WOULD DATING BE EASIER IF WE WERE MORE BODY CONFIDENT?
Is it time you got your mojo back?
We get REAL on Dates & Mates this week. Damona says, “Some days I don’t feel great about my body. Maybe you can relate? But I figured that if I opened up and faced my true feelings about my body image, it might help you and I become more body positive together.”
We sat down with Dana B Meyers, the Queen of Mojo Makeovers, and Laurie DiBiasio, CEO of Babe You Lingerie, to talk about body confidence and self love.
This episode is all about:
Finding body confidence at every life stage or size
Building sensuality with another person
Spicing up your Love Life (don’t worry, it doesn’t get graphic and uncomfortable)
Here’s the rundown:
Damona’s Story (1:30)
Body Positivity is hard at any age
Your partner wants you to love your body as much as they do (7:30)
Stop deflecting compliments! (8:30)
Dana’s method to transforming NEGATIVE BODY BANTER into a SEXY SELF LOVE AFFIRMATION (9:45)
“If I just lost 10 pounds, I will find love” (16:00)
Building sensuality with another person (19:00)
Especially if you’ve been out of the game for a while or if you and your partner need to spice it up
Choose Babe You! With Laurie DiBiasio (33:00)
Why Lingerie should be visible (34:00)
The hourglass shape has historically been the most desirable shape (36:00)
Do things change when you see someone in a more intimate situation for the first time? (38:00)
We like feeling beautiful – not just for other people! (43:00)
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Right now, women have all the power online – at least that’s how EZ Dating Coach, Mike Goldstein sees it.
Here’s the rundown:
DATING DISH (2:30)
How to tell if you’re dating a cheater
According to Dr. Lurve (LOL), cheaters have 3 very specific personality traits. Damona and Mike break it down.\
What The Weeknd’s breakup with Bella Hadid tell us about love today
Is modern love dead? Damona and Mike have thoughts.
The latest dating trend among Ivy League students
The newest study on love amongst these Ivy League undergrads is raising some eyebrows – mainly Damona’s and Mike’s.
YOU have all the power (19:00)
Is dating a quantity over quality game?
Mike Goldstein, tells us that the tides have turned and explains why women are in control in today’s online dating climate.
As dating coaches, we often see two typical behavior patterns in our clients:
1) Men go for quantity. They don’t do much research upfront about their matches and wait later on in the process to weed out potential partners.
2) Women look for quality. We like to make sure that each match is going to be worth our time.
Mike and I had a GREAT debate on his special formula to get women in a masculine dating mindset. This episode might actually BLOW YOUR MIND.
We talk:
How men fall in love
Mike’s special formula to get women dating in a masculine mindset
How women control the pace of a relationship
Don’t discard the guys who fall in love too fast, keep them around
And so much more!
Find Mike at EZdatingcoach.com and on YouTube! Make sure to get his FREE GIFT – A guide on how to text men during the day here!
TECHNICALLY DATING (40:16)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
How can you find love if you’ve never had ANY contact with the opposite sex?
Is it impossible to find love over 50?
Is it too soon to date after a breakup?
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ARE THE NEW RULES OF CONSENT ACTUALLY MAKING DATING DIFFICULT?
Continuing with the theme of the week on Dates & Mates, we’re talking about how consent has evolved immensely in the last year.
Joining us to break it down is Erin Tillman, AKA The Dating Advice Girl!
DATING DISH (2:30)
Your mindset is preventing you from finding love
New research on the science of relationships shows that people who are looking for their “predestined match” have a harder time finding love. Damona and Erin have some conflicting feelings about this one.
The ONLY way to get over a breakup
According to Cosmo, the No Contact Rule is the only way to get over a breakup. Damona and Erin explain.
Is he a peacocking pick up artist?
Erin educates us on one of the biggest tricks in a pickup artist’s book.
CONSENT: THE NEW NORM (22:00)
Do you have to ask consent to kiss someone?
How do you ask consent without making it awkward?
WHAT EVEN IS CONSENT???
