Dating App Dangers & Hard Conversations
WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE LOOK LIKE IF YOU ADDRESSED DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS HEAD-ON?
Anna Sale – the host of WYNC’s hit podcast Death Sex & Money and one of Damona’s favorite podcasts – is here to talk about how difficult conversations will bring you closer in your relationships plus how she moved on after heartbreak.
But first we have headlines:
DATING DISH (1:36)
(1:36) Why you shouldn’t believe all the negative press you read on dating apps
Nancy Jo Sales reveals the ‘corporate takeover of dating’ could mean that big corporations are taking over the dating experience and making it worse. Unfortunately, for dating app users these companies may exploit users for their personal gain.
(7:03) Does Kourtney Kardashian’s new boo have 🔥 the hots 🔥 for Kim?
Kourtney – the eldest Kardashian – has been dating Travis Barker since earlier this year. Shanna Moakler, whose tumultuous divorce from the Blink-182 drummer was finalized in 2008, is publicly claiming Kim Kardashian is part of the reason her family broke up. Even in Travis’s 2015 memoir, he revealed that he couldn’t keep his eyes off of Kim. What does this mean for the future of Kourtney’s relationship with Travis?
HARD CONVERSATIONS, GREAT RELATIONSHIPS (11:43)
Today’s guest, Anna Sale, is the host of Death, Sex, & Money which won a 2018 Webby for best interview show.
Before developing Death, Sex & Money, Anna covered politics for nearly a decade and has contributed to Fresh Air with Terry Gross and This American Life.
She’s written a fantastic new book, entitled LET’S TALK ABOUT HARD THINGS – an empathetic examination of the most challenging aspects of our lives and how open communication about even taboo issues can bring us closer to our loved ones.
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(10:39) Anna’s new book LET’S TALK ABOUT HARD THINGS expands the lens through which we view family and identity. The way we are identified by others profoundly affects our experiences. Identity means more than just a few labels. Instead, it goes far beyond simple words.
(18:10) Now as we move into the new normal of a post-pandemic world, so many people are craving a physical interaction with others. This is creating anxiety among daters who are navigating a world where physical relationships are now allowed amongst vaccinated people after more than a year of required social distancing.
(22:56) Talking about hard things can actually involve NOT talking. This is particularly helpful when it comes to arguments or uncertainty allowing time to cool off and permission to be respectful of your partner as you work through issues. The power of pausing can really impact a situation.
(30:08) Anna talks about how the beginning of her second marriage wasn’t the smoothest start to a relationship. Not only were they in different locations, but Anna was in the early phase of being fresh out of a divorce and entering the dating scene once again.
(36:51) Even though relationships can involve pressured decisions, staying in the moment helps the path of your relationship unfold naturally. Anna and Arthur had to really dive into their choice to be together and take the leap of faith to keep their relationship going.
(45:35) Anna shares her thoughts on infidelity and the heated conversation she had with Dan Savage on her podcast. She asks the question, what does infidelity mean for a relationship?
(53:12) As the world starts dating again, Anna talks about using small talk as a way to get to know your date. Small talk can really say more meaningful things and help you become more vulnerable.
Get Anna’s Book “Let’s Talk About Hard Things” using Damona’s Amazon Link (damonahoffman.com/contentclub) or wherever you get your books!
DEAR DAMONA (58:50)
Submit your questions on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
- V – I’m currently being breadcrumbed by a guy. I told him whatever we were doing wasn’t working. He’s fighting to still be my friend / have me in his life. How do I uphold my boundaries? I have the hope that he’ll change his mind but deep down I know he’s not the one and I should move on. Any tips for being better at cutting people out? I have a hard time blocking or holding my ground. Always trying to be “nice” which is great for them but sucks for me 😅
- CT – Any tips on how to make a 1st date (especially on video chat!) feel less like an interview?
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