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Game Dating & Hookup Culture

We had an extra jam-packed farewell show before we go on a one-month hiatus. Andrew Lee Miller of Match.com was first to join us, discussing the new dating app Crown. Then we got a chance to speak with Lea Rose Emery from Bustle, who shared her thoughts on dating, feminism, and hookup culture, in addition to answering listeners’ questions.

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The differences between how men and women fall in love

A recent study looked at how men and women fall in love, and there were some surprising results. For example, men typically say “I love you first,” but women tend to say it more often. You can find out about all the rest of what the study found out via Bustle here.

Another new dating trend

We like to keep you up to speed here at Dates & Mates, and we’ve got another slice of dating lingo to add to your vocabulary: Gatsbying. Gatsbying occurs when you put on a show on social media, but with only one special someone in mind. You can read more about it via Elite Daily here.

What makes men more attractive to women

Recently, a huge study about what women find attractive in men was conducted. Among the most desirable traits were presenting yourself as high status, growing a light beard, and playing complex music. You can read more via Science Alert here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (38:25)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

How to feel about your parents giving your boyfriend money
The best way to get busy at work

And many more . . .

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Single Moms & Summer Solstice

This week Damona got the chance to interview Rachel DeAlto, the relationship expert from the hit show Married at First Sight. She shared tips on flirting, dating after divorce, and more.

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Chris Pratt is dating The Governator’s daughter

Chris Pratt was recently spotted picking up Katherine Schwarzenegger for a romantic picnic, snapping shots of them all the while. The oldest daughter of Arnold and Maria Shriver, Katherine is an author and lifestyle blogger. Pratt split from wife Anna Faris in 2017, but seems to be ready to give love another shot. You can read more via Insider here.

Another new dating term for the summer

You know we like to keep our readers up-to-speed on the hottest new lingo, and we’ve got another one to keep your ears out for: freckling. Describing when you get involved with someone over the long, lazy summer nights but cut them out when it’s time to bring out the jackets come fall, you can read more via Independent here.

ABC’s creepy new dating show

The internet is a-blazin’ over The Proposal, ABC’s new reality dating show. A strange mix between The Dating Game and The Bachelor, contestants compete in “challenges” to “win” a proposal from an eligible bachelor or bachelorette live on air. The catch? They don’t meet them until the very end . . . You can read more via The Outline here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (32:40)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

The best way to go about long-distance love
If you can fall in love after a traumatic divorce

And many more . . .

HOLLYWOOD HOOKUP (44:54)

It’s Mary J. Blige’s turn for the Hollywood Hookup, as her divorce was finalized just last week. With a seeming preference for those in showbiz, we think she needs someone respectful, established, and mature. Listen to find out who Damona and Producer Thomas picked.

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Dating While Disabled & Pride Month

Our guest co-host this week was Christy Goldstein. The author of the new book Dating While Disabled, Christy stopped by to share her tips for dating with a disability or mental illness.

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Superstore and Survivor stars are dating

Superstore’s Nico Santos was recently confirmed to be dating Zeke Smith of Survivor! The cute couple posted a photo of them celebrating Pride just last week, and they’ve been photographed together at the GLAAD Awards and in Palm Springs earlier this year. You can read more via US Magazine.

Another roundup of dating terms

We like to keep you on the front-edge of new dating lingo, so we’ve got another collection of terms to report on, from “shaveducking” to “drafting” to “dationship.” You can read more via Mama Mia here.

The value of “sober dating”

Studies are in, and they confirm that nearly 37% of people drink before going on a date, with 50% enjoying two-to-three drinks while on the actual date itself. The long story short? This is a lot of booze, and you may be better off getting to know someone while in full control of your faculties. You can read more via Psychology Today here.

Women cheat to save their relationships

In a new study on women who cheat, it was determined that the vast majority do so in order to stay married, having certain needs met elsewhere while still acting as a wife and mother. You can read more via The Sun here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (33:45)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

How to handle feeling stuck with a narcissist fiance
How to approach a timid person when wanting to take a friendship to the next level
How to feel when your significant other says they’ll watch porn if you don’t send them nudes

And many more . . .

ROMANCE ROLLBACK (45:12)

In honor of Pride Month, we thought we’d use the Romance Rollback to explore the history of Pride and LGBTQIA rights in America.

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Breaking Up & Bouncing Back

Our guest co-host this week was Samantha Burns, the Millennial Love Expert. She discussed strategies from her upcoming book, Breaking Up & Bouncing Back, for overcoming the loss of a relationship and learning to love again.

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A Bustle study on the most frustrating parts of being single

Female Bustle readers aged 18 to 35 were asked about love and the biggest frustrations related to their relationship status. With surprising data on everything from what single women are focused on to how often they go on dates, you can read more via Bustle here.