These awkward conversations are now more necessary than ever. We also talk:
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
How can I have an easier time in an interracial relationship in the future?
Have you found that cheating is just a commonplace thing now?
What is the secret to dating in Atlanta as a successful woman? Dating apps haven’t been fruitful.
DATES & MATES DEALS: #KEEPITCUTE
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Surprise! We dropped a new bonus episode to break down Match’s 2019 Singles In America Study.
Here are some important takeaways:
This is the best time in history for a woman in love (3:00)
Did Me Too make dating more challenging? (4:00)
The stats say: men want women need to initiate more (5:45)
What women HAVE to do to prove they are an equal partner (6:30)
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9 Experts Share Their Very Best Piece of Online Dating Advice
Online dating is so ingrained in our cultural dating roadmap that it isn’t so much a question of whether you want to start online dating as when you’re going to give it a try. Maybe you’re just dipping your toe in the waters, maybe you’re back on apps after a breakup, or maybe you’ve been doing it forever and suspect you could be having a better time of it.
If you aren’t sure where to begin, what “rules” you’re supposed to follow, or are looking to get more matches, check out these nine experts’ number-one piece of advice for online dating. We could use all the help we can get, right?
Put yourself into a dating mindset
“When building your profile and looking for potential dates, your mindset should follow what you’d like the outcome to be. Whether you’re looking for a long-term relationship, a hookup, or something in between, let your mind consider the result you wish to achieve so that your profile vocabulary and tone match.” —Sunny Rodgers, ACS, clinical sexologist and certified sexual health educator
Don’t be timid
“Be entirely yourself rather than projecting a more muted version of yourself. The more that you show your personality, the more the other person gets an idea of what a relationship with you would be like. You might as well jump in immediately!” —Gabrielle Alexa, sex and dating writer
Be and put yourself first
“We all want a flattering photo that peaks the maximum number of people’s interest. Go ahead and choose that picture, but recognize that it’s a slippery slope. There is a temptation to create or communicate a [version of] you that, like an Instagram post, will garner the most likes. Do not contort yourself to fit what you presume others desire. In your mind, put your wants first. Use Tinder to communicate what you actually desire, so you can find someone you truly like.” —Wednesday Martin, Ph.D., author of “Untrue: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Infidelity Is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free”
Stop looking for your perfect match
“We know it sounds counterintuitive, but you read this right. Online dating makes it easy to filter people based on what’s worked for you before (or what hasn’t) and create an impossible mold of what you think is your perfect match. The problem is that eventually your matches all either seem to blend together and you lost interest, or you run out of options. Keep an open mind, and try [Liking] someone who isn’t your usual type. You might find that your ‘type’ isn’t as important as you thought.” —B+L, co-hosts of “Not Your Girlfriend’s Podcast”
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Today on the fourth episode in the Summer Love Series, we are talking about the search for soulmates. Do they exist? How do you know if you’ve found your soulmate?
Marla Martenson, The Mystical Matchmaker, joins Damona to debate these questions. Here’s the rundown:
D’S DATING DISH
Why millennials are into slow love and you should be too
According to Damona’s personal fav, Dr. Helen Fisher, the road to marriage is changing. Damona and Marla Martenson break it down.
Are you guilty of these summer fashion faux pas?
Damona and Marla have thoughts on this list from Plenty of Fish.
Everything you need to know about soulmates and how to find them!
You know Damona. She’s a little skeptical about the whole soulmates concept, but we really liked a lot of the thoughts that Marla contributed to the conversation.
Even if your soulmate does exist, are you going to be prepared to receive their love?
From Marla’s perspective, you have to be open to working on yourself in order to attract the love you are looking for. Even if your soulmate is sitting right in front of you, you won’t be able to truly connect with them until you have healed from your past relationship traumas and are ready to love.
How do you heal? Marla has some interesting suggestions on today’s episode! We also talk:
Breaking down the mysticism of “soulmates”
Are you attracting the wrong kind of dates?
How does mystical matchmaking work?
