Valentine’s Day can feel overwhelming with its focus on couples and traditional celebrations, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Whether you’re happily single, navigating a situationship, or celebrating with a partner or friends, this day is about your definition of love.
Forget the clichés and discover creative, refreshing ways to make this Valentine’s Day memorable, no matter your relationship status. Keep reading for inspiring ideas tailored just for you
For Couples Who Want to Reconnect and Celebrate Love
Romantic relationships need moments of connection. These ideas help couples prioritize their bond thoughtfully:
1. Plan a Candlelit Dinner at Home
Instead of battling restaurant crowds, create a romantic dinner date at home. Cook together, choose a meaningful recipe, or even attempt making new dishes you’ve never tried before. Add elements like candles, DIY place cards, or a shared playlist to build intimacy and coordination as a team.
2. Adventure Together Outdoors
Try hiking at a scenic spot, signing up for tandem rock climbing, or visiting a nature reserve. Couples wanting extra adrenaline can try zip-lining or a hot air balloon ride. Adventures not only strengthen bonds, but also bring out fun, refreshing sides of your partner.
3. DIY Mini Spa Night
Transform your bedroom into a relaxation retreat with facials for two, soothing massages, aromatherapy, and herbal teas. Use any downtime to share thoughts, making this a great wind-down moment while strengthening intimacy.
4. Revisit Shared Memories
Create a photo album or journal of your favorite moments. Couples often forget how small, shared joys keep relationships vibrant, so discussing these can help you reconnect deeply.
5. Starry Stargazing Date
Head to an open-air space for stargazing. Add hot cocoa, a blanket, and maybe even download a constellation app to track celestial formations. It’s personal, meaningful, and a perfect end to your celebrations.
For Situationships: Keep It Fun, Light, and Pressure-Free
Situationships thrive on casual creativity. These ideas balance light-hearted fun with room to explore connections together:
1. Host a Themed Movie Night
Decide on a theme like nostalgic rom-coms or indie horror films. Build your setting with cozy cushions, blankets, snacks, and even quirky pre-movie word games like character prediction.
2. Pick Cooking as the Adventure
Sign up for interactive classes locally or virtually. Culinary collaboration, even with basic skills, can nurture bonds and lots of laughs equally. Try learning a purely fun pastry (or dessert) this Valentine’s.
3. Casual City Museum Day
Explore art gallery installations or local events that don’t scream intensity. Wander privately between galleries; focus shifts from “label pressure” into discovering shared conversation responses indirectly.
4. Attend a Comedy Show or Open Mic
Catch a comedy show, improv night, or open mic event. Laughter is a powerful way to bond, and the shared experience helps take the awkwardness out of figuring out what to do on Valentine’s night.
5. Outdoor Adventure Date
Take it casual yet exciting with an outdoor activity like mini-golf, paddle-boating, or visiting a food truck festival. The key is to keep the atmosphere fun and easygoing, giving you time to enjoy the day without the weight of traditional expectations.
For Singles: Love Yourself First and Celebrate Independence
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romance. Use the day to celebrate you and prioritize self-care, growth, and joy:
1. Treat Yourself to a Self-Care Marathon
Start the day with a luxurious skincare routine, soak in a bubble bath with candles, and wear comfy pajamas. Follow up with your favorite movie and a meal you love—because you deserve it.
2. Explore New Adventures Solo
Visit a nearby town, take a nature walk, or explore a museum on your own. Use the day as a chance to connect with yourself and reflect on what makes you happy.
3. Dive Into a Creative Hobby
Rediscover your passions or pick up a new craft. Painting, writing, music, or adult coloring books are fantastic ways to tap into your inner creativity. End the day with a sense of accomplishment.
4. Go on a Bookstore & Coffee Date (with Yourself!)
Spend hours at a local bookstore, picking out books that excite or relax you. Pair this with a coffee shop moment to enjoy your new finds.
5. Splurge on a Gift for Yourself
Whether it’s a new gadget, a stylish outfit, or gourmet chocolate, buy yourself something you’ve been wanting. Valentine’s Day can be a reminder of how much you’re worth.
For Friends (Galentine’s Day): Celebrate Friendship with Joy & Connection
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for couples—it’s the perfect excuse to show your friends some love:
1. Host a Potluck Brunch
Invite your closest friends to bring their favorite dishes. Set the table with vibrant decorations and toast to shared laughs and memories. Bonus: Make themed heart-shaped foods.
