“He told me I am his soulmate but won’t video chat with me.”
Online dating can feel like a thrilling adventure, but not every match has good intentions. Romance scams, designed to prey on emotions and wallets, are on the rise. Scammers create fake profiles, build trust, and manipulate their targets into sending money or sharing personal information. Spotting the red flags early is crucial to protecting yourself.
Here’s how to recognize and avoid romance scams while keeping your heart and bank account safe:
They Move the Conversation Off the App Quickly
A common tactic scammers use is asking to switch to text, email, or another messaging platform. They might say the dating app “isn’t secure” or they rarely check the app so they prefer to text or use WhatsApp. While it might seem harmless, this allows them to avoid being flagged by the app’s security systems and it disrupts the chain of information making them harder to track
Stick to communicating through the app in the early stages, especially if something about their behavior feels off. Scammers often want to control the narrative away from platform monitoring.
Their Profile Seems Perfect—Maybe Too Perfect
Does their profile read like a dream? Gorgeous photos, a great job abroad, and a life you’ve only seen in movies? Be cautious. Scammers often paint an idealized version of themselves to hook victims.
Look for inconsistencies. Does their bio seem to conflict with what you see in pictures? Do the pictures include a lot of group shots, sunglasses, or elements that make it unclear what the person actually looks like? Reverse search their photos to see if they appear on unrelated accounts or websites. Authenticity isn’t flawless—real people have quirks, imperfection, and natural details.
They Profess Love Too Quickly
Genuine connections take time. Scammers, however, often will Love Bomb you. They might declare feelings of love after just a handful of conversations. Grand, romantic language like, “You’re my soulmate,” or, “I’ve never felt like this before,” is common bait.
Be wary if declarations of love happen before you’ve even met in person. Real relationships grow over time, not overnight
They’re Always ‘Unavailable’ to Meet in Person
Does your match always have a reason they can’t meet? Scammers often claim to live or work far away, making in-person interactions impossible. Favorites include being stationed overseas in the military, working on an oil rig, or completing a project in another country.
While long-distance relationships can be real, persistent excuses for avoiding face-to-face or video calls are a red flag. A genuine partner will want to connect beyond texts.
They Create Emotional Sob Stories
Scammers excel at storytelling. They’ll often share tragic tales to evoke your sympathy. They might talk about losing a loved one, battling an illness, or facing financial hardship. This is all part of building emotional trust.
Ask yourself: Is the story consistent, or does it conveniently shift to justify a new request? Emotional manipulation is a cornerstone of romance scams.
They Ask for Money or Financial Assistance
This is the biggest red flag. Whether it’s a loan for an unexpected emergency, travel costs to visit you, or help with “frozen” bank accounts, any request for money should raise immediate alarm bells, even if it’s an unbelievable crypto investment that they believe will surely pay off in the future. It won’t!
Scammers might also frame it in ways that seem temporary or unintrusive, like asking for gift cards. And of course gift cards can’t be tracked so that allows them a clean and easy getaway. Always remember: a genuine partner won’t ask for financial help, especially so early in a relationship.
Grammar and Communication Might Not Match Their Profile
Does their polished persona on the app mismatch their writing? Scammers often use fake profiles but struggle with grammar or phrasing that doesn’t align with the professional image they project.
Watch for inconsistencies in tone, frequent typos, or clunky responses. Poor communication skills can signal that you’re not speaking to who you think. Conversely if it seems over-written or unnaturally formal, they are mostly likely using A.I. to sound more believable.
They Avoid Answering Direct Questions
When you ask simple questions, do they deflect or change the subject? Scammers avoid revealing details that could expose their lies. They might give vague answers or tell you they’re too busy to respond thoughtfully.
This is a manipulative tactic to keep the focus on emotions rather than facts. If their stories feel shallow or evasive, your gut is probably right.
Their Sob Story Leads to a Crisis
After earning your trust, scammers often stage a sudden “crisis.” They’ll say their wallet got stolen, a relative needs emergency surgery, or their business deal fell through. These situations almost always result in a plea for financial help.
