Dating Safety & You’ve Got Mail

IT’S NATIONAL CYBERSECURITY AWARENESS MONTH!

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In honor of #CybersecurityAwarenessMonth, we’ve got important tips on how to date safely in today’s online dating climate. Evin Rose, dating and love life transformation coach for millennial women, returns to co-host this week’s episode. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (3:07)

Ariana gave back the ring, but kept the pig

Ariana and Pete Davidson have called it quits, TMZ reports. Even though this isn’t surprising, we are sad for them. Ariana has been going through a lot, but Pete’s comedy may have something to do with the split. Do you think that his jokes go too far?

Hillary Clinton defends Bill Clinton’s affair

Hillary Clinton is in hot water this week after defending Bill’s affair with Monica Lewinsky. According to Hillary, Bill’s affair was not an abuse of power because Monica was an adult. We have thoughts.

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Has anyone ever told you that you look like your BF? 

You’re not the only one. According to the HuffPost, there is an actual scientific reason why. Damona and Evin look into the Theory of Assortative Mating and explain why Brad Pitt looks like every one of his girlfriends. 

Dating App algorithms are limiting your options

Some apps are filtering out your matches based on race, according to the Chicago Tribune. In this episode, Damona and Evin tell you why this happens and what you can do to broaden your options.

DATING SAFETY (17:28)

For dating safety tips we welcomed Elise Oberliesen, LA times contributor and author of the Times’ article 7 safety tips to remember for online dating. Damona, Evin, and Elise talked about:

  • Dating Scams and Dangerous Online Dates
  • Dating Safety Tips
  • When to be cautious
  • Red Flags to look out for
  • Listening to your intuition
  • How to tell your if match is a catfish
  • What to do before you meet in person
  • When to give out your contact info?
  • If you met online, should you go home with them on the first date?
  • How online etiquette has changed since #MeToo

This is one segment you don’t want to miss. While catfish situations and dating scams aren’t the norm, it’s important to always be in the know about what you need to look out for. Like Elise says, remember to always listen to your intuition and if a date seems too good to be true, then it’s time to be cautious.

TECHNICALLY DATING  (37:30)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Should you ask your college professor out?
  • What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you he’s asexual?
  • What do you do when you want your husband to be more spontaneous?

ROMANCE ROLLBACK (46:03)

Did you know that online dating had it’s origins in the 60s? Even before Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan made online dating popular in You’ve Got Mail, people started the online dating trend with something called “computer dating”. Damona gives us a dating history lesson.

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Cuffing Season & Swipe With Spirit

#CUFFINGSEASON IS HERE!

If you’re looking to cuddle up with a new boo this fall, we have tips to make that relationship last through Valentine’s Day and beyond. Dominique Clark – Relationship Guru, Author, and Media Personality – joins today’s episode and gives us tips on how to find a quality match in these colder months. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH (2:12)

The best way to find out what your ex thinks of you

Katie Miller, a 21 year old college student, went viral this week with the exit survey she sends to all of her dates. Would you send something like this to your dates? This isn’t our style, but it definitely gets the job done.

 

Surprising secret to a happy relationship from Kaley Cuoco

The Big Bang Theory’s Kaley Cuoco stresses the importance of independence in her relationship in this month’s interview with Women’s Health. However, some of her advice may go a little too far. Damona has thoughts.

Sneaters Beware: we’re on to you

Have you ever gone on a date just for the free meal? MetroUK gives us the term for this: Sneating. When is sneating okay and how can you avoid sneaters? Damona and Producer Leah discuss.