2. DIY Craft Party
Gather supplies for candle-making, painting plant pots, or creating vision boards. Crafts work well for building light-hearted moments and cherished keepsakes.
3. Try a Cooking Contest
Divide into teams, assign a unique dish (appetizers, desserts, etc.), and compete in a friendly cook-off. Let the judging focus on fun and creativity, not perfection.
4. Plan a Movie Marathon
Watch irreverent comedies, nostalgic classics, or cheesy rom-coms. Prepare themed snacks (like popcorn with quirky toppings) to keep it festive.
5. Host an Outdoor Picnic
Fill a basket with charcuterie boards, desserts, sandwiches, or drinks. Bring yard games like frisbee or cards and enjoy a relaxing afternoon outdoors.
For Long-Distance Relationships: Thoughtful Ways to Show Love Across Miles
Long distance doesn’t mean the love isn’t felt. Try these creative ideas to make it meaningful, even from afar:
1. Plan a Virtual Movie Night
Use tools like Teleparty to sync a movie. Pair it with video chatting and your favorite snacks to make it feel like you’re experiencing the moment together.
2. Send a Personalized Care Package
Include their favorite snacks, small gifts, inside jokes, or even handwritten letters. Add something unique like a playlist or printed photos for a personal touch.
3. Cook the Same Meal Over a Call
Choose a new recipe to try and prepare it together while video chatting. Compare results and share laughs throughout the process.
4. Exchange Love Letters
Go old-school and mail handwritten letters. Letters offer deep personal connection, and the anticipation of receiving them is exciting.
5. Play Online Games Together
Choose fun trivia, puzzle games, or cooperative video games. Bonding over virtual play can help create laughter and shared experiences.
Make Valentine’s Day what YOU want it to be!
Valentine’s Day is a chance to celebrate love in all its forms—romantic, platonic, and most importantly, self-love. No matter your relationship status, the key is to make the day personal and meaningful. Whether you’re building connections, strengthening bonds, or focusing on yourself, these ideas provide inspiration to create moments worth cherishing.
This Valentine’s Day, focus less on expectations and more on celebrating love in the way that feels most authentic to you. After all, love isn’t one-size-fits-all—it’s about what brings you joy.
Access Daily: The Year of the Woman
Dating with Damona: Access Daily hosts Kit Hoover and Zuri Hall chatted with Damona about the wild world of modern dating.
After sharing a jaw-dropping story about a Brad Pitt catfishing scheme, she declared 2025 “the year of the woman” and discussed the growing influence of Korea’s “4B movement” on modern dating culture.
The segment wrapped with a fun round of Dating Dictionary, where Damona taught everyone new terms like “loud looking” and “flying monkey.” You can find the segment HERE .
The Drew Barrymore Show: Damona On Dating
What’s Love Got to Do with it?
Damona helps answer audience questions about love and dating on this episode of The Drew Barrymore show with Drew Barrymore, Valerie Bertinelli, Oliver Hudson, Taye Diggs.
From how to do a better job of trusting your gut while getting into and out of relationships to ignite the passion in a relationship when family comes first.
Access Daily: Holla-Dating with Damona
Holla-Dating with Damona on Access Daily with Karamo and Kit.
On a special holiday dating episode of Access Daily Damona shares advice as we head into peak dating season. Karamo and Kit ask Damona if there are “rules” about getting engaged over the holidays and introducing your partner to the family at the holiday dinner. They end with a fun round of “dating dictionary,” where Karamo and Kit are tested on their dating term knowledge.
Check out the full episode to learn more about terms like “snow-mancing” and Carouseling! You can find the episode HERE .
MSN: Living Your Best (Love) Life: Forget The Dating Apps
Dating expert Damona Hoffman shares transformative insights on finding love beyond dating apps in her latest MSN feature, “Living Your Best (Love) Life: Forget The Dating Apps – Here’s How To Find A Potential Partner Organically.” The article showcases Hoffman’s innovative “P.S. World” technique, challenging traditional approaches to modern connection while offering a fresh perspective on balancing digital and organic dating strategies.
Known for her dynamic presence and ability to decode modern dating complexities, Hoffman reveals game-changing strategies that are already creating buzz in the dating and relationship space. For an inside look at Damona’s unique approach to finding authentic connections in unexpected places head over to MSN.com to read the complete article.