And so much more!
Whether you’re single or in a relationship, you don’t want to miss this episode!
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Should you date a girl who’s a little woo woo and is vegan?
How do you get back in the dating game?
What do you do if your girlfriend is ready for marriage but you aren’t?
Lovers, it’s the first official week of summer! Welcome to the first official episode of the Dates & Mates Summer Love Series.
The topic this week? First Dates.
First dates are the foundation of every great relationship. The tone and the rules you set at the beginning will follow you into the relationship or squash the potential for one to develop. In this master class, Damona tells you how to plan the perfect first date. Here’s the rundown:
Why are first dates so important? (1:30)
Should I google my date before I go? (2:00)
The Phone Call (4:00)
What should wear on a first date? (8:00)
What’s a good thing to do on a first date? (13:00)
How long should a first date be? (16:00)
7 Date Ideas BETTER THAN A DINNER DATE (21:00)
STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?
Get Damona’s First Date Starter Kit. You get advice on:
The one thing you should ALWAYS always ALWAYS do before a first date.
How to ensure a second date if you like the person you’re on a first date with
And conversation tips to make sure it never falls flat or feels boring – crucial first date advice
It also has an audio program that shows you 7 different ways to make a match and how to maximize their effectiveness
This is perfect for anyone who feels like they’re burnt out on dating apps and need new ways to meet people
Or if you feel like you’re doing everything you can to make a match but it’s simply not working
This concise program is packed with actionable advice and in it I will teach you all the steps that I’ve used with my clients over the last 13 years to bring them more dates, and better quality dates
And all the crucial steps you need to take before, during, and after to set yourself up for dating success.
Do all the people you like on a first date never seem to call again?
Do you find yourself getting tongue-tied or overwhelmed on a first date?
Are you bored with your first dates and feeling like you’re running out of options?
We talk a lot about how much dating has changed since Damona began her career as a dating coach. Who remembers when online dating was brand new?
Even we couldn’t have predicted the changes that the dating technology ecosystem has seen even in the last year. We want you to be as prepared as possible for upcoming trends so you can stay ahead of the dating game.
This week, Damona talks about the future of modern love with the people who make decisions in the dating app landscape. This short format episode features an in-depth interview with Geoff Cook, CEO and co-founder of The Meet Group, and Evin Rose, Millennial Love Life & Dating Coach, on dating app trends to look out for. Here’s the rundown:
D’S DATING DISH (0:58)
Your Next Dating App: Instagram
Honey Australia reports that singles who use the hashtags #strongandsingle and #happilysingle might get a few extra DMs from potential dates. Should you mix Instagram and dating? Damona and Evin Rose have thoughts.
YOUR DATING FUTURE (5:58)
If you aren’t familiar with the Meet Group, they are responsible for a lot of cutting edge dating apps that are popular worldwide, like MeetMe, Lovoo, Skout, and so many others. As an expert entrepreneur, business strategist, Ernst & Young Entrepreneur of the Year Award Winner for the Philadelphia Region, Geoff Cook is the man to give us the facts on the business and trends involved with the dating app tech landscape.
Lately, we have noticed that there is a trend to mix dating with other aspects of your online persona. Listeners often ask: Should you integrate your social media into your dating profile?
For Evin Rose this seems like a no brainer. “When we get someone’s last name, we immediately go look them up anyway on social media to try and get a sense of who they are,” she says. “I think there really is something to finding other ways to connect with people virtually.”
It does seem like a complete no brainer. But why are some having such a hard time blurring these lines?
Geoff has a really good explanation. “People like to express different aspects of their identities via the brands they use.” he says. You might share your workplace version of yourself on Linkedin, and your family friendly version of yourself on Facebook, but your dating persona – the most extroverted and fun version of yourself- is reserved for your dating apps usually.
“That’s partially why it’s strange to be hit up on Facebook or a network where most of your interactions are not for that,” he says. “I think it’s tough to walk that privacy line.”