Stay firm—don’t send money, no matter how heartbreaking their tale might sound. Scammers will often disappear as soon as their demands are met.
They Pressure You to Act Fast
Scammers create urgency as part of their scheme. Whether it’s needing money “today” to resolve an issue or pushing you to commit emotionally, they thrive on making you act without thinking.
If someone you’ve never met is applying pressure, take a step back. Healthy, real relationships respect time and boundaries.
Protect Yourself: Stay Vigilant and Trust Your Instincts
Romance scams prey on the desire for love and connection. Awareness is your best defense. Stay cautious by keeping the conversation on verified platforms, looking for inconsistencies, and avoiding financial entanglements.
Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it’s okay to walk away. Real love isn’t built on secrecy, pressure, or manipulation—it’s grounded in trust, honesty, and mutual respect.
By staying alert, you can protect yourself while searching for a relationship that’s truly worth your time and energy.
Learn more about spotting a romance scam in this episode of the Dates & Mates podcast
The Singles Tax & New LDR
The Singles Tax: Is Moving In Together About Love or Money?
Have you ever noticed that life just seems a little bit more expensive when you’re living solo? If you’ve felt the pinch of paying full rent, utilities, and groceries without someone to split the costs, you’re not imagining things.
This week we dive into a topic that hits daters right in the wallet: the singles tax. Whether it’s splitting the rent, closing costs, or that pesky electric bill, having someone to share the financial burdens of life can really take the load off.
But while moving in together often seems like a relationship milestone, is it always the right decision?
And then later in Dear Damona, we address this question of the week: New relationship. Yay! Long distance. Oh boy. Advice for making it work?
(2:23) Living Solo Is Costing You HOW Much?!
Meet Amanda Pendleton, an Emmy Award winning storyteller and television personality who serves as Zillow’s home trends expert. Her practical, data-driven advice on real estate and design has been featured on Today, Real Simple, Glamour, Forbes, NBC, ABC, CBS, and Fox around the country.
“This is the premium that you pay in order to live alone, to live single,” Amanda explains. “And it’s a lot.”
The difference between splitting costs with a partner versus paying solo is eye-opening, especially in major cities. But is saving money enough of a reason to give up your sacred thermostat control?
(8:22) Moving In Together? Ask These Questions First!
Before moving in together, every couple should consider the complete picture, not just the financial benefits.
Damona discusses her “Who, What, When, Where, Why” framework for cohabitation.
Amanda emphasizes having a written cohabitation agreement: “It is so important to have some kind of written cohabitation agreement before you enter this situation.”
(15:10) Why Your Rent Keeps Skyrocketing (It’s Not Just You)
The pressure to cohabitate has increased dramatically due to the housing market. Rental rates for single-family homes have increased significantly from pre-pandemic numbers!
This supply-demand mismatch has created an affordability crisis that makes the “singles tax” even more painful for solo dwellers. We explore what factors are driving these changes and how they’re affecting dating decisions.
(21:08) When Your Credit Score Becomes a Dating Issue
We often talk about emotional compatibility, shared interests, and chemistry, but what about financial compatibility?
Damona explores with Amanda how money conversations can pressure-test your relationship in valuable ways. Does one partner have excellent credit while the other struggles with debt? How will that impact your future housing options together?
These financial compatibility factors might not be romantic, but they’re crucial to address before signing a lease or mortgage together.
(24:26) Buy a House, Find a Spouse?
Amanda shares some surprising Zillow research: “We did a study last year, and it found that more than 2 in 5 recent home buyers say that they fell in love after they bought a home.”
This challenges the traditional “love, marriage, homeownership” sequence many of us grew up expecting. Could buying property actually improve your dating prospects? The discussion reveals what this means for singles hesitant to make major life moves without a partner.
Connect with Amanda on Zillow.com
(32:09) Dear Damona: Long Distance Love Without the Stress
A listener asks: “Do you have any advice on newly dating someone long distance?”