5 Valentine’s Day Ideas for Every Relationship Status
Valentine’s Day can feel overwhelming with its focus on couples and traditional celebrations, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Whether you’re happily single, navigating a situationship, or celebrating with a partner or friends, this day is about your definition of love.
Forget the clichés and discover creative, refreshing ways to make this Valentine’s Day memorable, no matter your relationship status. Keep reading for inspiring ideas tailored just for you
For Couples Who Want to Reconnect and Celebrate Love
Romantic relationships need moments of connection. These ideas help couples prioritize their bond thoughtfully:
1. Plan a Candlelit Dinner at Home
Instead of battling restaurant crowds, create a romantic dinner date at home. Cook together, choose a meaningful recipe, or even attempt making new dishes you’ve never tried before. Add elements like candles, DIY place cards, or a shared playlist to build intimacy and coordination as a team.
2. Adventure Together Outdoors
Try hiking at a scenic spot, signing up for tandem rock climbing, or visiting a nature reserve. Couples wanting extra adrenaline can try zip-lining or a hot air balloon ride. Adventures not only strengthen bonds, but also bring out fun, refreshing sides of your partner.
3. DIY Mini Spa Night
Transform your bedroom into a relaxation retreat with facials for two, soothing massages, aromatherapy, and herbal teas. Use any downtime to share thoughts, making this a great wind-down moment while strengthening intimacy.
4. Revisit Shared Memories
Create a photo album or journal of your favorite moments. Couples often forget how small, shared joys keep relationships vibrant, so discussing these can help you reconnect deeply.
5. Starry Stargazing Date
Head to an open-air space for stargazing. Add hot cocoa, a blanket, and maybe even download a constellation app to track celestial formations. It’s personal, meaningful, and a perfect end to your celebrations.
For Situationships: Keep It Fun, Light, and Pressure-Free
Situationships thrive on casual creativity. These ideas balance light-hearted fun with room to explore connections together:
1. Host a Themed Movie Night
Decide on a theme like nostalgic rom-coms or indie horror films. Build your setting with cozy cushions, blankets, snacks, and even quirky pre-movie word games like character prediction.
2. Pick Cooking as the Adventure
Sign up for interactive classes locally or virtually. Culinary collaboration, even with basic skills, can nurture bonds and lots of laughs equally. Try learning a purely fun pastry (or dessert) this Valentine’s.
3. Casual City Museum Day
Explore art gallery installations or local events that don’t scream intensity. Wander privately between galleries; focus shifts from “label pressure” into discovering shared conversation responses indirectly.
4. Attend a Comedy Show or Open Mic
Catch a comedy show, improv night, or open mic event. Laughter is a powerful way to bond, and the shared experience helps take the awkwardness out of figuring out what to do on Valentine’s night.
5. Outdoor Adventure Date
Take it casual yet exciting with an outdoor activity like mini-golf, paddle-boating, or visiting a food truck festival. The key is to keep the atmosphere fun and easygoing, giving you time to enjoy the day without the weight of traditional expectations.
For Singles: Love Yourself First and Celebrate Independence
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romance. Use the day to celebrate you and prioritize self-care, growth, and joy:
1. Treat Yourself to a Self-Care Marathon
Start the day with a luxurious skincare routine, soak in a bubble bath with candles, and wear comfy pajamas. Follow up with your favorite movie and a meal you love—because you deserve it.
2. Explore New Adventures Solo
Visit a nearby town, take a nature walk, or explore a museum on your own. Use the day as a chance to connect with yourself and reflect on what makes you happy.
3. Dive Into a Creative Hobby
Rediscover your passions or pick up a new craft. Painting, writing, music, or adult coloring books are fantastic ways to tap into your inner creativity. End the day with a sense of accomplishment.
4. Go on a Bookstore & Coffee Date (with Yourself!)
Spend hours at a local bookstore, picking out books that excite or relax you. Pair this with a coffee shop moment to enjoy your new finds.
5. Splurge on a Gift for Yourself
Whether it’s a new gadget, a stylish outfit, or gourmet chocolate, buy yourself something you’ve been wanting. Valentine’s Day can be a reminder of how much you’re worth.
For Friends (Galentine’s Day): Celebrate Friendship with Joy & Connection
Valentine’s Day isn’t just for couples—it’s the perfect excuse to show your friends some love:
1. Host a Potluck Brunch
Invite your closest friends to bring their favorite dishes. Set the table with vibrant decorations and toast to shared laughs and memories. Bonus: Make themed heart-shaped foods.