#LevelUp (14:17)

The #LevelUpChallenge lives on! Ciara’s summer hit applies to your cuff game, too, ladies and gents. Damona and Dominique break down how you can level up this cuffing season on today’s episode. We talked about a lot:

  • Cuffing Season & Cuffing Buddies
  • Are men looking to be cuffed?
  • Being Single during the holidays
  • Our biology and human connection
  • Snack Relationships
  • Level Up and find a Quality Match
  • How to empower yourself to find a match
  • Perfection and Honesty
  • Getting to know someone and when to share
  • Texting
  • Long Distance Relationships & Making Plans

Dominique raises some really great points about perfection and honesty in this chat. Here is one of the many moments that we loved in this talk with Dominique:

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Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Is it normal to have commitment issues?
  • When should you post pics of your partner on social media?
  • On what date should you have sex?

SWIPE WITH SPIRIT (41:50)

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Gender Identity & Astrology of Love

IS LOVE IN THE STARS FOR YOU THIS FALL?

Carol Allen, from Love Is In the Stars, co-hosts this week’s episode. Carol is an astrologer who steers the love lives of many women based on what is written in the stars. Today on the show, she gives us a fantastic fall love forecast and joins us to talk about gender and sexuality because she has a personal connection to this topic through a close transgender family member who she’s supported through his transition. Together with our guest panel, Damona and Carol unpack what your dating life can learn from the experiences of those who have a different sexual orientation or gender identity than you do.

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Why are divorce rates going down?

Thanks millennials! According to Time, a recent study shows that divorce rates dropped 18% from 2008 to 2016 and this is due mostly to the lower divorce rates among millennials. Is it really all that surprising that millennials are divorcing less than generations before them? We don’t think so.

What can you learn from Gen Z daters

According to a study done by the dating app Zoosk, there are a number things that Gen Z does right when it comes to dating. Gen Zers are the least picky daters and swipe right on 33% of the matches they are presented with. How can this help you and what else can you learn from this study? We have answers.

Your childhood faves have a new relationship status!

It’s been a few weeks since former Sesame Street writer, Mark Saltzman, confirmed that Bert and Ernie are indeed a gay couple. The official Sesame Workshop says differently, however. Does it matter whether Bert and Ernie are gay? Does representation matter – even in kids programming? Or are we taking the puppet relationship dynamic too far? The discussion heats up this week.

IDENTITY, SEXUALITY, AND GENDER

Sexuality and Gender Identity: Are they fixed or fluid? How do you know if the way you’ve been living or dating might be limiting your possibility of finding true love and happiness? We sat down with Jasmine Luna and Harry Caldwell to learn more about their experience.

Jasmine Luna is your average queer, transgender, latinx witch. She is a strong advocate for her queer community, which includes work at the Trevor Project and the Los Angeles LGBT Center.

Harry Caldwell is a Jewelry Designer, Yoga Instructor, and Tantra Instructor. He has identified as Pansexual for the last 15+ years and feels compelled to share his knowledge of the energy of love with everyone he encounters in order to reduce the amount of suffering in the world.

We talked about A LOT:

  • Pansexuality, Omnisexuality, Bisexuality, Transexuality
  • Transitioning
  • What it’s like Transitioning within a relationship
  • Pronouns & Identity
  • Mixed Raced Identity & Sexuality
  • Tantra & Unifying the Masculine and Feminine Energies within us
  • Dating in Los Angeles versus other cities
  • How to maintain outgoing mentality towards dating apps
  • Hookup Culture and Pansexuality
  • Making Love & Deep Intimate Connection
  • The Trevor Project
  • Panty Hose
  • Chickens

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Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • Is it normal to be dating multiple people online?
  • How can you tell if they’re busy or blowing you off?

FALL LOVE FORECAST

Carol Allen gives us the scoop on what the upcoming #VenusRetrograde means for your love life.

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Man School & The Guy Spy

What does #MeToo mean for your love life? 

Jonathan Aslay, The Guy Spy, returns to co-host this week’s episode of Dates and Mates. Jonathan is America’s leading Midlife dating and relationship coach and author of Unlocking the Male Mind, Finding Love Online and Why Men Pull Away. Damona and Jonathan interview Matthew Solomon, author of Man School: Relating to Women in the #MeToo Era, and breakdown how we can better relate to each other in today’s dating environment:

D’S DATING DISH (2:20)

Kourtney Kardashian dates younger men. Why don’t you?

