This week, I talked to Ashley Uzer at Hello Giggles about communication and sex. Your partner is not a mind reader! You need to be open with them about what you need – especially when it comes to kinky sex.
You probably don’t pull out all your sexual stops on the first date, right? Same theory goes for rolling out your toolkit of kinky fantasies.
“Start with mentioning something that turns you on and then ask him how he feels about it, and if it’s something he’d be up for trying,” suggests Hoffman. “You don’t want to bring all 50 shades out the first time you have sex.”