How marriage changes your personality

A new study asked married couples about personality changes during the first 18 months of marriage. Asking about extraversion, openness to experience, conscientiousness, agreeableness, and neuroticism, you can read about the results via Huffington Post here.

Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas?

Though nobody thought to see this one coming, it would appear as if the Bollywood and boy band stars have a spark flying between them. You can read more via Channel News Asia here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (29:46)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

What to do if you keep getting requests for full body pictures
How to handle a crush on someone who is taken
What to do if you and your significant other don’t click via text

And many more . . .

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (45:49)

Damona has a lot of steam to blow off, and up this week in the crosshairs are those who continually ask why they’re single without doing anything to change . . .

Love Addiction & Dating Intuition

Our guest co-host this week was psychotherapist and life coach Sherry Gaba. She joined us to talk about her latest book, in addition to giving us tips on how to kick an addiction to love.

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Dating lowers self-esteem and increases depressions

In addition to the scientific fact that rejection stimulates the part of the brain that processes physical pain, online dating can also affect how we see ourselves. A recent study shows that individuals who use dating apps have lower self-esteem than those who don’t. Coupled with the fact that one in six participants admitted to being addicted to finding a date, 97% of men saying as much, and that 54% of women feel burned out by the whole thing, online dating and mental health may not be the best of friends. You can read more via CNN here.

Millennial couples are in no hurry to get hitched

If they millennial couples make it to the altar at all, they’re taking their sweet time! Nowadays it’s not uncommon to spend the better part of a decade dating before tying the knot, with the average time between 25-34-year-olds now at 6.5 years. The median age for men is now 29.5, with 27.4 for women. You can read more via Straits Times here.

Hip hop royalty dating rumors

Eminem and Nicki Minaj are looking like they may be an item, with a flirty Instagram comment making reference to the coupling, in addition to Em asking audiences at recent concerts how they’d feel about it. They’ve paired together in the studio before, do you think they can be a match in real life? You can read more via FOX News here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (30:08)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

What to do if your dating pool has shrunk after 50
What to do if you find compromising photos on your husband’s phone
How to react if you find out your boyfriend was abusive to an ex

And many more . . .

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (45:27)

Every once in awhile Damona gets a little riled up, and this week she saw fit to square up and face complainers head on.

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Feng Shui for Love & Flirting at Work

Our guest co-host this week was Inessa Freylekhman, a Feng Shui Master Trainer and licensed therapist. Inessa gave us tips on how to bring the energy of love into our homes and amplify the passion in a relationship using Feng Shui principles.

INSPIRATIONAL THOUGHTS (2:16)

In this new segment, Damona will be sharing some words of inspiration to start our show off on a positive foot and hopefully brighten your week. Up this week was synchronicity: notice what is coming up in your life repeatedly, and be sure to ask yourself why.

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Bad relationships are literally bad for your health

A new study from Keck at USC shows that the results of a bad relationship affect far more than your emotional state. With everything from weight gain to high blood pressure to literal heart attacks, it’s time to take care of any toxicity in your personal relationships before you feel the negative effects. You can read more via Forbes here.

The key to losing weight as a couple

If you’ve tried and failed at losing weight alongside your partner, a new study may shine some light as to why. The environment in which you’re losing weight is key, and partners can occasionally not be on the same page in terms of the best methods of support and encouragement. You can read more via Science Daily here.

Will Smith wasn’t single when he got with Jada Pinkett Smith

Waves rippled through the Hollywood world when Jada Pinkett Smith revealed in a recent interview that her husband Will Smith was married to another woman when they met. Although the relationship was effectively over, not everyone was a fan of Smith shacking up with a technically taken man. You can read more via Elite Daily here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (37:25)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

How to handle a co-worker that could be getting a little too flirty
How to tell your parents you’re bi
What to do if you can’t stop thinking about your ex with another man

And many more . . .

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Arranged Marriage & Facebook Dating

Our guest co-host this week was Puja Mohindra, creator of the webseries Geeta’s Guide to Moving On. Geeta’s discusses arranged marriages, moving on after a breakup, and how to find happiness in love. We got the chance to ask Puja more about the show and hear her valuable love advice during Technically Dating.

INSPIRATIONAL THOUGHTS (3:11)

In this new segment, Damona will be offering some encouraging words of wisdom to inspire you to live your best life and be your best self. Up this week was the topic of vulnerability.

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Facebook is launching a dating feature

Despite the recent bad press involving their data management, Facebook recently announced at a convention that they’ll be launching a dating app. While stocks in other dating app companies dropped, many feel as if this is not the right time to be asking Facebook to be handling even more sensitive personal information. You can read more via CNBC here.