Spotted: Post-breakup Kourtney Kardashian out on not one, but TWO dates with men 20 years her junior. This month we’ve seen Kourtney rebounding from breakup with Younes Bendjima (26) with Grownish star Luka Sabbat (20) and a yet to be named Younes look alike. Do you date younger, too? 

What secrets is your sexual partner keeping from you?

HuffPost reports that Three in Four people with an STI haven’t told their sexual partners about it. Why are so many people keeping it a secret? We have some insight.

Is love making you fat?

According to Men’s Health, the average person gains 36 pounds in a relationship. 17 of those pounds are gained in the first year of the relationship. The reasons people gain this weight may surprise you!  

Man School (16:40)

Today we welcome Matthew Solomon, author and empowerment coach specializing in communication & relationships. Matthew has always had a passion for equality and understanding, which is evident in his work as an author, coach and filmmaker. Damona and Jonathan sit down with Matthew and take a closer look at Man School: Relating with Women in the #MeToo Era. They talk about:

  • How #MeToo changed the way we date
  • How to make a women feel comfortable when you approach her
  • Toxic Masculinity
  • The Friend zone
  • Porn
  • How to pick up chicks
  • Tantra
  • Chivalry

Whether you’re a man or a woman, this book is an excellent read and has a lot of great lessons on how we can better relate to each other in today’s dating environment.

TECHNICALLY DATING (41:56)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • How to get your man to crave more sex with you
  • When is it time to have that “DTR” talk?

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Yoga For Love & Textationships

Hello Lovers, Happy #NationalYogaAwarenessMonth!

This week Rebecca Benenati joins us to co-host a special episode dedicated to Yoga Awareness Month. Rebecca is a certified doula and yoga instructor who is Damona’s teacher and was also her doula in childbirth. Rebecca’s created a large community through Wellborn Lifestyles which offers birth support and soon also yoga classes in Los Angeles. Today Damona and Rebecca discuss how yoga can shift the way you date and improve your relationship:

D’S DATING DISH (2:21)

Does your partner have the seven qualities relationship experts say you need for a lasting relationship?

This week relationship experts told us the 7 Qualities Your Partner Should Have By The Time They’re 30. Do you really need to have these qualities by 30? How does your partner measure up? Damona and Rebecca have thoughts. 

Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose give great co-parenting advice

Have you seen this video of Wiz brushing Sebastian’s hair? Great Parenting! Amber and Wiz’s relationship goes to show that you can co-parent after an ugly breakup. Damona and Rebecca discuss Amber Rose’s surprisingly simple co-parenting tip.

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Could your job be hurting your chances at finding love on Tinder?

Tinder has released the most right swiped professions in the US and the UK! Does Tinder think your job is sexy? Find out on today’s show.

YOGA FOR LOVE (17:46)

Damona and Rebecca give us an in depth look at the benefits of yoga for your love life:

  • How yoga can benefit your relationship
  • Getting started with couple yoga
  • Having Grace in a challenging situation
  • How to navigate finding love after divorce
  • How yoga helps women communicate with their partners

TECHNICALLY DATING (33:26)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here are the topics we answered this week:

  • How to stop going for unavailable men and long-distance relationships?
  • How to meet someone special if you’re always working?
  • How to tell if someone likes you in a romantic way?

 

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (41:50)

Are you stuck in a “textationship”? A textationship is a relationship that is essentially text only. Here’s the bad news: Textationships rarely move forward and actually hurt your chances of finding a real relationship. Damona gives us us some much needed tough love and honesty about how to move past your textationship.

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What Women Want & Seeking Arrangement

Are you confused about what women want?

