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Publisher’s Weekly: The Modern Love Myth

Damona has officially signed with Seal Press to release The Modern Love Myth in 2024!

As detailed by Publisher’s Weekly, the book is “a sociological deep dive that targets and breaks down the outdated relationship ideals—including religion, race, gender, and more—that hinder people’s ability to find love.”

Keep your eyes peeled for Damona’s first book on shelves in 2024…

People: Alicia Silverstone ‘Got Banned’ from the Same Dating App Twice

Alicia Silverstone is opening up about her previous luck on dating apps — to mixed results!

The actress appeared on The Drew Barrymore Show where she told host and friend Drew Barrymore and dating coach Damona Hoffman that she’d been banned from a dating app twice.

“A few years ago I tried to get on one of the dating apps and I put a fake profile because I wasn’t comfortable yet being me,” Silverstone said. “And then I got kicked off, I got banned.”

 

Bustle: How To Have The “What Are We?” Convo

As your feelings continue to grow for someone you’ve been hanging out with, it may feel like it’s time to set sound boundaries. And even if you know that you’re looking for a capital-P Partner, you may be at a loss when it comes to telling your situationship you’re looking for a relationship.

According to Damona Hoffman, certified dating coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast, a “situationship” is somewhere in between friends with benefits (FWB) and a committed relationship. But unlike a strict FWB situation or an official relationship, the marking of a situationship is a lack of commitment, labels, and any sort of DTR. You may know how you feel, but you have no idea what you are — hookups? Lovers? Seeing each other?

“The issue with many daters today which causes them to feel stuck and dissatisfied is that not enough people are willing to express what they truly want due to fear of rejection,” Hoffman says. “If you’re seeing someone casually and want it to be something more, you owe it to yourself and to them to express how you’re feeling.”

Read the full article for Damona’s tips on how to have the “what are we” convo…

The New York Post: What is ‘roaching’?

Like the nasty namesake insect, the act of “roaching” gets its strength from numbers.

The latest memeified dating discourse is here, defining a phenomenon of courtship that is so unfortunately common as to be unavoidable — much like the infamous cockroach itself.

So-called “roaching” refers to the act of hiding the fact that you’re seeing multiple people from a new romantic partner… To roach is not to cheat, per se, but to be purposefully opaque about your sex life — and there are some telltale signs of this, the latest in a long line of dirty dating trends.

“You can tell if you’re being roached if you feel like the person is not really available or present for you, and very private about certain details,” OkCupid dating coach and host of “The Dates & Mates Podcast” Damona Hoffman told The Post.

Want to know the roaching red flags to look out for? Read the full article here for Damona’s tips.

Daily Mail: Damona Meets Garcelle Beauvais For Lunch

After having had two failed marriages behind her and being a mom to three sons, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Garcelle Beauvais decided to hire Damona as her personal dating coach to help her navigate finding true love.

Damona met with Garcelle for lunch to discuss her patterns in dating. Garcelle shared: “I think the way I show up when I’m dating, I think I have to stop leading with my career… I think sometimes guys would probably want me to be more needy and I’m not. I think that’s a thing.”

 

NPR: Make Dating Apps Work For You

Dating apps are a dime a dozen these days. They come in all different styles and flavors, but all essentially offer users the same twinkling hope: love at first swipe.

Maybe you’re thrilled by all the opportunities at your fingertips. Maybe you’re absolutely exhausted by it all or just wary of strangers online. Wherever you fall on the spectrum, dating apps — especially in the past year and a half — have become a bigger part of our romantic lives than ever. In fact, of all the fish in the sea in 2020, some 270 million people were on at least one dating app.

That’s a lot of fish! But it’s also a lot of pressure to stand out and to find the right match.

Flipping the script starts with taking control of your narrative. And being willing to put in the work, says certified dating coach Damona Hoffman.

“You can be online and swiping within minutes. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to have a quality experience if you haven’t gone into it with a sense of purpose,” says Hoffman.

Listen to the full episode here…

The Top Dating Coaches of 2021-2022

Coach Foundation names their Top 39 Dating Coaches of 2021 – including Damona Hoffman! Here’s a snippet of Damona’s interview:

How is your coaching different from others?

As an early adopter (and success story) of online dating, I came to understand how to use technology more effectively to make connections and this is one of the major tenets of my dating coaching program. Any tool can be frustrating when used incorrectly but fulfilling when used with a deeper understanding. The other hallmark of my program is my philosophy that you should love as you are, without needing to change yourself to be loveable. When we learn more about our uniqueness, we are able to make more meaningful connections with people who see the real us.

