This week we sat down with Barry Selby, a relationship attraction expert who helps strong successful women get what they want. It’s a lot easier than you might think.  Here’s the rundown:


How racial differences can impact your relationship

In case you missed it, Michelle Williams and her fiancé, Chad Johnson, had a rocky week. On their new show, Michelle revealed that Chad doesn’t understand how she communicates because he’s not black. Chad retaliated with comments her mental health. Damona and Barry break it down how racial difference and communication can impact your relationship.

Your new first date spot

Bustle reports this week that Bumble is launching BumbleSpots- verified safe and comfortable places where you can meet up with your Bumble matches. Do we really need Bumble to help us meet IRL? Barry and Damona discuss.

How your mom is ruining your dating life

Damona and Barry examine a new study published in the multidisciplinary journal PLoSOne which showed that people whose mothers have been married multiple times or have lived with multiple romantic partners are more likely to do so themselves.


At Dates & Mates, we LOVE hearing men’s perspectives on dating. This week we invited Barry Selby to break down how you can get what you want by balancing Masculine and Feminine. We talked about A LOT:

  • Messages from the Masculine
  • The Masculinization of Women & its impact on dating
  • The Balance of Masculine & Feminine
  • Dropping the Handkerchief & Dating Apps
  • Knowing when to advocate for yourself & When to play it cool
  • 50 Ways to Love Your Lover
  • Love & Chemistry
  • Self Love
  • Barry’s Mirror Meditation Trick

Barry Selby dropped LOTS of truth on this episode. Be sure to to catch Messages from the Masculine with Barry Selby on Facebook or get Barry’s meditation at


Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • How to handle your boyfriend’s meddling mom
  • Should you reveal to your crush how you feel about him if he’s already moved to a different state?
  • How to deal with your boyfriend’s manipulative ex


This holiday season, let’s focus on listening. Damona closes the show with a diatribe about conflict resolution and communicating better with your significant other.


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