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Beyond Betrayal & Sex Addiction

Our guest co-host this week was Dr. Kevin Skinner. Dr. Skinner is a licensed marriage and family therapist who is the co-founder of Addo Recovery, a clinic specializing in recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. He’s also the co-founder of Bloom, an online company for women struggling with the latter. We spoke with him about infidelity, relationship worry, sexual expectations, and much more.

D’S DATING DISH (2:33)

Elite dating apps threaten America’s wage gap

Elite dating apps are part of an old-school philosophy that believes courtship is partly an economic exercise and could be further driving a wedge between classes. Many of these apps favor those with college degrees, especially from elite institutions, but education-based matching moves in lockstep with inequality. You can read more via Bloomberg here.

John Cena and Nikki Bella break up

WWE star John Cena and Divas champion Nikki Bella have ended their six-year relationship and broken off their impending engagement. They were supposed to be married May 5th, but recent interviews suggested they may have been having problems. You can read more via Bleacher Report here.

The worst fashion mistake you can make on a date

The stats are in and 76% of millennials believe it’s important to dress up for a date. But be careful: 66% of singles don’t have any time for wrinkled clothes, with socks and sandals a close second. You can read more via Hello Giggles here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (32:00)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App, including:

  • How to stay happy in a long distance relationship
  • What to do if your boyfriend got another girl pregnant
  • How to handle a recycled engagement ring

And many more . . .

ROMANCE ROLLBACK (44:52)

Damona explores the Ancient Egyptian Ring of Infinity and how it led to today’s modern understanding of the wedding ring.

Feminism & Dating

Our guest co-host this week was Clarissa Silva. Clarissa Silva is a behavioral scientist, researcher, and relationship coach with 17 years of experience in mental health, behavioral science, and public health. She’s the creator of the Your Happiness Hypothesis method, which provides science-based solutions to the woes of modern dating.

 

D’S DATING DISH (3:40)

Why going on too many dates can prevent you from finding love

The symptoms of over-dating are sweeping through the dating world, with anything more than two dates a week considered an example. Over-dating can lead to desensitization, a pursuit of something you’ll never realistically be able to get, and can prevent a real connection from occurring. But controversially, mathematician Hannah Fry says you should reject the first 37% people you date if you want to find the perfect one. What’s one to do? You can read more via Independent UK here.

Blac Chyna confirms she’s dating someone much younger

Blac Chyna was recently spotted with 18-year-old rapper YBN Almighty Jay. They were recently spotted hopping into a Ferrari, with Blac Chyna confirming they’re an item. However, he’s a decade younger than her and can’t even legally drink. Is it doomed to fail? You can read more via BET here.

Women are all about making the first move, and it’s leading to love

Invite-only dating app The League analyzed 100 couples who have been dating for more than one year, and one out of every three straight couples started with the woman messaging first. The stats don’t lie, and when a woman contacts a man first, 30 percent of those messages turn into a conversation. You can read more via Bravo here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (30:05)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and BlackPeopleMeet.com, including:

  • What to do if you love a man’s personality but aren’t attracted to him
  • How to handle a girlfriend sending nudes to another guy
  • What to do with an ex that won’t leave you alone on social media

And many more . . .

HOLLYWOOD HOOKUP (46:02)

Brad Pitt has been in the headlines as of late thanks to the Oscars, so the Dates and Mates team thought that we’d do him a favor and offer our expertly curated picks of potential bachelorettes.

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