2. DIY Craft Party
Gather supplies for candle-making, painting plant pots, or creating vision boards. Crafts work well for building light-hearted moments and cherished keepsakes.
3. Try a Cooking Contest
Divide into teams, assign a unique dish (appetizers, desserts, etc.), and compete in a friendly cook-off. Let the judging focus on fun and creativity, not perfection.
4. Plan a Movie Marathon
Watch irreverent comedies, nostalgic classics, or cheesy rom-coms. Prepare themed snacks (like popcorn with quirky toppings) to keep it festive.
5. Host an Outdoor Picnic
Fill a basket with charcuterie boards, desserts, sandwiches, or drinks. Bring yard games like frisbee or cards and enjoy a relaxing afternoon outdoors.
For Long-Distance Relationships: Thoughtful Ways to Show Love Across Miles
Long distance doesn’t mean the love isn’t felt. Try these creative ideas to make it meaningful, even from afar:
1. Plan a Virtual Movie Night
Use tools like Teleparty to sync a movie. Pair it with video chatting and your favorite snacks to make it feel like you’re experiencing the moment together.
2. Send a Personalized Care Package
Include their favorite snacks, small gifts, inside jokes, or even handwritten letters. Add something unique like a playlist or printed photos for a personal touch.
3. Cook the Same Meal Over a Call
Choose a new recipe to try and prepare it together while video chatting. Compare results and share laughs throughout the process.
4. Exchange Love Letters
Go old-school and mail handwritten letters. Letters offer deep personal connection, and the anticipation of receiving them is exciting.
5. Play Online Games Together
Choose fun trivia, puzzle games, or cooperative video games. Bonding over virtual play can help create laughter and shared experiences.
Make Valentine’s Day what YOU want it to be!
Valentine’s Day is a chance to celebrate love in all its forms—romantic, platonic, and most importantly, self-love. No matter your relationship status, the key is to make the day personal and meaningful. Whether you’re building connections, strengthening bonds, or focusing on yourself, these ideas provide inspiration to create moments worth cherishing.
This Valentine’s Day, focus less on expectations and more on celebrating love in the way that feels most authentic to you. After all, love isn’t one-size-fits-all—it’s about what brings you joy.
Tinder Trivia and Getting Ghosted
Valentine’s Day is just around the corner! Whether you’re feeling the love or dodging Cupid’s arrow, we’ve got something special for you.
In this episode, we’re celebrating all things love and dating with a fun twist – testing our knowledge with Tinder Trivia! Professional matchmaker and Tinder’s resident relationship expert Devyn Simone steps into the hot seat to challenge conventional dating wisdom and reveal surprising truths about finding love in the digital age.
Plus, we’ve got a special “Dear Damona & Dear Devyn” segment with two burning questions from our listeners about ghosting and dating app dynamics.
(41:04) Tinder’s Go-TO Guru Who Found Love on an App (Twice)
For anyone wondering whether dating apps actually work, Devyn Simone brings proof positive – complete with a ring!
This powerhouse matchmaker and dating expert has gone from sharing wisdom on Good Morning America and The Today Show to co-hosting “Love at First Swipe” on TLC with Clinton Kelly.
Now, as Tinder’s resident relationship expert, she’s pulling back the curtain on what really works in modern dating. Her own success story was so compelling it earned a spotlight in Damona’s book “F the Fairy Tale”!
Game On: Tinder Trivia Reveals Surprising Dating Truths (9:08)
The game kicks off with a challenge that catches everyone off guard: Which day sees the most activity on dating apps?
As Devyn puts the question to the test, the conversation explores how timing can make all the difference in your dating app success. From peak usage hours to the psychology behind why certain days lead to more matches, this segment uncovers data-driven insights that most users never consider.
Myth-Busting: What Singles Really Want (15:38)
Think most people on dating apps are just looking for casual connections? Think again.
The trivia continues with shocking statistics about what men and women are actually seeking on Tinder. The numbers tell a completely different story than what most people assume, leading to an eye-opening discussion about how these misconceptions affect dating behavior.
Devyn shares real stories from her years of matchmaking experience that challenge everything singles think they know about dating app culture, while revealing how these insights can lead to more authentic connections.
The Profile Photo Strategy No One Talks About (30:36)
The next round of trivia dives into the science of profile photos, revealing exactly how long successful daters spend selecting their images.
This sparks a fascinating conversation about the psychology behind profile photos and how Tinder’s new AI-powered tools are changing the game. The discussion explores common photo mistakes that might be sabotaging potential matches, along with practical strategies for showcasing authenticity in a digital world.