Long distance relationships require intentionality and planning. Our advice includes having “the future” conversation earlier than you might in a local relationship, since you need to know if relocation is even possible.
Creating meaningful virtual dates keeps your connection strong, while making sure some of your time together includes normal, everyday experiences helps build a realistic foundation.
With the right approach and the four pillars of compatibility, distance doesn’t have to be a deal-breaker.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
9 Quick Ways to Spring Clean Your Dating Profile
Think of it as spring cleaning for your online dating presence. With a few strategic updates based on proven methods, you can make your profile more engaging, approachable, and reflective of who you truly are.
Below, we’ll break down expert steps to give your dating profile the boost it needs.
1. Evaluate Your Current Profile
Before making changes, evaluate what’s already there. Is your profile still accurate? Are the photos and bio reflective of your current self?
2. Refresh Your Photos Using “The Three Cs”
Your pictures are the first thing potential matches notice—don’t underestimate their power. The expert “Three Cs” approach can transform your photo lineup:
Remember: “Your profile is only as good as your worst photo,” and the order matters. Lead with your strongest image, and absolutely avoid filters—they signal inauthenticity.
3. Rewrite Your Bio Through Storytelling
Your bio is your sales pitch. Storytelling beats listing traits every time.
Your profile should paint a complete picture of who you are. Interests and hobbies are perfect connection points with like-minded matches.
5. Revisit Your Match Preferences
Sometimes, your dating preferences might be too narrow: ” death by dating deal breaker.”
6. Double-Check for Grammar and Clarity
A profile full of typos or unclear statements sends the wrong message. Your written content should be polished and easy to understand.
7. Protect Your Privacy
Sharing too much personal information can put you at risk. It’s important to balance openness with safety.
8. Revamp Your Messaging Approach
Even the best profile won’t lead to meaningful connections if you’re not engaging with your matches thoughtfully. Try these specific communication strategies:
9. Explore Features on Dating Apps
Most apps have tools that can increase your chances of finding matches—use them to your advantage.
Spring cleaning your dating profile goes beyond just updating photos or rewriting your bio—it’s about presenting an authentic version of yourself that attracts the right people. The best dating methods emphasize values-based connections, storytelling, and intentional communication.
Remember that dating is not about quantity but quality connections. When you represent yourself authentically and focus on your true relationship goals, you create opportunities for meaningful relationships.
Take the time to implement these steps and watch your matches improve. Whether you’re looking for casual conversations or a serious relationship, a refreshed profile opens the door to endless possibilities. Now, go make that profile sparkle!
Are you looking for more in-depth help with your dating app profile? Check out our Profile Starter Kit.
Dysregulated Dating & Beginning Again
Have you ever felt your heart race before a first date? Do you shut down during conflict, or find yourself in an anxious spiral waiting for a text back, you’re not alone.
The truth is, love isn’t just in your head, it’s in your body too. The way we attach, react, and connect is deeply wired into our nervous system, shaped by past experiences and, for many of us, past wounds.
This week we are joined in our journey by master certified Somatic Life coach Beatriz Victoria Albina. She’ll be breaking down the ways that a dysregulated nervous system gets in our way romantically, how to tune in to the cues your body is sending you, and how to heal ourselves for healthier, happier relationships.
Later we’ll answer this Dear Damona question of the week: How do I begin dating again now that my 15-year marriage has ended?
So take a deep breath, settle in, and get ready. Because today we’re going to give you a lot of advice, a lot of key takeaways, and a whole mind-body-spirit journey on love from the inside out.
(2:06) The Nervous System Whisperer
Meet Beatriz Victoria Albina, a master certified somatic life coach who helps us understand how our bodies affect our love lives!
“My work is all about helping humans who are socialized as women to overcome our codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits, which relates to every millisecond of how we relate,” Beatriz explains. “It’s really a relational issue, and the lens I use is both a feminist one and a nervous system lens.”
She’s a family nurse practitioner, somatic experience practitioner, and breathwork meditation guide with a master’s degree in public health from Boston University and hosts the Feminist Wellness podcast.