Stanford publishes a study about the lies people tell on dating apps

Stanford researchers recently recruited 200 people who use dating apps and analyzed 3,000 messages during the “discovery phase” of online dating, when a match has occurred but both parties are still getting to know each other. Overwhelmingly, they discovered that people are actually honest on dating apps, with only 7% of messages containing explicit fibs. That said, a sizable amount tell “butler lies,” designed to tactfully initiate conversation or matching interests. You can read more via Stanford News here.

Katy Perry and Orlando Bloom are back on.

Katy recently made cryptic comments about being off the market, and it’s recently been confirmed that she’s rekindled the flame with ex Orlando Bloom. According to our sources, Bloom is madly in love with Perry and missed her during their split. You can read more via Elle here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (34:57)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

What to do if your boyfriend recently found out he has a daughter with an ex
How to handle a sexual attraction to your neighbor
How to tell you boyfriend you’re bi

And many more . . .

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Curly Hair Love & Budget Weddings

Our guest co-host this week was Bianca Renee. The Go-To Curly Hair Influencer, Bianca is a hair, beauty, and style personality on YouTube and the resident “girl with curls.” When not working on her renowned YouTube Channel, “Bianca Renee Today,” she works as a wedding and event planner and host.

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Ivana Trump says Vanessa will have trouble finding a new man

Ivana Trump, mother of Donald Trump Jr., Ivanka, and Eric, said that she’s not worried her son will have trouble finding a new beau after his split from Vanessa. As for Vanessa, however, she feels as if the baggage of five children will prevent her from being desirable. You can read more via Page Six here.

The Kanye West dating app is finally here

Good news for those loyal to Ye: you can now find those who share a similar passion for one of music’s most opinionated personalities. Yeezy.Dating, a “dating site for fans of the genius Mr. Kanye West,” has launched, and got so much traffic on its first day that it shut down and had to be reconfigured. You can read more via High Snobiety here.

The Allison Mack sex ring

It’s come to light that the former Smallville star was part of a sex cult called Nxium, responsible for bringing new women into the group. Under the guise of a female empowerment group, women were often asked to have sex with the 57-year-old leader of the group, Keith Ranere, and are even rumored to have been branded. You can read more via the New York Times here.

Bill Cosby found guilty

There was breaking news in the studio when the guilty verdict for Bill Cosby was announced. Found guilty on three counts of indecent assault, this is seen as a major victory for the #MeToo movement. You can read more via the New York Times here.

Six lies movies told you about dating

The movies play a large part in establishing the concept of love in pop culture. But what if we told you that there are several myths floating about thanks to Hollywood? Love at first sight, the man asking the woman out, you’ll have to read more via Insider to discover the whole list.

TECHNICALLY DATING (29:37)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

What to do if your boyfriend cheats
Whether or not you should friend a potential date on Facebook
How to handle long-distance love

And many more . . .

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (45:43)

Damona recently did a segment on HLN with Carol Costello about modern dating challenges. When the topic of ghosting came up, she was surprised to learn the general excuse is that “everyone does it.” That’s not cool, and Damona’s here to tell you why.

Beyond Betrayal & Sex Addiction

Our guest co-host this week was Dr. Kevin Skinner. Dr. Skinner is a licensed marriage and family therapist who is the co-founder of Addo Recovery, a clinic specializing in recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. He’s also the co-founder of Bloom, an online company for women struggling with the latter. We spoke with him about infidelity, relationship worry, sexual expectations, and much more.

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Elite dating apps threaten America’s wage gap

Elite dating apps are part of an old-school philosophy that believes courtship is partly an economic exercise and could be further driving a wedge between classes. Many of these apps favor those with college degrees, especially from elite institutions, but education-based matching moves in lockstep with inequality. You can read more via Bloomberg here.

John Cena and Nikki Bella break up

WWE star John Cena and Divas champion Nikki Bella have ended their six-year relationship and broken off their impending engagement. They were supposed to be married May 5th, but recent interviews suggested they may have been having problems. You can read more via Bleacher Report here.

The worst fashion mistake you can make on a date

The stats are in and 76% of millennials believe it’s important to dress up for a date. But be careful: 66% of singles don’t have any time for wrinkled clothes, with socks and sandals a close second. You can read more via Hello Giggles here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (32:00)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

How to stay happy in a long distance relationship
What to do if your boyfriend got another girl pregnant
How to handle a recycled engagement ring

And many more . . .

ROMANCE ROLLBACK (44:52)

Damona explores the Ancient Egyptian Ring of Infinity and how it led to today’s modern understanding of the wedding ring.

Millennial Dating & First Date Sex

Our guest co-host this week was Jamie Faye. An internationally certified dating and relationship coach, Jamie currently lives in Tel Aviv with her husband and helps coach individual and couples in their personal, romantic, and professional relationships, with a special emphasis on millennials.

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What is a mixed-weight relationship and why does it matter?