The Dating Feature That Can Expand Your Matches (42:49)
The final trivia round unveils Tinder’s most powerful yet underutilized feature for expanding dating possibilities.
This revelation leads to an in-depth exploration of how geography affects dating success and why thinking outside your zip code might be the key to finding meaningful connections. We challenge traditional assumptions about distance and dating, offering fresh perspectives on how to expand your dating pool without compromising on what matters most.
Connect with Devyn:
(41:04) Dear Damona & Dear Devyn
Siggy asks: “How do you suggest handling men on apps who seem to just want to set up a date from the onset before even exchanging any texts? Video chat requests seem to make them disappear.”
Our experts break down why this behavior is actually a gift in disguise and share strategies for maintaining your standards while efficiently screening potential matches.
B writes: “Why is it that when I feel like I meet a quality guy and we connect, they ghost me or it doesn’t lead anywhere? Could I be coming on too strong with my excitement?”
Devyn and Damona explore the psychology behind this common pattern, offering insights on attachment styles, emotional availability, and how to maintain enthusiasm while protecting your energy.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Dear Damona: Dating Groove & Twin Flame’s Twin
It’s February, and love is in the air! But before you start stress-scrolling past all those heart-shaped decorations and candy displays, take a deep breath. Around here, we celebrate love in all its beautiful forms, whether that’s self-love, family bonds, friendship, or yes, even romance.
This week’s Dear Damona episode covers everything from finding love after a 30-year marriage (hello, hot Tinder date in Vienna!) to navigating workplace crushes when there are two potential connections.
We’re tackling real questions about handling singles mixer dynamics, balancing dating with single parenthood, and even exploring what happens when twin bonds impact romantic relationships.
So grab your favorite chocolate (because let’s face it, it’s way better than those chalky candy hearts), and settle in for some authentic conversation about finding connection in today’s dating landscape.
(00:25) Dear Damona
Got dating dilemmas? Relationship riddles? You can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Finding Your Groove After Thirty Years of “I Do” (02:18)
After three decades of marriage, one listener is rediscovering herself through dating apps – and finding unexpected joy in a Viennese romance.
As she puts it, “I’m not sure who or what was on my side, but I met a smoking hot 40-year-old guy on Tinder and two days with him made up for everything.” But now she’s wondering: how can she date authentically when she’s not even sure what she’s looking for?
When Two Workplace Connections Make Your Heart Race (09:40)
One listener’s dating groove hit an unexpected twist with two potential connections at work: one her age, one ten years younger.
After a playful arcade date with the younger colleague, she’s questioning if she should explore either connection. As Damona notes, “Dating people at work can be messy. If this is not a career job for you, I say go for it.”
When “Hi” Gets You Goodbye (16:28)
After relocating to a new city, one singles mixer attendee discovers that real-life dating might be taking cues from dating apps – and not in a good way.
“It’s like people are swiping in real life now,” he shares. “No one takes the time to get to know me before judging what they see.” Is there still hope for those seeking deeper connections in our snap-judgment world?
Making Space for Love While Juggling Life (23:55)
When well-meaning friends suggest putting dating on hold during a busy season of life, one listener pushes back: “That advice makes me cry. I don’t want to stop trying. I’m ready to not be alone.”
Can you pursue partnership while balancing the demands of single parenthood and family caregiving?
When Twin Bonds Test Relationship Boundaries (34:08)
After investing four years in her relationship, one woman faces a difficult reality about her twin partner.
Despite owning a house with his brother and living together for decades, he kept promising “if it was the right woman” things would change. “It was one of the most heartbreaking situations I’ve been in,” she shares, discovering that some bonds – especially between twins – might be unbreakable.
How To Be Dateable & Rarely Into Anyone
Dating can be tough these days, even for our regular Dates & Mates listeners who are putting in the work to date with intention.
Many of us grew up in the Disney Prince and Princess era, absorbing these fairy tales about love at first sight and happily ever after. But as adults, we have had to unlearn those stories and redefine what love looks like in the real world.
The good news? Today’s singles are stepping onto a new path, one of authenticity and intentionality in dating.
This week, we’re talking with Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu about their brand new book “How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love.” They share practical strategies that help us date smarter and connect deeper.
(2:03) From First Date Horror Stories to Dating’s Dynamic Duo
When Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu met in San Francisco, neither had figured dating out.