Your Inner Caveperson is Freaking Out (5:00)
Did you know your dating anxiety is actually a prehistoric survival mechanism?
When your nervous system detects a potential threat – whether it’s a predator in the wild or an unanswered text – it triggers the same biological response. Your body can’t tell the difference between facing a lion and facing rejection on a dating app!
Beatriz breaks down the three surprising nervous system states that control your dating life and explains why understanding them is the key to transforming your relationship patterns.
Swiping Into a Nervous Breakdown (14:04)
“We’re not designed to be swiping hundreds of faces or be scrolling doomscrolling Instagram after we get ghosted for like six hours of doomscrolling with the TV on while drinking wine,” Beatriz warns. These digital dating habits are literally rewiring our nervous systems.
The constant swiping and ghosting creates intense cycles of hope and disappointment – much like an addictive loop.
We explore the hidden neurological cost of dating app burnout and what you might be missing when your nervous system is constantly frazzled by digital dating.
The 30-Second Date Calm-Down Trick (20:57)
Panicking before a date? There’s a science-backed trick that’s surprisingly simple.
When dating anxiety hits, your brain’s emotion center hijacks your thinking. But what if you could redirect that energy in less than a minute?
Beatriz shares a counterintuitive technique that sounds almost too basic to work – yet the neuroscience behind it is solid.
This easy practice could be the difference between shutting down on a promising date and staying present enough to make a real connection.
Your Dating Superhero Has Your Back (32:38)
Everyone needs a secret weapon when dating anxiety strikes.
Beyond just positive self-talk, Beatriz introduces a powerful concept that creates an emotional anchor in turbulent dating waters. This technique helps you stay grounded when dating triggers your deepest insecurities.
The approach draws on both ancient wisdom and modern neuroscience, and it might completely change how you handle pre-date jitters, awkward silences, and post-date overthinking.
Connect with Beatriz:
(41:48) Dear Damona: Starting Over After Divorce
A listener shares:
“Dear Damona, after my 15-year marriage ended last year, I haven’t been able to start dating yet. I was raised in a conservative religious environment and never dated until meeting my ex and subsequently marrying him in a matter of months, so I actually have no idea how to even start dating.”
Dating after a long marriage isn’t just about meeting new people – it’s about meeting a new version of yourself.
We suggest a fresh approach that takes all the pressure off and reframes the entire dating process.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Love Bombing or True Love? 10 Ways to Spot Romance Scams
“He told me I am his soulmate but won’t video chat with me.”
Online dating can feel like a thrilling adventure, but not every match has good intentions. Romance scams, designed to prey on emotions and wallets, are on the rise. Scammers create fake profiles, build trust, and manipulate their targets into sending money or sharing personal information. Spotting the red flags early is crucial to protecting yourself.
Here’s how to recognize and avoid romance scams while keeping your heart and bank account safe:
They Move the Conversation Off the App Quickly
A common tactic scammers use is asking to switch to text, email, or another messaging platform. They might say the dating app “isn’t secure” or they rarely check the app so they prefer to text or use WhatsApp. While it might seem harmless, this allows them to avoid being flagged by the app’s security systems and it disrupts the chain of information making them harder to track
Stick to communicating through the app in the early stages, especially if something about their behavior feels off. Scammers often want to control the narrative away from platform monitoring.
Their Profile Seems Perfect—Maybe Too Perfect
Does their profile read like a dream? Gorgeous photos, a great job abroad, and a life you’ve only seen in movies? Be cautious. Scammers often paint an idealized version of themselves to hook victims.
Look for inconsistencies. Does their bio seem to conflict with what you see in pictures? Do the pictures include a lot of group shots, sunglasses, or elements that make it unclear what the person actually looks like? Reverse search their photos to see if they appear on unrelated accounts or websites. Authenticity isn’t flawless—real people have quirks, imperfection, and natural details.
