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E! Daily Pop: Celebrities on Dating Apps

Damona joins the hosts of E! Daily Pop to dish on how to slide into a celeb’s DMs. Here’s what she suggests:

1. Follow your celeb crush on IG.

2. Like a few of their posts.

3. Try to comment on their next couple of posts within the first hour.

4. Make sure your IG profile pic is cute AF.

5. Send a short and sweet DM – aka “Hey and Pray”

“Everyone else said it was too thirsty but I say you need to make yourself visible. Your celeb crush isn’t hanging around in their inbox waiting for your message. You need to command their attention.” – Damona

Watch the full segment below…

 

Bustle: How To Have The “What Are We?” Convo

As your feelings continue to grow for someone you’ve been hanging out with, it may feel like it’s time to set sound boundaries. And even if you know that you’re looking for a capital-P Partner, you may be at a loss when it comes to telling your situationship you’re looking for a relationship.

According to Damona Hoffman, certified dating coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast, a “situationship” is somewhere in between friends with benefits (FWB) and a committed relationship. But unlike a strict FWB situation or an official relationship, the marking of a situationship is a lack of commitment, labels, and any sort of DTR. You may know how you feel, but you have no idea what you are — hookups? Lovers? Seeing each other?

“The issue with many daters today which causes them to feel stuck and dissatisfied is that not enough people are willing to express what they truly want due to fear of rejection,” Hoffman says. “If you’re seeing someone casually and want it to be something more, you owe it to yourself and to them to express how you’re feeling.”

Read the full article for Damona’s tips on how to have the “what are we” convo…

The New York Post: What is ‘roaching’?

Like the nasty namesake insect, the act of “roaching” gets its strength from numbers.

The latest memeified dating discourse is here, defining a phenomenon of courtship that is so unfortunately common as to be unavoidable — much like the infamous cockroach itself.

So-called “roaching” refers to the act of hiding the fact that you’re seeing multiple people from a new romantic partner… To roach is not to cheat, per se, but to be purposefully opaque about your sex life — and there are some telltale signs of this, the latest in a long line of dirty dating trends.

“You can tell if you’re being roached if you feel like the person is not really available or present for you, and very private about certain details,” OkCupid dating coach and host of “The Dates & Mates Podcast” Damona Hoffman told The Post.

Want to know the roaching red flags to look out for? Read the full article here for Damona’s tips.

Daily Mail: Damona Meets Garcelle Beauvais For Lunch

After having had two failed marriages behind her and being a mom to three sons, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Garcelle Beauvais decided to hire Damona as her personal dating coach to help her navigate finding true love.

Damona met with Garcelle for lunch to discuss her patterns in dating. Garcelle shared: “I think the way I show up when I’m dating, I think I have to stop leading with my career… I think sometimes guys would probably want me to be more needy and I’m not. I think that’s a thing.”

 

NPR: Make Dating Apps Work For You

Dating apps are a dime a dozen these days. They come in all different styles and flavors, but all essentially offer users the same twinkling hope: love at first swipe.

Maybe you’re thrilled by all the opportunities at your fingertips. Maybe you’re absolutely exhausted by it all or just wary of strangers online. Wherever you fall on the spectrum, dating apps — especially in the past year and a half — have become a bigger part of our romantic lives than ever. In fact, of all the fish in the sea in 2020, some 270 million people were on at least one dating app.

That’s a lot of fish! But it’s also a lot of pressure to stand out and to find the right match.

Flipping the script starts with taking control of your narrative. And being willing to put in the work, says certified dating coach Damona Hoffman.

“You can be online and swiping within minutes. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to have a quality experience if you haven’t gone into it with a sense of purpose,” says Hoffman.

Listen to the full episode here…

The Top Dating Coaches of 2021-2022

Coach Foundation names their Top 39 Dating Coaches of 2021 – including Damona Hoffman! Here’s a snippet of Damona’s interview:

How is your coaching different from others?

As an early adopter (and success story) of online dating, I came to understand how to use technology more effectively to make connections and this is one of the major tenets of my dating coaching program. Any tool can be frustrating when used incorrectly but fulfilling when used with a deeper understanding. The other hallmark of my program is my philosophy that you should love as you are, without needing to change yourself to be loveable. When we learn more about our uniqueness, we are able to make more meaningful connections with people who see the real us.