Together, Yue, a former dating coach who specialized in helping clients “trick” people into liking them, and Julie, with her background in human-centered design, realized none of the old rules worked anymore.
Now, after a decade of hosting the Dateable podcast and launching their dating experiment show Exit Interview, they’ve interviewed thousands of daters and uncovered the truth about modern love.
In their new book “How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love,” they share what really works (and what definitely doesn’t) in today’s dating landscape.
The Hidden Reason Modern Dating Feels Impossible (4:05)
“Back in the day, people dated within their network. They formed organic connections.
They didn’t have to win people over because they saw these people over and over again,” Yue revealed, highlighting why today’s expanded dating pools create unique challenges.
The conversation explored how dating has evolved from organic community connections to convincing strangers of our worth. While dating apps have expanded our options, they’ve also created new hurdles in our search for authentic connection – and understanding these dynamics is the first step to mastering them.
The Dating Personality Test That Changes Everything (15:38)
Julie opened up about her own dating patterns as a Dreamer-Achiever type, sharing how it kept her in a two-year situationship: “I would give people the sixth chance… I would think something was more than it was because I was in a fantasy of what I wanted from someone.”
Their five archetypes – the Achiever, Dreamer, Energizer, Maverick, and Thinker – reveal the hidden patterns in our dating lives.
Through personal stories and real examples, Julie and Yue demonstrate how understanding your type helps you leverage your strengths while spotting potential pitfalls.
The Sunday Dating Rule That Will Save Your Sanity (30:36)
Though she is partnered now, Julie’s dating app strategy sparked an “aha” moment in the studio – she only logged in on Sundays, the highest traffic day, with notifications turned off. This simple shift transformed her experience from exhausting to energizing.
The conversation dove into why treating dating apps like a full-time job backfires and how setting clear boundaries around your dating energy creates space for genuine connection.
The Million Dollar Dating Question No One’s Asking (42:49)
When Julie and Yue introduced their Dating North Star concept, it completely shifted how we think about dating goals.
Instead of generic aims like “finding a relationship” or “not being lonely,” they dig deeper into what actually drives our desire for partnership.
Through fascinating examples from their research and podcast interviews, they reveal how getting crystal clear on your true dating motivation changes everything about how you approach finding love.
Connect with Julie & Yue:
(41:04) Dear Damona: When the Spark Feels Lost
A listener struggles to find attraction after breaking free from emotionally unavailable partners. Damona shares insights on rewiring attraction patterns and why taking it slow might be the key to finding lasting chemistry.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
When You Get Dumped & Matches on Mute
January may be known as “divorce month,” but let’s be honest – no matter how common breakups are, they never feel common. They’re confusing, painful, and can feel downright debilitating.
This week’s guests, mother-daughter duo, Suzy Hopkins and Hallie Bateman, take on heartbreak in a refreshing and real way, sharing the insights within their newly published graphic novel “What to Do When You Get Dumped”. Together they share their raw and relatable guide to navigating one of life’s toughest transitions.
Join us for their journey from heartbreak to healing, exploring everything from giving yourself permission to feel your feelings to finally letting go of what’s holding you back. If you’re navigating the end of a relationship (or know someone who is), this episode is your roadmap and reminder that healing is possible – and happiness is waiting on the other side.
Plus, stay tuned for this week’s Dear Damona, where we tackle a common dating app frustration: why do matches like your profile but never write?
(1:06) “My Husband Left Me During Our Book Tour”
Suzy Hopkins is a former newspaper reporter and magazine publisher and co-author of “What to Do When I’m Gone.” Her daughter, Hallie Bateman, is a writer and illustrator whose work has appeared in The New Yorker, The New York Times Magazine, The Owl, and many others.
Together, they’ve created “What to Do When You Get Dumped,” a graphic novel guide to navigating one of life’s toughest transitions. The inspiration? Suzy’s own experience of having her husband of 30 years leave her for an old flame just as Suzy and Hallie were about to begin a book tour for their previous work.
When Your Ex Becomes a Stranger (34:07)
The moment everything changes isn’t just about losing a partner; it’s about losing a language.
After 30 years of marriage, Suzy found herself unable to speak to her husband as the person she’d known for three decades. “The minute he told me…I could no longer talk to him as my husband. There was a third person in the room at all times, even though she wasn’t physically there.”
She reveals how this presence transformed their relationship overnight, and shares her unexpected method for maintaining sanity.