There is absolutely something to be said for protecting your social media from your dating life. HOWEVER, if we just shut down these new possibilities entirely, we might miss a good opportunity to find love.
So maybe next time someone slides into those DMs, see where it goes and let us know!
We talk about sooo much more on this episode about future trends in dating including:
Is live streaming the key to finding your next match?
Integrating human connection back into online dating
Is this match a real human?: Sorting through multiple realities on dating apps
Podcasts: The new predictors for compatibility?
And so much more!
ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?
There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com
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As a dating coach for 13 years, Damona has seen shifts in dating trends and watched as women become more empowered in their dating lives. How do these things impact women’s dating destiny? Internationally renowned matchmaker and TV personality Carmelia Ray returns to co-host this episode with lots of insight on how women and men relate to each other in 2019. Here’s the rundown:
D’S DATING DISH (2:45)
The surprising reason ARod’s relationship with JLO is a lot of pressure
HUGE Congrats to JLO and AROD who announced this month that they are engaged! Shortly after the engagement, ARod revealed why a relationship with JLo is a lot of pressure for him. Damona and Carmelia break it down.
New Trend Alert: Honeymoon Edition
This just in! Ditch your new spouse and go on the honeymoon of your dreams BY YOURSELF! Damona and Carmelia are not here for this new trend and they explain why.
Meet Your New Matchmaker: Your Fridge
Predicted right here on Dates & Mates! Refridgerdating has just launched allowing you to see into your match’s fridge before you decide to make a move. Damona and Carmelia have thoughts.
NOW IS THE BEST TIME IN HISTORY FOR WOMEN TO DATE (11:30)
In honor of Women’s History Month, Damona sits down with Robert Kandell, interpersonal communication expert who helps women and men relate to each other better in the #MeToo Era. We talked about A LOT:
Shifts in acceptable dating behavior for women & men
Dating Patterns
Dating in big cities vs dating elsewhere
Do women need men anymore?
FOMO and Investing in relationships
Women have a higher earning potential and don’t have to settle!
“Men are acting more like boys, and women are acting more like men.” – Robert Kandell
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Why are women choosing to stay single for longer?
What is the best way to date if you have decided to ditch dating apps?
HATE GYMS?
Damona always says that working out has greatly improved her relationship with her body. Begin a program with Beach Body on demand! Just go to DatesandMates.com and click the Beach Body Banner to get started.
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There is a lot more to communication than just the words you say. Damona sits down with Kim Seltzer, certified style, confidence, and dating coach, who has helped thousands of people find lasting love and connection using her unique “confidence makeover” process returns this week to talk body language.Here’s the rundown:
D’S DATING DISH
The hidden secrets of Miranda Lambert’s new hot cop husband
Miranda’s new husband makes scandalous headlines this week when his ex-fiance’s mother makes a HUGE announcement. Damona and Kim break it down.
The new and extreme way couples are making sure all their needs are met
Couples are now writing and signing contracts that detail everything from sex goals to off-limits fighting strategies to non-negotiable personal quirks. Is this too much?
Is this the end of dating apps as we know it?
Dating app registrations have dropped 485% since last year? What does this mean? Damona explains.
Body Language & Boundaries
If 93% of communication is nonverbal, are you sending the right message? Damona and Kim are joined by Silvy Khoucasian, marriage and family therapist known for her work with attachment styles and cross cultural communication. We talked about A LOT:
Attachment Styles
Creating Boundaries
Boundaries are the lifeline for a thriving relationship
Only giving out information when it’s earned
Damona and Kim’s tips for the BEST first impression
How culture plays a part in relationship roles
How knowing your attachment style now can prepare you to meet your perfect match
And so much more!
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Should you keep dating someone if you don’t feel chemistry by the fourth date?
Should you just flat out ask someone out?
ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?
There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com
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To celebrate Black History Month, we talked about #blacklove on this week’s episode. This is a BIG discussion so Damona sat down with two couples who are living the principles of black love and what it means to them. Here’s the rundown:
D’S DATING DISH (2:39)
Should you pay to have your dating profile to be featured on Bumble or Tinder?
