IF YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT POLITICS ON A FIRST DATE, THINGS PROBABLY AREN’T GOING WELL.

We know, this is controversial, especially at a time when everything feels political.

That said, there’s a lot of grey area in politics and even when someone is voting for the same candidate – a lot can get miscommunicated and muddied in political conversations.

So you are much better off talking about values and goals because at the end of the day that will teach you more about the person you’re dating.

If you didn’t already get the picture, this week is all about First Dates.

Damona is joined by Rich Juzwiak, advice columnist behind “How To Do It” in Slate and co-host of the Pot Psychology podcast. Rich also happens to write for the Washington Post Date Lab column with Damona – matching hopeful singles in the DC on blind dates and then writing the recap.

But first we have headlines:

DATING DISH (2:30)

(2:52) Men say sex is better during the pandemic. Is it true? 

In a recent study by the New York Post, men reported having more sex than women. Damona examines the facts of this study. 

(5:55) Are dating apps ruining your self-esteem?

Damona looks at an article by StyleCaster where the author reveals dating apps were affecting her mental health. 

RICH JUZWIAK INTERVIEW NOTES (14:00)

Rich Juzwiak is a writer for Slate’s “How to Do It” which answers intense questions about sex, love, and relatioships. He and Damona cover A LOT:

(18:20) You watch movies and read books to view the world from a new perspective. Here’s why you should find a date who also has a different life perspective than you do.

(21:30) Do matches based on physical attraction have a higher success rate?

(25:00) First date topics: If you’re going to ignore Damona’s political moratorium, then here’s how to have THAT conversation

(28:00) 🚨STOP RIGHT NOW🚨: Are you breaking the 1 hour first date rule?

(26:19) Both Rich & Damona have been in relationships with partners where being a vegetarian comes into play. Can meat eaters vs. plant eaters truly enjoy a life together? 

(31:18) As a co-host of the hit podcast Pot Psychology, Rich discusses the impact of smoking pot on relationships and his personal experiences with it.

(36:29) Demi Lovato’s recent declaration of her sexuality brings up a major discussion of the importance and effects of labels. 

Want More of Rich?

Date Lab Column: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/date-lab/

How to Do It: https://slate.com/human-interest/how-to-do-it

Pot Psychology Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pot-psychology/id1496859784

 

DEAR DAMONA (42:08)

Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:

• Meg (Voicemail): I met a guy on a dating app, and I’m not finding myself to be super attracted to him on the first couple dates. He’s not the physical type I usually go for. He feels more like a friend.
• (Sora): Hello Damona! I love listening to your podcast, and I hope you will answer my question. Do you believe in the rubber band theory in a relationship where a guy pulls away and then returns? My guy has not contacted me for 8 days, should I wait and assume it’s all part of the rubber band theory or am I already being ghosted?

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