Skip the Forgiveness, Find Your Peace (21:03)
Think you need to forgive to move forward? Think again.
While wrestling with the end of her marriage, Suzy discovered that the common advice about forgiveness wasn’t serving her healing. Through tears and rewrites, mother and daughter unpack why the pressure to forgive can sometimes do more harm than good.
They offer a revolutionary perspective on moving forward that doesn’t require you to make peace with what happened – just peace with yourself.
That Restaurant Doesn’t Belong to Your Ex (28:14)
Your favorite places don’t have to be casualties of your breakup. When Hallie spotted her mom staring up at a meaningful Berkeley hotel, she sparked a conversation about reclaiming spaces from painful memories.
“That old memory becomes a lot smaller,” Hallie explains, “and I think the story of that place…hopefully becomes the memory that’s in the foreground.”
Together, they explore why avoiding these places only gives more power to the past and share their creative strategy for transforming old haunts into new havens.
The Two-Hour Healing Plan (38:50)
Forget about “getting back out there” – sometimes victory is just making it through the next 120 minutes. Through counseling and small acts of survival, Suzy discovered that healing doesn’t happen on Instagram’s timeline.
She shares how accepting the glacial pace of recovery actually helped her heal faster and why counting the days (all 1,582 of them) became an unexpected source of strength.
The mother-daughter duo offers a refreshing take on moving forward that doesn’t require you to have it all figured out – just the next tiny step.
Connect with Suzy & Hallie:
(41:04) Dear Damona
“Hi Damona, my question is – how come guys on Hinge like my profile but never send a message? It’s happening more than usual lately and feels like it’s becoming the new Bumble.”
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Getting It Right This Time & Paying For Premium
We all want to believe in the magic of love. We’ve seen the romcoms and fairy tales, and we crave our own meet-cute. But beyond those fairytales and meet-cutes lies a deeper understanding of connection that could forever transform anyone’s love life.
Orna and Matthew Walters joined us this week to share the knowledge and insights from their new book “Getting it Right This Time: Break Free from Your Hidden Blocks to Find Lasting Love.”
You’ll learn about your love imprint, your pre-wired programming that might be standing in your way when it comes to love, and what you can do to gain back your power and get yourself back on track.
In our Dear Damona segment we tackle choosing the right dating app premium subscription – because let’s face it, dating apps are just tools, and you need to know how to use them effectively!
(3:13) From Dating Disasters to Love Experts: Meet Orna and Matthew Walters
The founders of Creating Love on Purpose bring their transformative approach to dating to their new book “Getting It Right This Time.”
Featured on Bravo’s The Millionaire Matchmaker and celebrating their fifth appearance on Dates & Mates, they’ve helped thousands worldwide break free from toxic patterns and find lasting love.
Why Your Brain Keeps Choosing the Wrong Partners (14:32)
Get ready for a mind-blowing revelation about attraction that will transform how you date forever.
Learn why that familiar “spark” might actually be your biggest red flag, and discover how to rewire your love GPS for healthier connections.
Stop Eating Raw Relationship Turkey (19:50)
Why rushing into commitment before really knowing someone is like serving undercooked poultry – and how to know when a relationship is actually ready for the next level.
This fresh perspective will save you from another half-baked situationship.
Childhood Stories That Shape Your Love Life (31:04)
Think your “perfect” upbringing means you’re immune to relationship struggles?
Matthew’s surprising journey from avoidant dater to conscious partner will make you rethink everything you believe about relationship readiness.
The Three-Part Path to Love (45:40)
A revealing look at why rushing to manifest your perfect partner without doing the inner work first is a recipe for disappointment.
The Walters break down their proven three-step approach: awareness, transformation, and, only then, manifestation. This groundbreaking framework explains why some people stay stuck while others find lasting love.
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(51:31) Dear Damona: Finding Love in Smaller Cities
A listener from Bozeman, Montana, struggles with limited dating options in her area.
Damona breaks down which dating apps work best for different locations and shares strategies for expanding your dating pool without compromising on distance preferences.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
2025 Love Astrology & Lovebombing Bombshell
In this week’s episode, we’re gazing upward and inward as we explore how the stars and planets can guide your love life through the ancient wisdom of Vedic astrology.
Astrology isn’t just about your daily horoscope – it’s about uncovering patterns, timing, and compatibility that can help you make sense of your love life and plan for the future.