They Profess Love Too Quickly
Genuine connections take time. Scammers, however, often will Love Bomb you. They might declare feelings of love after just a handful of conversations. Grand, romantic language like, “You’re my soulmate,” or, “I’ve never felt like this before,” is common bait.
Be wary if declarations of love happen before you’ve even met in person. Real relationships grow over time, not overnight
They’re Always ‘Unavailable’ to Meet in Person
Does your match always have a reason they can’t meet? Scammers often claim to live or work far away, making in-person interactions impossible. Favorites include being stationed overseas in the military, working on an oil rig, or completing a project in another country.
While long-distance relationships can be real, persistent excuses for avoiding face-to-face or video calls are a red flag. A genuine partner will want to connect beyond texts.
They Create Emotional Sob Stories
Scammers excel at storytelling. They’ll often share tragic tales to evoke your sympathy. They might talk about losing a loved one, battling an illness, or facing financial hardship. This is all part of building emotional trust.
Ask yourself: Is the story consistent, or does it conveniently shift to justify a new request? Emotional manipulation is a cornerstone of romance scams.
They Ask for Money or Financial Assistance
This is the biggest red flag. Whether it’s a loan for an unexpected emergency, travel costs to visit you, or help with “frozen” bank accounts, any request for money should raise immediate alarm bells, even if it’s an unbelievable crypto investment that they believe will surely pay off in the future. It won’t!
Scammers might also frame it in ways that seem temporary or unintrusive, like asking for gift cards. And of course gift cards can’t be tracked so that allows them a clean and easy getaway. Always remember: a genuine partner won’t ask for financial help, especially so early in a relationship.
Grammar and Communication Might Not Match Their Profile
Does their polished persona on the app mismatch their writing? Scammers often use fake profiles but struggle with grammar or phrasing that doesn’t align with the professional image they project.
Watch for inconsistencies in tone, frequent typos, or clunky responses. Poor communication skills can signal that you’re not speaking to who you think. Conversely if it seems over-written or unnaturally formal, they are mostly likely using A.I. to sound more believable.
They Avoid Answering Direct Questions
When you ask simple questions, do they deflect or change the subject? Scammers avoid revealing details that could expose their lies. They might give vague answers or tell you they’re too busy to respond thoughtfully.
This is a manipulative tactic to keep the focus on emotions rather than facts. If their stories feel shallow or evasive, your gut is probably right.
Their Sob Story Leads to a Crisis
After earning your trust, scammers often stage a sudden “crisis.” They’ll say their wallet got stolen, a relative needs emergency surgery, or their business deal fell through. These situations almost always result in a plea for financial help.
Stay firm—don’t send money, no matter how heartbreaking their tale might sound. Scammers will often disappear as soon as their demands are met.
They Pressure You to Act Fast
Scammers create urgency as part of their scheme. Whether it’s needing money “today” to resolve an issue or pushing you to commit emotionally, they thrive on making you act without thinking.
If someone you’ve never met is applying pressure, take a step back. Healthy, real relationships respect time and boundaries.
Protect Yourself: Stay Vigilant and Trust Your Instincts
Romance scams prey on the desire for love and connection. Awareness is your best defense. Stay cautious by keeping the conversation on verified platforms, looking for inconsistencies, and avoiding financial entanglements.
Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it’s okay to walk away. Real love isn’t built on secrecy, pressure, or manipulation—it’s grounded in trust, honesty, and mutual respect.
By staying alert, you can protect yourself while searching for a relationship that’s truly worth your time and energy.
Learn more about spotting a romance scam in this episode of the Dates & Mates podcast
Dear Damona: Waiting for Love & Inner Work
Do dating apps have you feeling exhausted? Tired of matches who never read your profile? This week’s all-Dear-Damona episode tackles your biggest dating frustrations with straight-to-the-point advice.
From outdated “men should chase” myths to those frustrating matches who never read your profile, we tackled the dating dilemmas keeping you up at night.
Whether you’re dusting off your dating apps, stepping back into the social scene, or just trying to figure out if that celebrity DM is legit (spoiler: it’s probably not) we’ve got you covered.
