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DATING AFTER DIVORCE (DURING PANDEMIC TIMES)

Dating after divorce seems impossible enough – but dating during pandemic times? It can be complicated, to say the least.

When dating after divorce and during pandemic times, the actual process of falling in love can be as complicated as finding your perfect match.

If your perfect match showed up at your doorstep tomorrow, what would you do?

For today’s guest, fashion-icon and Bravo star Caroline Stanbury, there was no question.

When her super hot prince Charming appeared in her life right as lockdown happened, they made the decision to move in together and see where the relationship went from there.

Kind of wild, right? 

Especially considering she’d recently been divorced with 3 kids. AND considering her new man was much younger than she was.

 

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Stick around because Caroline will tell us exactly how she conquered dating after divorce (and during pandemic times)

Prepare to be inspired!

But first we have headlines:

 

DATING DISH (2:41)

(2:41) Lizzo Shares Cheeky DM she sent Chris Evans When Drunk

As you’ve probably heard, Lizzo slid into Chris Evans’ DMs via some hilarious (albeit slightly confusing) drunk emoji choices. Damona tells us what we can from this hilarious exchange between two of our favs.

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(5:10) Are your relationship intentions written all over your face?

A new study by Macquarie University inspires an AI that can predict what someone is looking for in a relationship. Unsurprisingly, it was also established that women are better than men at determining if matches are only interested in casual, uncommitted sexual relationships. Damona breaks it down.

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DIVORCED NOT DEAD (9:08)

Caroline Stanbury is a fashion icon, star of Bravo TV’s Ladies of London, host of the Divorced Not Dead Podcast, and an all-around fabulous person.

People, she’s been making headlines all over the world all over her life. She’s had plenty of well-documented relationships with Hugh Grant, Prince Andrew, among others.

Today, she joins Damona to talk about how she conquered dating after divorce and dating during pandemic times.

(10:16) An in-depth look at how dating during pandemic times had a major impact on the seriousness and speed of her relationship and partnership with Sergio, her fiance. 

(13:57) “I’m being treated like I’m some sort of wheel-chaired grandmother that’s gone to Magaluf and picked up a waiter.”

Sergio, Caroline’s fiance, and a professional soccer player, is some years younger than she is. The British Press has been quite ruthless and the double standard is astounding.

(16:00) Age ain’t nothin’ but a number… however would Caroline have agreed to a date if she’d known his age from the jump?

(18:22) Caroline views her engagement and relationship with Sergio as her second chance at happiness. Plus, she feels that life after divorce can be the best time of your life. 

(23:33) Caroline’s Philosophy: Overcoming fear is a huge part of living the life you deserve. Divorce can be scary and devastating, but it doesn’t have to be the end of happiness. 

(31:12) Stop making lists! Caroline believes in ditching the lists to check off all of the qualities of your future love. 

Want More of Caroline Stanbury?

Caroline’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestanbury/?hl=en 

Listen to Damona’s episode of the Divorced Not Dead Podcast: damonahoffman.com/dnd

 

DEAR DAMONA (38:11)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • (Email/Anonymous): I just listened to the episode with Rich Juzwiak. His discussion on pot use and how it can impact relationships hit home with me. My husband I would party together in college and smoke pot. After we got married and had kids, I stopped smoking weed because I found it didn’t work well with parenting. My husband never stopped and it’s now an issue between us. He stays home with the kids while I’m at work. It really bothers me that he’s high when home alone with the kids. What if there’s an emergency? We’ve talked about it many times. He refuses to stop. He refuses to get help. He refuses to get couples counseling. Yet he maintains that he loves me and cares for me and my desires. I want to support him. I took my vows seriously. When he’s not high or drunk, he’s amazing. Rich says it’s okay to leave a relationship if philosophies about pot are vastly different. But it’s not that simple. I can’t just walk away from a 10 year relationship with kids. Help!