Evin Rose, dating and love life transformation coach for millennial women, co-hosts this week’s episode of Dates & Mates. Last week, we dove deep into the mind of men and figured out what the guys are really thinking. Now it’s the ladies’ turn! Today Damona and Evin sit down with a panel of single women to figure out what women really want. Here’s the rundown:

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Why is it so hard to turn a Tinder date into a relationship?

Research from Michigan State University indicates that couples who meet online are 28% more likely to split up within a year. What makes these relationships different? What expectations should we have for Tinder dates? Damona and Evin discuss.

Put your best foot forward

Picking a first date outfit can be a lot of pressure. This week, MamaM!a published a few suggestions for your first date outfit. Damona and Evin give you some suggestions on how to show off your personality.

Are sugar babies bad for feminism?

SeekingArrangement now has over 3 million users worldwide and the numbers are growing. The average Sugar Baby is 25 and makes about 2800 a month from her Daddies. What are the biggest misconceptions about Sugar Baby and Sugar Daddy/Mommy relationships? Are these relationships actually empowering for Sugar Babies? Damona and Evin have thoughts.

 

WHAT A GIRL WANTS

Last week, the men told us what really goes on in their head. This week, the ladies got a turn. Today we sat down with Rebecca Bernard and Nelly Dennis to get some answers on what women really want. Here’s what we covered:

  • Men on dating apps & the riffraffery
  • The worst DMs
  • Do you right swipe when you see someone you know?
  • What do you do when married men proposition you?
  • Pick Up Lines
  • Courtship & Chivalry
  • Should women make the first move?
  • Who pays on the first date?

You know the drill, fellas. They’re single, ready to mingle, and open for DMs. (Please, no dick pics, thanks.)

 

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Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here are the topics we answered this week:

  • Should you tell your dates that you’re seeing other people?
  • How do you ask your partner for a threesome?
  • How to get over anxiety over asking women out.

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE

This week we remember Mac Miller and send condolences to his family, friends, and Ariana Grande. Today on Damona’s diatribe, Damona has a message for those who are in relationships with a person struggling with addiction.

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The Mind of Men & Dating App Stats

Hello Lovers, ever wonder what single men are thinking? We’re back this week and we brought answers!

Brett McGinn, hopeless (read: hopeful??) romantic and relationships guru of Love F*cking Sucks returns to co-host this week’s episode of Dates & Mates. Today Damona and Brett sit down with a panel of single men to get some REAL answers on what men want and we get one step closer to demystifying modern romance. Here’s the rundown:

D’S DATING DISH

Get a match with the help of statistics

It’s statistics season for the dating apps! OkCupid and Plenty of Fish took a peek at your profile and conversations and gave us the statistics on who gets the most matches. Today we explain what this means for you. Do you know that profiles with the OkCupid ACLU badge have 10% more conversations? How should you craft the perfect first DM? What emojis should you NEVER use in a DM?

The WORST kind of relationship for your health

Maybe Carrie & Mr. Big shouldn’t be your #relationshipgoals? Science Daily wants you to know that on again off again relationships are BAD for your mental health. Damona and Brett explain why.

John Krasinski is the best dad ever

This week, John Krasinski made headlines for parenting and working at the same time. Does he deserve all the praise he’s getting? We have thoughts.

WHAT SINGLE MEN WANT

This week we invited a panel of single men to give us insight into what they’re looking for. Today we covered:

  • The best dating platforms
  • How is the dating different after weight loss transformations?
  • Why is everyone so bad at flirting?
  • What qualities are attractive to men?
  • Should you have a type?
  • What is an automatic swipe left?
  • Sex Parties & “Bill Clinton Intimacy”
  • How do you know if a woman is different?
  • Who pays for dates?

Ladies, they’re single, ready to mingle, and open for DMs. So slide away.

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Here are the questions we answered:

  • What are the best dating apps for men?
  • Are premium memberships worth it?
  • Should a lady have sex with her man – even if she’s not in the mood?
  • How can you get your woman in the mood?

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