(00:57) Hot Topics on the Dating Agenda
This week’s listener questions covered everything from making the first move to spotting sophisticated romance scams, proving once again that sharing our dating struggles helps everyone navigate this wild journey together.
Spoiler alert: one of these situations could cost you more than just your heart!
(01:53) Is “Men Should Chase” Just an Outdated Myth?
“What year is it? It’s 2025, right? I was just checking because I wanted to remind you that we do not live in the olden times,” Damona quipped when Angela called wondering if women making the first move has “psychological consequences.”
Angela’s heard all about how “men are programmed to chase women,” but the men pursuing her aren’t the ones she’s interested in.
This outdated notion belongs in the history books alongside other dating myths that are holding you back from finding genuine connection.
(10:58) When Your Dating Profile Goes Unread
Spent hours crafting the perfect dating profile only to have matches immediately ask questions you’ve already answered? Brigid’s frustration might mirror your own!
We tackled why this happens so frequently and shared a refreshing perspective that might change how you respond.
After all, dating apps are a numbers game – but that doesn’t mean you can’t play to win!
(20:41) Finding Partners Who’ve Done the Inner Work
After investing in therapy and personal development, Karina wonders if looking for men who’ve done similar work makes her “unicorn hunting.”
Turns out, the stats on men in therapy might surprise you!
We crunched the numbers and discovered an eye-opening reality about the dating pool when it comes to emotional intelligence and personal growth.
(28:45) Is That Celebrity DMing You? Probably Not.
“Jane, you sound like a very logical person with a good heart who really just wants to be loved,” Damona shared with a listener caught in what had all the warning signs of a sophisticated romance scam.
When someone claiming to be a famous singer-songwriter contacts you through an “unverified fan account,” should you believe it?
We unpacked the red flags that everyone should know about – especially when gift card requests enter the picture!
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Master Class: Beyond Dating Burnout
Bringing Back Empathy: The Key to Deeper Relationships
Is dating feeling disconnected? Are you experiencing dating burnout?, This week on Dates & Mates, we reveal why bringing back empathy is the key to deeper relationships.
Science actually says that empathy makes you more attractive. In this special 550th masterclass episode, we explore how to cultivate empathy, share exercises to strengthen your empathy muscles, and reveal why having compassion for yourself is just as important as having it for others.
Get ready for a transformative episode that will help you feel empowered, whole, and full – because that’s ultimately the best place to date from.
(2:16) Dating Without Empathy? It’s Like Swimming Without Water!
Swipe, chat briefly, move on, repeat. Without empathy, dating has turned into a fast-food experience where no one leaves satisfied!
The speed of communication has changed everything. What happened to connection? In this segment, we dive into why ghosting and breadcrumbing have become the norm, and how this disconnect leaves us all feeling burnt out and hungry for something real.
(6:06) Turns Out Being a Good Listener Makes You Hotter (Science Says So!)
Your ears might be your most underrated dating asset! Research shows that empathetic people aren’t just nicer – they’re actually perceived as more charismatic and trustworthy.
Why is empathy declining worldwide? We break down the fascinating science linking screen time to emotional disconnection and reveal exactly how strengthening your empathy muscles can make you magnetically attractive to potential partners.
(14:04) The 80/20 Rule That Will Transform Your Dating Life
Ever feel like your dates are more like job interviews than genuine connection? There’s a simple rule that changes everything – and it’s not what you think!
Active listening creates “stickiness” between people. By validating emotions and asking thoughtful follow-up questions, you’ll stand out from the crowd of daters who are just waiting for their turn to talk. The best part? This technique works whether you’re 25 or 75!
(21:53) Mirror, Mirror On The Wall, Who’s The Most Dateable Of Them All?
Self-empathy – your dating superpower in disguise! Before you can truly understand others, you’ve got to understand yourself (and yes, it might feel awkward at first).
What do mirror work, letters to your younger self, and pre-date emotional check-ins have in common? They’re all tools to build self-compassion that naturally extends to others. In this segment, we break down simple exercises that feel good and make you better at connecting with potential partners.