Bumble has just announced its new profile boost feature, Spotlight. Damona tells you why this feature is not worth your money.
A Star is Born IRL (kind of)
Offset made headlines this week at the Grammy’s for being obviously insecure in his relationship. Is it okay for Offset to be acting this way? Damona has thoughts.
Intimacy in America
Thank you to NonFiction Research for sending us their new study on intimacy in America? Did you know that 44% of Americans report dreaming of a deep connection in their sleep, then wake up to no such connection in their real life? Damona and Dr. Ryeal break it down.
#BlackLove
What exactly does Black Love mean and to whom does it apply? Enter Dr. Ryeal Simms, Monice Mitchell Simms, Ollie Gabriel, and Quené Forée to talk about their love stories and what we can learn from their relationships. For a long time, the concept of black love has been confined to such a small definition. We love that our guests this week were able to expand and explore new definitions and meanings with the Dates & Mates Community.
“It’s about self love first, and then family love, and then romantic love, and then overall community world love,” said Monice.
We talked about this and so much more:
Amazing Love Stories
Do you agree on the story of how you met?
Is your partner who you imagined they would be?
Who did you imagine you would end up with growing up?
What were your dating patterns growing up?
How traveling brings you closer together as a couple
We can all learn from the main principle of black love: Love as you are. Be yourself and let that attract your highest love to you. Don’t be afraid to fall in love if it doesn’t fit into the box you think your love should fit into.
“Love is Love,” said Quené. “Black love has its specific category, but of course you can always be an advocate for any type of love.”
TAKE THE TRIP OF YOUR LIFE WITH THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE
Enter to with the iLove Love Giveaway HERE. This could be you:
ARE YOU MISSING ALL THE GOOD MATCHES ONLINE?
There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com
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Are you facing another Valentine’s Day single? It’s not too late to change your luck in love. Damona specializes in helping people get unstuck in love fast and so does our co-host for this week, Dr. Diana Kirschner. In this very special Valentine’s Day episode we get you answers on how to change your dating destiny! Here’s the rundown:
LOVE IN 90 DAYS (1:41)
You may know Dr. Diana Kirschner from her PBS show or her best selling book, Love in 90 Days. Love in 90 Days has changed so many lives over the past 10 years that Dr. Diana has updated, re-released, packed it with even more advice on how to find love fast.
Dr. Diana’s three steps to finding love in 90 Days
Where most people go wrong in dating
Identifying self-sabotaging patterns that prevent you from finding love
Finding Self Confidence & Self Worth
Diamond Self Identity & The Radiant Beacon of Loving Guidance
Dating three people at once
How to make sure you don’t miss “The One”
And so much more!
Get the book and $1000 worth of BONUS content at LoveIn90Days.com
TECHNICALLY DATING (18:41)
This week we coach singles LIVE on air! We gave so much good advice so TAKE NOTES:
Why do we put so much pressure on our dates?
Where do you find people who won’t ghost you?
What do you do when someone wants to commit too fast?
Thank you to Marquis, Deb, and Lauren for coming into the studio and allowing us to give them guidance! Marquis, Deb, and Lauren are SINGLE and READY TO MINGLE, Ladies and Gents. Slide in those DMs!!
(But def use a better opening line than this^)
And don’t forget to submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show!
SPREAD THE LOVE THIS VALENTINE’S WEEK
A HUGE THANK YOU to Apple Podcasts for featuring us on the front page this week! We are one of a handful of podcasts included in their Valentine’s Week “In the Mood for Love” playlist! Do you love the Dates & Mates Podcast? If you do, please take a moment to REVIEW & SUBSCRIBE! The more subscribers and reviews we get, the longer we can continue to give all of this great dating content for free!
There are millions of people on dating apps worldwide. If you’re not finding love there, your profile may be the problem. Use Damona’s FREE guide to creating the ultimate MAGNETIC online dating profile. Get the Profile Starter Kit at profilestarterkit.com
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