 

  • (Meryl): This is Meryl. I’m American living in Tel Aviv. I moved here about two years ago. And I just want to let you know that I listen to your podcast all the time. While I’m working & while I’m at home. And I really have enjoyed it a lot. my question for you is, if they’re good at faking it, and I’m doing everything you say, I tell them, what I’m looking for straight up and very honest. And you know, is there a good time? Like, I’m waiting personally 30 days minimum to sleep with anyone, because, you know, by the fifth day are usually weeding them out, but I’ve just honestly, I’m slowly losing energy to care anymore. And so, I’m curious, what is your thoughts on, you know, dating in a different culture with a different language? Even if they have a great good English with a native, another language and what are your thoughts on? What’s the biggest red flags from an English speaking perspective while dating? Some of them what the different native language and you know how to really know, even if they’re good, the best fakers and the best at faking it how to really know if they’re serious, even if they’re saying, you know, they are

 

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Yoga For Love & Textationships

Hello Lovers, Happy #NationalYogaAwarenessMonth!

This week Rebecca Benenati joins us to co-host a special episode dedicated to Yoga Awareness Month. Rebecca is a certified doula and yoga instructor who is Damona’s teacher and was also her doula in childbirth. Rebecca’s created a large community through Wellborn Lifestyles which offers birth support and soon also yoga classes in Los Angeles. Today Damona and Rebecca discuss how yoga can shift the way you date and improve your relationship:

D’S DATING DISH (2:21)

Does your partner have the seven qualities relationship experts say you need for a lasting relationship?

This week relationship experts told us the 7 Qualities Your Partner Should Have By The Time They’re 30. Do you really need to have these qualities by 30? How does your partner measure up? Damona and Rebecca have thoughts. 

Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose give great co-parenting advice

Have you seen this video of Wiz brushing Sebastian’s hair? Great Parenting! Amber and Wiz’s relationship goes to show that you can co-parent after an ugly breakup. Damona and Rebecca discuss Amber Rose’s surprisingly simple co-parenting tip.

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Could your job be hurting your chances at finding love on Tinder?

Tinder has released the most right swiped professions in the US and the UK! Does Tinder think your job is sexy? Find out on today’s show.

YOGA FOR LOVE (17:46)

Damona and Rebecca give us an in depth look at the benefits of yoga for your love life:

  • How yoga can benefit your relationship
  • Getting started with couple yoga
  • Having Grace in a challenging situation
  • How to navigate finding love after divorce
  • How yoga helps women communicate with their partners

TECHNICALLY DATING (33:26)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here are the topics we answered this week:

  • How to stop going for unavailable men and long-distance relationships?
  • How to meet someone special if you’re always working?
  • How to tell if someone likes you in a romantic way?

 

DAMONA’S DIATRIBE (41:50)

Are you stuck in a “textationship”? A textationship is a relationship that is essentially text only. Here’s the bad news: Textationships rarely move forward and actually hurt your chances of finding a real relationship. Damona gives us us some much needed tough love and honesty about how to move past your textationship.

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Single Moms & Summer Solstice

This week Damona got the chance to interview Rachel DeAlto, the relationship expert from the hit show Married at First Sight. She shared tips on flirting, dating after divorce, and more.

 

D’S DATING DISH (2:12)

Chris Pratt is dating The Governator’s daughter

Chris Pratt was recently spotted picking up Katherine Schwarzenegger for a romantic picnic, snapping shots of them all the while. The oldest daughter of Arnold and Maria Shriver, Katherine is an author and lifestyle blogger. Pratt split from wife Anna Faris in 2017, but seems to be ready to give love another shot. You can read more via Insider here.

Another new dating term for the summer

You know we like to keep our readers up-to-speed on the hottest new lingo, and we’ve got another one to keep your ears out for: freckling. Describing when you get involved with someone over the long, lazy summer nights but cut them out when it’s time to bring out the jackets come fall, you can read more via Independent here.

ABC’s creepy new dating show

The internet is a-blazin’ over The Proposal, ABC’s new reality dating show. A strange mix between The Dating Game and The Bachelor, contestants compete in “challenges” to “win” a proposal from an eligible bachelor or bachelorette live on air. The catch? They don’t meet them until the very end . . . You can read more via The Outline here.

TECHNICALLY DATING (32:40)

We pull the best questions posted on The Textpert App and those emailed to Damona, including:

  • The best way to go about long-distance love
  • If you can fall in love after a traumatic divorce

And many more . . .

HOLLYWOOD HOOKUP (44:54)

It’s Mary J. Blige’s turn for the Hollywood Hookup, as her divorce was finalized just last week. With a seeming preference for those in showbiz, we think she needs someone respectful, established, and mature. Listen to find out who Damona and Producer Thomas picked.

 

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