-sexual physical contact?

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Are you dating a psychopath?

According to the latest research, it is estimated that about 1 in 100 people are psychopaths. Odds are, you’re not going to run into Norman Bates, but there are a few red flags you need to know. Damona and Evan break it down.

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CROSS-CULTURAL ROMANCE (37:47)

Obviously, Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra won best wedding of the year. At Dates & Mates, we LOVE how they incorporated each other in their family traditions and made their own rules for their wedding. Priyanka’s instagram coverage of the wedding was absolutely STUNNING, honey.

This week we celebrated cross-cultural romance with Evan Marc Katz to talk about our experiences in interfaith relationships and lead a panel on navigating cross-cultural romance. We were joined by Tiffany Renee, who shares her experiences dating in LA as a Muslim woman and Katy & Matt Snyder, celebrate their 15th wedding anniversary by sharing insights on how they’ve managed a PerJewvian relationship and raised their two children. We talked about A LOT:

  • Cross Cultural Dating
  • JDate and other faith based dating apps
  • When do you have the religion conversation?
  • Converting to your SO’s religion
  • Negotiating beliefs and raising kids with religion
  • First Holiday season with your SO

TECHNICALLY DATING (36:02)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Should you marry your SO to keep them in the country?

STAY SEXY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

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Masculine & Feminine

GET WHAT YOU WANT

This week we sat down with Barry Selby, a relationship attraction expert who helps strong successful women get what they want. It’s a lot easier than you might think.  Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (3:13)

How racial differences can impact your relationship

In case you missed it, Michelle Williams and her fiancé, Chad Johnson, had a rocky week. On their new show, Michelle revealed that Chad doesn’t understand how she communicates because he’s not black. Chad retaliated with comments her mental health. Damona and Barry break it down how racial difference and communication can impact your relationship.

Your new first date spot

Bustle reports this week that Bumble is launching BumbleSpots- verified safe and comfortable places where you can meet up with your Bumble matches. Do we really need Bumble to help us meet IRL? Barry and Damona discuss.

How your mom is ruining your dating life

Damona and Barry examine a new study published in the multidisciplinary journal PLoSOne which showed that people whose mothers have been married multiple times or have lived with multiple romantic partners are more likely to do so themselves.

MESSAGES FROM THE MASCULINE (18:27)

At Dates & Mates, we LOVE hearing men’s perspectives on dating. This week we invited Barry Selby to break down how you can get what you want by balancing Masculine and Feminine. We talked about A LOT:

  • Messages from the Masculine
  • The Masculinization of Women & its impact on dating
  • The Balance of Masculine & Feminine
  • Dropping the Handkerchief & Dating Apps
  • Knowing when to advocate for yourself & When to play it cool
  • 50 Ways to Love Your Lover
  • Love & Chemistry
  • Self Love
  • Barry’s Mirror Meditation Trick

Barry Selby dropped LOTS of truth on this episode. Be sure to to catch Messages from the Masculine with Barry Selby on Facebook or get Barry’s meditation at BarrySelby.com.

TECHNICALLY DATING (36:02)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • How to handle your boyfriend’s meddling mom
  • Should you reveal to your crush how you feel about him if he’s already moved to a different state?
  • How to deal with your boyfriend’s manipulative ex

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (47:16)

This holiday season, let’s focus on listening. Damona closes the show with a diatribe about conflict resolution and communicating better with your significant other.

STAY SEXY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

On average people gain 2-5 lbs over the holidays. You can fight to get it off in January or you can stop the holiday heaviness before it starts by beginning a program with Beach Body on demand. Just go to DatesandMates.com and click the Beach Body Banner to get started.

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Bedroom Confidence & Pleasure Positivity

WE’RE BRINGING SEXY BACK

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It’s been a tense couple of weeks for America, so we’re bringing sexy back with sex and relationship coach, Caitlin V. Caitlin joines us the week to get real about bedroom confidence, good sex, and being pleasure positive. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:39)

Dating advice from JLO

According to JLO, men are useless until they’re 33. According to Dr. Jane Greer, men like to be established before they settle down and they take time to mature in their 20s. So JLO might be right but Damona has thoughts.

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What dating app is most popular in your area?

New data from SimpleTexting shows that the most popular dating app varies state by state. It was no surprise that Match is most popular across the board and Tinder is second most popular. However there were some surprises! Texas, we see you.

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How parents can improve their relationships

The secret to a new happy family: paternity leave. Studies show that long periods of paternity directly correlate with mothers’ reports of relationship satisfaction and lower relationship conflict. Have you had this experience? Tweet Damona and let her know.

