How To Be Confident & Live Reconnected
HOW CONFIDENT DO YOU FEEL?
As things open up and we’re starting to have more interaction with people, the Dates & Mates team is hearing a lot of anxiety about finding the confidence to be social and also concern that the pandemic has put a lot of distance between us.
Dating coach and confidence consultant, Nick Notas is here to the rescue!
He is a dating coach who helps people strengthen life’s most important relationships and he’s going to give us some much-needed confidence.
But first we have headlines:
DATING DISH (1:34)
(1:37) The surprising way gossip helped Van Jones
The Internet has been buzzing with rumors that Kim Kardashian and CNN’s political commentator Van Jones are an item on the dating scene. Page Six reported that Jones and Kardashian’s friendship is partially linked to their work on criminal justice reform.
(3:07) Tinder keeps rolling out the good stuff – another new development that will completely revolutionize dating apps
CNBC reports that Tinder is launching a brand new social feature known as “Hot Takes”. This allows users to chat with someone before they match and is similar to speed dating. Tinder is even adding an Explore section within the app allowing users to discover matches by interests, activity or content type.
LIVE RECONNECTED (10:05)
Nick Notas is a dating and confidence coach for the last 13 years. He’s helped thousands of people conquer their fears, build genuine self-esteem, and develop charismatic social skills.
We’re so excited to share his very direct but compassionate method of coaching and hopefully it will challenge your way of thinking about of love and dating:
(10:49) Reconnected: How to strengthen your in-person communication with others in an age driven by social media. Get out of the texting loop!
Lead with Curiosity: Don’t try to imagine what the other person wants from you, tap into what makes you laugh and what makes you interesting
Cut your losses? I don’t think you should cut your losses before you’ve given an attempt. Always give one or two shots before you decide to walk away. Don’t be afraid of rejection.
(18:47) Insecure on the first date: Nick shares his thoughts on how to go on a first date with ease. Don’t overthink it!
(22:00) Disabilities & Natural Instinct: Pay attention to your date and if they are excited to be with you. It’s important for you both to be curious about each other.
(29:12) Feeling Confident in Yourself: Confidence means accepting who you are and who you aren’t and embracing that. It takes small steps of courage.
Get more of Nick Notas:
DEAR DAMONA (35:18)
Submit your questions on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
- (Anonymous) By the end of the first date, I’m already thinking about whether or not my parents and friend would like them. Then I get so disappointed when it doesn’t work out. How do I keep myself from getting too attached or thinking too far ahead?
- (Lisette) Hi Damona, my name is Lisette, and I’m from New Jersey. I have no children, and I don’t want any children. And it says that on my profile. It also says on my profile that I do not date men with children of any age. So regardless of that, being on my profile, I still get men that disregard that. That is a non-negotiable for me and they still match with me. So recently, I was called shallow because of that desire to date someone that doesn’t have kids. I’m just wondering what your take is on people, men or women who do not have kids and only want to date other people that don’t have kids. Is that really being shallow? Or just stating what I need to be happy in a relationship? Anyway, just to wrap up my message, I love the podcast, and it would be great if you could answer my question.
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