(30:57) Rapid Fire Q&A: Dating Empathy To The Rescue!
“They say they want a relationship but act completely unavailable.” Sound familiar? You’re not alone! In this lightning round, we tackle your burning dating questions:
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Is Dating Harder Today & Coming On Strong
Is Finding Love Different in 2025? (The Answer Might Surprise You)
Between crafting the perfect text response, managing multiple dating app profiles, and dealing with unexpected ghosting, modern dating can feel like a full-time job. But is finding love actually harder today, or is it just a different game that needs new rules?
In this week’s episode of Dates & Mates, relationship expert Johnny Fernandez brings two decades of love-coaching wisdom to challenge everything you thought you knew about modern dating.
As the creator of Love Breakthrough Live, Johnny’s unconventional approach has helped thousands find lasting love – and his take on today’s dating landscape might just change your entire perspective.
(2:20) This Former Lawyer Cracked the Love Code
When Johnny Fernandez’s wife kept extending her chiropractic appointments to give dating advice, they discovered something revolutionary about modern love.
Now, after 20 years of helping thousands find lasting relationships, their unconventional approach is challenging everything we thought we knew about dating.
Johnny shares how their accidental start in love coaching unveiled patterns of success that anyone can follow.
(6:21) The Dating Pool Paradox
Could having more dating options actually be the solution rather than the problem? Johnny breaks down fascinating research about modern dating challenges while revealing why today’s expanded opportunities might be your greatest advantage.
Learn how successful couples are leveraging choice to create stronger connections, and why the “good old days” of dating might not have been as golden as we think.
(14:04) Why “Playing It Cool” Is Killing Your Love Life
Tired of trying to seem unbothered? Johnny introduces a refreshing framework for authenticity in dating that’s helping singles stand out for all the right reasons.
Is traditional dating advice about keeping your cards close to your chest sabotaging your chances at real connection? Learn Johnny’s proven strategies his clients use to attract partners who are ready for something real.
(21:53) The One Phrase That Changes Everything
Johnny shares the exact words that help his clients filter out casual daters and attract serious partners from the first interaction.
Certain types of dates might be undermining your relationship potential! How can you communicate your standards without pushing quality partners away? Plus, discover the psychology behind why this approach works with today’s dating dynamics.
(27:15) The Career Success Dating Trap
Think your impressive resume is attracting the right partners?
Johnny presents compelling evidence about how modern achievement culture impacts our love lives.
Learn why leading with your professional success might be sending unintended signals, and discover how to showcase your accomplishments while creating genuine emotional connections.
Connect with Johnny:
(30:57) Dear Damona: When Distance Tests Your Heart
Damona addresses a 70-year-old listener contemplating a cross-country move for love, offering practical guidance on maintaining standards while navigating geographical challenges.
Plus, she shares valuable insights for managing dating confidence while dealing with personal health situations that affect intimacy.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
NBC News Now: Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts and AI Romance
Unique Valentine’s Day Gifts and AI Romance.
Getting Real About Romance: On NBC News Now, relationship expert Damona Hoffman explored the quirky intersection of AI and modern romance from crafting dating profiles to helping with breakup texts, discussing how technology is changing the way we date and connect.
When it came to Valentine’s Day gifts, she encouraged ditching the standard flowers and chocolates for more personal touches – from thoughtful DIY projects to splurging on concert tickets. After all, nothing says “I love you” quite like Beyoncé!
NBC News Daily: To Swipe or Not…
To Swipe or Not: Taking a Closer Look at the Current State of Dating Apps
NBC News Daily explored the $4 billion dating app industry with the help of relationship expert Damona Hoffman. Damona share’s her take on modern matchmaking.
While acknowledging the challenges of online dating, Damona highlighted the current trend of “intentional dating” and “loud looking,” encouraging singles to embrace the reality that dating apps are now a legitimate path to finding love.