Lucky for us, this week’s episode brings back Vedic astrologer Carol Allen, who returns, as she does every January, to share how this sacred practice can illuminate your path to love. This week, she brings her profound insights on relationship timing, compatibility, and the cosmic forecast for 2025.
Plus, stick around for our Dear Damona segment, where we tackle love bombing on dating apps.
(3:13) The Stargazer Who’s Read Over 30,000 Love Charts
Since she started practicing Vedic astrology 34 years ago, Carol Allen has become the go-to love forecast expert for celebrities and everyday romantics alike.
Featured everywhere from E! to Doctor Drew’s Life Changers, she’s helped thousands understand their cosmic love blueprint through her bestselling book “Love is in the Stars: The Wise Woman’s Astrological Guide to Men.” Now she’s back with an exclusive peek at what the stars have in store for your love life in 2025.
The Golden Windows for Love in 2025 (11:23)
Circle these dates in your calendar immediately!
Venus, the planet of love and romance, is serving up some seriously magical moments in 2025. “During these times, Venus is really beautiful and happy,” Carol reveals. “For all of us, we’re going to feel the good mojo in some way.”
From February’s cosmic love fest to November’s partnership potential, these are the periods when the stars are practically pushing you toward romance.
Why Your Ex Might Come Knocking (And Why That Could Be a Good Thing) (21:20)
Remember that almost-relationship that fizzled out? There might be a cosmic reason to give it another shot.
“Venus retrograde is amazing for revisiting unfinished connections or people from the past,” Carol shares. This rare planetary dance from March 3rd to April 13th could reignite old flames or deepen current bonds in ways you never expected.
The Hidden Opportunities in Mercury Retrograde (28:40)
Think Mercury retrograde is just about communication chaos? Think again.
Carol reveals how to transform these typically turbulent times into opportunities for deeper connection. With three retrogrades in 2025, her practical wisdom will help you navigate the cosmic weather with confidence.
The Celebrity Love-Match Secret You Need to Know (35:07)
Ever wonder why Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce clicked so quickly? Or how is it that Beyoncé and Jay-Z’s power couple status seems to be written in the stars?
Using her genius technique for reading cosmic compatibility, Carol shows how understanding your own celestial blueprint could be the key to finding your perfect match.
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(00:47:59) Dear Damona: When Love Bombing Strikes
A listener asks about handling love bombing on dating apps – when someone showers you with attention and affection, only to suddenly disappear.
Damona breaks down this modern dating phenomenon and shares strategies for protecting yourself while staying open to genuine connection.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
New Year Love Meditation & Cultivate Grace
Ready for a different kind of dating reset? While most shows are taking a holiday break, we’re closing out 2024 with something special – a guided visualization journey designed to help you release this year’s dating baggage and open your heart to new possibilities in 2025.
Let’s be real – between the dating app fatigue, situationships that went nowhere, and those “what are we?” conversations that left you spinning, your heart could probably use a moment to just breathe. We explore Tinder’s Year in Swipe report together!
This week’s episode offers exactly that: a peaceful pause to reflect, reset, and reimagine what love could look like in the year ahead.
(2:17) A Fresh Take on Your Dating Reset
Instead of our usual dating strategy session, we’re introducing a meditation experience that feels less like a self-help exercise and more like giving your heart a cozy place to rest and dream. Think of it as a spa day for your dating mindset.
(4:09) Beyond the Vision Board
This isn’t just another “manifest your soulmate” exercise.
We’re diving into a powerful visualization practice that helps you release those “almost relationships” and create space for real connection. Spoiler alert: it involves a magical forest (trust us on this one).
(9:11) The Game-Changing Dating Mindset Everyone’s Sleeping On
Meet your new dating superpower: GRACE.
Not the “say your prayers before dinner” kind, but the type that lets you date authentically without the pressure to be perfect. It’s like having a best friend who both calls you out on your stuff and holds space for you to figure it out.
(11:53) Mapping Your 2025 Love Story
Forget generic New Year’s resolutions. We’re teaching you how to create a dating snapshot that actually works – because “find the one” is not the vibe we’re bringing into 2025.
Learn how to set tangible love goals that align with who you really are.
Ready to transform your approach to love?
Our full Meditation Collection is waiting for you! And don’t forget to follow us on Instagram @DamonaHoffman for daily doses of dating wisdom that keeps it real.
Because remember – you’re not just looking for love in 2025. You are love. Let’s make this your year to shine.
Dear Damona will be back in 2025!!
Do you have questions? Damona has the answers! Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!