Main Character Energy & Moving Too Fast
Are you bringing “Main-Character Energy” to your dating life? A thriving dating life doesn’t just boost your joy; it lays the groundwork for lasting, meaningful relationships.
While we know it takes intentionality, many of you have asked about the steps in between. That’s why we have Lily Womble, host of the Date Brazen podcast, here today to share insights from her new book, “Thank You, More Please.” She’s on a mission to help singles navigate the dating world with eyes wide open and a little main-character energy. Plus, she will share when it’s time for a dating detox.
But first, we have the Dating Dish, which features Tinder’s new Green Flags Study on Dating Assumptions. Our Dear Damona question this week is: How fast is too fast when dating a new match? Let’s keep it positive as we kick off with the dish!
DATING DISH (1:36)
Tinder released a New Green Flags Study that uncovers some surprising dating truths.
Turns out, men and women actually want the same things in relationships more often than we thought. One surprising fact that the study highlights is that many women believe most men are seeking casual flings, but the reality is quite different.
Do we need to rethink our assumptions about gender roles in dating? Maybe! By focusing on genuine connections instead of outdated stereotypes, we can navigate the dating world more effectively and spot those all-important green flags.
12:23 Lily Womble
After moving to NYC in 2015 and starting as a matchmaker, Lily Womble quickly became a top matchmaker, setting up 399 dates.
In 2018, Lily founded Date Brazen, her dating coaching company, helping hundreds of women create joyful, resilient love lives with her intersectional feminist approach.
Today she also hosts the Date Brazen podcast and has just released her debut book, “Thank You More, Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love.”
14:00 Are Dating Apps a Scam?
Lily went viral in June 2022 with her TikTok video, “Dating Apps Are a Scam,” which sparked the creation of her book, “Thank You More, Please.”
As a former top matchmaker, Lily saw the emotional toll dating apps can take on users. She highlights how these apps are designed like games, which can lead to mindless swiping without intention.
Lily encourages us to approach dating apps with a clear plan and boundaries. By using them thoughtfully, we can protect our mental health and focus on building genuine connections.
22:10 Date with Main Character Energy
Lily shares how to date with “main character energy,” breaking it down into three key skills: permission, self-trust, and massive, messy action.
She explains, “Permission is a powerful tool to reclaim your agency.” By giving yourself permission to be imperfect, trusting what you want, and taking bold actions—even if they’re messy—you can transform your dating life.
Main character energy isn’t just for a select few; anyone can develop it. Embrace these steps to attract the right people and become unstoppable in your dating journey.
42:25 Do You Need A Dating Detox?
Damona and Lily explore the idea of a dating detox, which involves taking a break from active dating, avoiding bad dating advice, and addressing dating worries.
Lily emphasizes the benefits of a 30-day intentional pause to reset your mindset and calm your nerves. By detoxing from unhelpful advice and reframing negative thoughts, you can approach dating with a clearer, healthier perspective.
It’s all about being intentional and mindful to improve your overall dating experience.
Catch up with Lily on Instagram @DateBrazen and grab your copy of “Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love” today!
DEAR DAMONA (50:23)
Submit your questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, X, TikTok, or Facebook, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
IG message from Megan:
I met someone and we really like each other to the point of talking about being exclusive. We’ve only known each other for about 20 days, had eight dates. Everyone says this is fast. What are your thoughts? It feels a bit fast, but I’m also not concerned about it, and I’m excited to see where this goes.