Access Daily: Valentine’s Day & World Dump Day
Dating with Damona: Access Daily hosts Mario and Kit got the scoop on Valentine’s Day and World Dump Day (yes, that’s a real thing!) with Damona.
From discussing the art of the perfect breakup to exploring new dating terms like “pebbling” and “fine whining,” the conversation covered both the sweet and sour sides of modern romance.
Damona shared practical tips for singles considering a friend’s matchmaking offer, encouraging daters to know their “must-haves” before saying yes to a setup.
Romances & Practicalities
Love, Dating, and the 250 Questions That Could Transform Your Love Life…
It’s 2025, and if there’s one thing many of us crave, it’s a roadmap to romance – a way to navigate the complex journey from that first spark to a lasting flame. While we can’t promise you a yellow brick road to love, this week’s episode offers something more valuable: a practical system for determining if your connection has true staying power.
Join us as we explore a revolutionary approach to modern dating that combines authentic communication with strategic timing. Plus, we’ll tackle a compelling “Dear Damona” segment that hits close to home, addressing the delicate balance of vulnerability and defining the relationship in our digital age.
(1:03) From Emmy-Nominated Producer to Love Story Architect
Meet Lindsay Jill Roth, the award-winning television producer behind Emmy-nominated shows and global events for NBC, ESPN, and the Grammys.
Now she’s turned her storytelling expertise to decode the narrative of lasting love, bringing a fresh perspective to how we approach relationships.
Fun fact: her college bestie and maid of honor is none other than the Duchess of Sussex!
When Google Becomes Your Dating Coach (2:06)
After one pivotal FaceTime call threatened to derail her budding romance, Lindsay took an unexpected deep dive into relationship research.
Discover how her late-night Google search for “how to know someone better” evolved into a groundbreaking system that’s helping couples worldwide determine their compatibility.
Through conversations with top relationship experts and real-world testing, she uncovered the power of asking the right questions at the right moment.
The Two-Sense Connection (15:38)
What happens when you strip away touch, taste, and smell from early dating?
Lindsay’s transatlantic love story reveals how limiting yourself to just sight and sound might actually deepen your connection. Learn why traditional dating rules could be sabotaging your chance at authentic love, and how strategic communication can bridge any distance – even an ocean.
Plus, uncover the unexpected advantage of being forced to truly talk before getting physical.
Beyond “What’s Your Favorite Movie?” (30:36)
Forget surface-level chit-chat – it’s time to dive deep into the questions that actually predict relationship success.
From financial philosophies to family dynamics, Lindsay breaks down why discussing your future in-laws’ sleeping arrangements might matter more than your shared Netflix preferences.
Learn the art of timing these conversations for maximum impact, and why some couples find these discussions so intimate they can’t help but put the book down mid-chapter.
The Truth About Vulnerability in Modern Dating (42:49)
Ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about playing it cool?
Lindsay shares two controversial perspectives that might make you rethink your entire approach to relationships.
Discover why being authentically yourself from the start could be your secret weapon in finding lasting love, and how dropping “The Rules” might actually lead you to the right person.
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(43:21)Dear Damona: When Your Match Is Still Swiping
When a listener spots their promising match still updating their dating app profile, Damona shares her own journey through this exact situation with her now-husband.
Get candid advice about when to have that defining conversation, how to approach it with confidence, and why this seemingly uncomfortable moment might be the perfect opportunity to deepen your connection.
💌 Do you have questions? Damona has the answers!
Don’t forget you can submit your dating and relationship questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave us a voicemail or text to 424-246-6255, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!
Access Daily: The Year of the Woman
Dating with Damona: Access Daily hosts Kit Hoover and Zuri Hall chatted with Damona about the wild world of modern dating.
After sharing a jaw-dropping story about a Brad Pitt catfishing scheme, she declared 2025 “the year of the woman” and discussed the growing influence of Korea’s “4B movement” on modern dating culture.
The segment wrapped with a fun round of Dating Dictionary, where Damona taught everyone new terms like “loud looking” and “flying monkey.” You can find the segment HERE .