What is your niche or specialization?

I work with anyone who is open-minded and open to change but about 65% of my audience is women 30-45 who are relationship-focused.

Check out all of Damona’s answers in the full article.

NPR: Dating Post-Vaccine

Damona Hoffman, a dating coach for the online dating site OkCupid, says that even though the desire to connect in person is there, the confidence might not be.

“People are open to dating again but they’re still a little bit cautious,” she says. “There’s still a little bit of hesitancy about just moving offline and throwing caution to the wind.”

And after more than a year of solitude and distance from others, that hesitation goes beyond trading apps for in-person dating. Some people are feeling stuck altogether.

“The fear of dating is real,” Hoffman says, “and I never want to dismiss that: not being practiced, not feeling like you’re in your best skin and able to put your best foot forward right now because we have been so isolated.”

Read the full article here…

LA Times: Dear Damona

L.A. love coach Damona Hoffman tackles dating and relationship questions on her weekly podcast, “Dates & Mates.” Here, she shares her thoughts on some of the most topical questions from her listeners:

Dear Damona: What is the best way to express to my new boyfriend that recognizing Valentine’s Day is super important to me?

Dear Damona: I’m a 25-year-old female, and I met a guy on a dating app a few months ago. We’ve seen each other twice; both times, he canceled initially… My friends think I shouldn’t waste my time, but I did enjoy hanging out with him and want to give him another chance. Am I being naive?

Dear Damona: I’m 24 and I’ve never kissed anyone. I’m starting to go on dates via different apps, and I’m really nervous about broaching this (and the sex topic). Do you have advice for how to bring this up? Do I even bring it up?

Dear Damona: Do you think we should add a profile picture wearing a mask? I’m seeing them more and more on dating apps.

Read all of Damona’s answers HERE…

Hello Giggles: How to talk to your partner about sex

Damona spoke with Ashley Uzer at Hello Giggles about communication and sex. A big takeaway – your partner is not a mind reader! Be open with them about what you need (especially when it comes to kinky sex).

Start small”

You probably don’t pull out all your sexual stops on the first date, right? Same theory goes for rolling out your toolkit of kinky fantasies.

“Start with mentioning something that turns you on and then ask him how he feels about it, and if it’s something he’d be up for trying,” suggests Hoffman. “You don’t want to bring all 50 shades out the first time you have sex.”

Read the rest of Damona’s advice HERE!

Self Love & Vulnerability

Love Yourself First

Have you ever heard the phrase, “You have to love yourself before you can love someone else”?

If you remember a few episodes ago titled “Marriage Boot Camp & Bad Advice,” Dr. V’s opinion was that you can’t love yourself in the same way that your partner would love you. Which is true.

BUT it got us thinking: there is some value in being able to understand yourself and take care of yourself in order to be more prepared for a healthier relationship. We dedicated this episode to understanding self love as it relates to dating with Jonathon Aslay. Here’s the rundown:

 

D’S DATING DISH

Wendy Williams is dating after filing for divorce

The divorce has finally happened! Should Wendy be dating already after her divorce? Damona and Jonathon have thoughts.

A new way to teach millennials how to date

CNN reports that South Korea is teaching university students how to date through a “Gender and Culture” class. Is this the most effective way to teach dating? Damona breaks it down.

Match announces a new service, a one-on-one phone call with an expert dating coach

Match is personalizing the world of online dating! What does this mean for you?

GO LOVE YOURSELF

Jonathon is America’s leading Midlife relationships expert and he has just published a fantastic guide to self love as it relates to dating called, “What the Heck is Self Love Anyway?”

Self love is an antidote to potential chaos,” Jonathon explains.

Chaos in your life is going to come in a variety of forms – whether it’s a relationship transition, job stress, family stress, etc.

“You have to learn to take care of yourself before you take care of anyone else,” Jonathon explains. A good self love and personal development practice will help you be ready for your next relationship.

In this episode, Jonathon explains:

  • How to allow yourself to feel your feelings
  • How to begin a daily personal development practice
  • How to “Shift away from the mundane and fill your own cup with love.”

Get Jonathon’s book today!

TECHNICALLY DATING

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

  • How to be vulnerable again in a relationship?
  • Why not talk about politics, religion, and money on a first date?
  • How do you get motivated to date again?

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