What is your niche or specialization?

I work with anyone who is open-minded and open to change but about 65% of my audience is women 30-45 who are relationship-focused.

Check out all of Damona’s answers in the full article.

NPR: Dating Post-Vaccine

Damona Hoffman, a dating coach for the online dating site OkCupid, says that even though the desire to connect in person is there, the confidence might not be.

“People are open to dating again but they’re still a little bit cautious,” she says. “There’s still a little bit of hesitancy about just moving offline and throwing caution to the wind.”

And after more than a year of solitude and distance from others, that hesitation goes beyond trading apps for in-person dating. Some people are feeling stuck altogether.

“The fear of dating is real,” Hoffman says, “and I never want to dismiss that: not being practiced, not feeling like you’re in your best skin and able to put your best foot forward right now because we have been so isolated.”

Read the full article here…

LA Times: Dear Damona

L.A. love coach Damona Hoffman tackles dating and relationship questions on her weekly podcast, “Dates & Mates.” Here, she shares her thoughts on some of the most topical questions from her listeners:

Dear Damona: What is the best way to express to my new boyfriend that recognizing Valentine’s Day is super important to me?

Dear Damona: I’m a 25-year-old female, and I met a guy on a dating app a few months ago. We’ve seen each other twice; both times, he canceled initially… My friends think I shouldn’t waste my time, but I did enjoy hanging out with him and want to give him another chance. Am I being naive?

Dear Damona: I’m 24 and I’ve never kissed anyone. I’m starting to go on dates via different apps, and I’m really nervous about broaching this (and the sex topic). Do you have advice for how to bring this up? Do I even bring it up?

Dear Damona: Do you think we should add a profile picture wearing a mask? I’m seeing them more and more on dating apps.

Read all of Damona’s answers HERE…

NYT: 4 Ways to Ring in the New Year at Home

Few will miss saying goodbye to 2020, though most people will be celebrating the start of a new, and hopefully, a better year in a more subdued way because of the coronavirus pandemic.

Your homebound New Year’s Eve and New Year’s Day can still be romantic, nostalgic, and filled with traditions — old and new. Here are four creative and unexpectedly connective options to consider as you rethink your 2021 corona countdown.

Read the article here to check out Damona’s tips!

NYT: How to Revisit Your First Date

Your relationship might be sorely in need of attention. Why not recreate the special day that sparked it, with an enhancement or three?

Rebooting your romance and reigniting that spark are more important than you think, especially now. One way to reconnect with your partner is to revisit your first date. This may sound silly, but the payoff is surprisingly rewarding.

Click here to read Damona’s suggestions, along with other love experts…

Dear Damona: Dating outside your own race

L.A. love coach Damona Hoffman tackles dating and relationship questions on her weekly podcast, “Dates & Mates.” She said she receives many topical, thought-provoking relationship questions, but none has ever struck a chord with listeners like this one:

Dear Damona: Am I racist if I don’t want to date outside my race?

While being #woke is currently trending on Twitter as I write this, for the last 15 years I’ve contemplated the relationship between race and romance and coached my clients to be “race-open” when they date, because it expands our view of the world and increases your odds of meeting someone special. This practice has been met with many objections along the way.

The first objection I hear when I suggest this: “But Damona, isn’t it my choice who I date?”

Of course, you have freedom in your dating choices, yet there are systemic causes and effects to your decision that are worth examining.

Read the rest of Damona’s answer HERE!

LA Times: Dear Damona

L.A. love coach Damona Hoffman tackles dating and relationship questions on her weekly podcast, “Dates & Mates.” Here, she shares answers to the questions she’s getting about love in the time of coronavirus:

  • I’ve been chatting with someone on a dating app for a few weeks. What is the best way to move things to the next level since we can’t meet in person?
  • I miss my ex and I’ve been tempted to reach out and check on him. Good idea?
  • I love my wife, but her quirks are driving me up the wall right now. Like why does she load the dishwasher like that? Should I say something or bite my tongue?

Read Damona’s answers HERE!