BEDROOM CONFIDENCE & PLEASURE POSITIVITY (15:34)

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 This week we took a cue from Samantha, the OG pleasure positive Guru, and sat down with Caitlin V – a sex and relationship coach who helps men become amazing lovers and incredible partners. Caitlin is a former sexual health researcher and policy analyst, turned overnight YouTube sensation. She works with clients all over the world on developing unshakable confidence, sex skills, and intimacy. Combining personal experience with evidence-based science in her coaching, Caitlin’s mission is to create a pleasure-positive world. We talked about A LOT:

  • What does Pleasure Positive mean?
  • How is Pleasure positive difference from sex positive
  • The Sixth Sense
  • What is good sex?
  • How to spice up your sex life
  • Allowing yourself to be sexual
  • How the overuse of Porn is affecting men & women in the bedroom
  • Premature Ejaculations & Performance Anxiety
  • Practice how you play
  • What is a sex coach and who should work with one?

Visit Caitlin’s YouTube or follow her on Instagram for more helpful content on bedroom confidence.

TECHNICALLY DATING (36:02)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • What does casually dating mean on Tinder?
  • What to do when your boyfriend sends you mixed signals.. in bed.
  • Should you warn your dates if you weigh more than the pictures they see in your profile?

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (46:45)

You want a guy who looks like he can chop wood? But do you actually need any wood chopped? Damona closes the show with a diatribe about seeking qualities in a mate that you don’t need.

STAY SEXY THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

On average people gain 2-5 lbs over the holidays. You can fight to get it off in January or you can stop the holiday heaviness before it starts by beginning a program with BeachBody on demand. Just go to DatesandMates.com and click the Beach Body Banner to get started.

 

Election Day & Dating

CAN YOU DATE ACROSS PARTY LINES?

Since the 2016 election, we’ve noticed that politics are increasingly important to daters. In honor of Election Day, Damona sits down with Cyberdating Expert Julie Spira to talk dating across party lines. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:32)

Why are fertility rates declining?

The National Center for Health Statistics reports that fertility rates in the United States are down. Damona breaks down what this means and why it’s happening.

Meghan Markle’s “Pre-Pup” Pregnancy Contract

You’ve heard of a prenup but have you ever heard of a “pre-pup”? According to Daily Mail, Meghan Markle made her ex-husband sign a pre-pregnancy contract. Damona discusses the exact stipulations of Markle’s pre-pregnancy contract. Would you use a pre-pregnancy contract?

Ghosters: the end is nigh

Bumble thinks they have found the solution to ghosting! The Telegraph reports that Bumble will be prompting users to respond sooner and to take a “No Ghosting Vow”. Will this actually solve the problem? Damona has thoughts.

POLITICS & DATING (14:35)

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert, Digital Matchmaker, and the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert. She has been coaching singles on finding love online for almost 25 years and has a great deal of personal experience when it comes to dating across party lines. We talked about a lot:

  • Julie’s research on couples with different political opinions
  • Politics on dating sites and in dating profiles
  • Do single women date across party lines?
  • Who talks about politics more on dates: men or women
  • What political issues split up relationships the most?
  • What this means for your online dating experience

Look out for her forthcoming book, “Love in the Age of Trump: How Politics is Polarizing Relationships.” For more info about the book you can visit Loveintheageoftrump.com.

TECHNICALLY DATING (28:45)

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Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • What do you do when your spouse has gained a lot of weight and you’re no longer attracted to them?
  • When do you consider yourself to have been ghosted?
  • Tips to keep the conversation going on the first date
  • How to ask your boyfriend to move with you to another country
  • If you find out your boyfriend has a wife, should you tell her?

HOLLYWOOD HOOKUP (42:40)

Damona closes the show with a Hollywood Hookup for Ariana Grande. Who do you think would be a good match for Ariana? We have some suggestions.

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Happy Halloween & Dating Horror Stories

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

The Pumpkin Spice Lattes are brewing, sweater weather is upon us, and that can only mean one thing: it’s time for Damona’s favorite show of the year! It’s our annual Halloween Horror Stories episode where we hear the worst dates you’ve experienced. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH

This former celebrity online dater is knocked up

Amy Schumer has found love and is starting a family! She announced her pregnancy in a super adorable and politically savvy way. Congratulations Amy – and watch out Markle – you’ve got competition. Check out her baby announcement here! 

The real reason people stay in bad relationships

For a long time we thought that people stayed in bad relationships because they had a fear of being single. According to two new studies, there may be a different reason. Damona breaks it down in today’s episode.

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What your sex fantasies say about you

Henry Lehmiller, a sociologist and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, did a study on American fantasies and found that our fantasies have a lot to do with our personality. Damona and Producer Leah discuss what this study says about you.

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HALLOWEEN HORROR STORIES

Today Damona and Producer Leah heard from you about your worst dating experiences. Thank you to Tavishya, Troy, Amber, Brett Allen of the Open Mic Podcast, and the amazing Karrine Steffans for sharing their experiences! These are not your average Halloween Horror Stories. These stories include: 

  • Fireworks and Muggles
  • Men who sing about barbecue
  • The old gas money trick
  • And a blind date who needs a ride…from the airport

Do you have a dating horror story we haven’t heard yet? Tweet us or let us know in the comments below!

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