There’s recently been some discussion revolving around mixed-weight relationships, a relationship where there’s a notable difference in size between partners. Some find it a descriptor that can help you find power in labels, while others find it problematic and unnecessary. You can read more via Refinery29 here.

Device use can seriously impact relationships

A recent Kaspersky Lab study showed that 55% of couples argue about devices and their use. Though there’s a wide variety of specific reasons, the most common issue of contention is couples using a device while face-to-face with their partner. You can read more via Deccan Chronicle here.

Can you have sex on the first date in the age of #MeToo?

The conversation around sex and dating has seen some radical shifts: how about for as something as time-honored as the “three date rule”? Opinions vary, but there could be some benefit to getting hot and heavy early on in the relationship. You can read more via the Sydney Morning Herald.

TECHNICALLY DATING (33:07)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

What to do if you don’t feel like a priority after six months of dating
How to handle an ex that’s using Snapchat to keep tabs on you
How to know whether you should give up on a guy or not

And many more . . .

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (47:53)

Damona got something under her skin this week, so it was time for another Diatribe. Up on the chopping block this time around: those who don’t read beyond the headlines.

Mixed Race Relationships & Swiping Risks

Our guest co-host this week was Monique DeBose. Monique is an award-winning, multi-talented playwright, singer, and star of the critically acclaimed show Mulatto Math: Summing Up the Race Equation in America. She joined us to talk about interracial relationships.

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Do swiping rewards outweigh the risk?

According to a new study published by the Pew Research Center, 45% of those who met via online dating apps believe it’s a more dangerous way of meeting people than traditional methods. But then again, 79% of those polled also admit it’s the most effective way of finding a partner. You can read more via Deseret News here.

Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan split after nine years of marriage

The internet had its heart broken last week when Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan announced their split. Though they publicly stated it was a tender separation, there may be more to the story . . . You can read more via People here.

Dishes are the chore killing your relationship

Women in heterosexual relationships reported that if they do the dishes the majority of the time, they’re less satisfied in their relationship. Couple who trade off dish duties or strike a “You cook, I clean” rule were much happier. You can read more via Esquire here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (34:01)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

What to do if you don’t feel like a priority after six months of dating
What to do if you’re in love with your childhood best friend
How to handle a mom who doesn’t want you sleeping over at your boyfriend’s house

And many more . . .

DATING DOT DOT DOT (48:23)

We got Monique’s lightning fast love advice in another installment of Dating Dot Dot

_________ is always sexy
_________ is never sexy
The biggest red flag on a dating profile is_________
The most common first date mistake is _________
The most important quality in a wife is_________.
The most important quality in a husband is _________

Sexperts & Date Expectations

Our guest co-hosts this week were Tyomi Morgan-Najieb and Naim Najieb. Tyomi and Naim are life partners that work together to help couples with sex and love. Tyomi is an International Pleasure Coach and sexpert that aims to represent people of color in mainstream sexuality. Meanwhile, Naim is a love educator, entrepreneur, and author of the book Love Is Not a Game: A Manual for Loving Relationships.

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Dating app uses a team of moms to help its users with love

The dating app Inner Circle allows its users to get advice from a customer support team consisting of six moms, all of whom are married with children and believe that they’ve “conquered the dating game.” Users must be vetted by the team after analyzing social media profiles, but once you’re in, the moms will console you after breakups, give personalized tips on how to get more responses, and much more. You can read more via Mashable here.

Can you pick a partner based on voice?

A new app, Waving, has you swipe left and right based on a voice message. Men with lower voices and women with higher voices are typically found more attractive, but experts say that varying the tone of your voice is the most important. Nevertheless, some are skeptical that you can find love without an initial visual element. You can read more via Independent here.

Posture affects your results on dating apps

According to a Princeton study, expansive posture increases your success on dating apps. These kinds of stances suggest dominance and openness, which are seen as attractive. So for an easy boost in results, unfold those arms! You can read more via Independent here.

Vanessa Trump’s dating past

Vanessa Trump, soon to be Vanessa Hayden once the ink is dry on her divorce from Donald Trump Jr., was once attached to a Hollywood heartthrob. Sleuths have uncovered the fact that Vanessa was Leonardo DiCaprio’s beau in 1998 during the time Titanic came out. Though the publicist officially denied it at the time, several photos show them getting very cozy. You can read more via Elite Daily here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (34:42)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and BlackPeopleMeet.com, including:

What to do if the guy you just had sex with got back together with his girlfriend
How to feel about pets in the room while you’re having sex
What to do if you’re in it for love but he’s in it for sex

And many more . . .

DATING DOT DOT DOT (45:45)

We asked Tyomi and Naim for their lightning fast love advice in an installment of Dating Dot Dot Dot:

Who pays on a date?
Is it acceptable for a woman to be the breadwinner in a relationship?
Is it OK for a woman to propose?