You’re A Babe, Too
As a dating and relationship coach, I know intimacy can be intimidating. Especially since we’re constantly comparing ourselves to the unrealistic bodies we see everyday on tv, magazines, and on social media.
The CEO and Founder of Babe You, Laurie DiBiasio, pays a lot of attention to the way we are affected by these unrealistic expectations and double standards.
I believe in Laurie’s refreshing approach to lingerie for women. As much as photoshop affects our daily lives, we all would love to look like a celebrity even for just an evening.
Are you missing out on intimate moments in your relationship because you’re worried about the way you look in the bedroom?
Do you feel uncomfortable disrobing for intimacy, or are you stuck wearing a loose fitting granny gown or one of those tiny garter ensembles that push and pinch you in all the wrong places?
They only accentuate our problem areas rather than playing up our positives!
I know how you feel because I’ve been there too. You are beautiful and you deserve to wear something that is going to INSTANTLY make you look and feel sexy.
That is why I am partnering with BABE YOU Instant Body-Transforming Lingerie.
They have spent years designing and crafting a full line of glamorous, seductive, PATENTED body-transforming lingerie that gives us an INSTANT hourglass figure for romance.
At BabeYou.com, you can customize your own lingerie outfits to express your individual style and hide your specific problem areas.
It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3!
Step 1) Select your body-transforming base garment…vivacious pink, sexy red, or sultry black!
You know that little roll that comes over the top of most shapewear or under your bra line?
The base garment helped me get rid of that and cover my stretch marks (from two kids – ya know)
Step 2) Choose from their matching patented add-on system.
They have dozens sexy teddies, bras, negligees, and wraps to wear on your base garment that help you hide problem areas and accentuate your sleek new hourglass shape!
Step 3) Accessorize with their full line of Hollywood style jewelry, shoes, and accessories.
When things heat up, BABE YOU is uniquely designed to remain on during your more intimate moments… if you know what I mean…ensuring that you feel confident and sexy in the bedroom.
BABE YOU: “‘Cuz Just like the Celebrities, You’re a Babe, too!”
Visit BabeYou.com and use the offer code DATESANDMATES to get 10% off your first order. That’s B-A-B-E-Y-O-U .com
Argument Addiction & Chemistry Lies
Chemistry is a LIAR
Today’s episode is all about Identifying past relationship patterns is crucial to restructuring your dating strategy to find success.
DATING DISH (1:50)
Does your wedding budget predict your chances at divorce?
According to Novi Money, if you spend $1000 or less, you are more likely to get divorced within 10 years. Damona and Producer Leah discuss.
#NationalCourtshipDay
Do you remember the Duggars? Apparently they’re trying to make #NationalCourtshipDay happen. What is the difference between courtship and dating?
Demi Moore spills the tea on her marriage with Ashton Kutcher
Should he respond? Damona and Producer Leah break it down.
Argument & Chemistry Addiction (15:00)
Silent but Deadly Relationship Killers
We’ve said it many times but will say it again: Identifying past relationship patterns is crucial to restructuring your dating strategy to find success.
In Damona’s own personal dating journey, she had to overcome an addiction.
I had an addiction to “chemistry.” She LOVED that serotonin rush she got from a new connection and equated conflict with “passion.” But none of these relationships worked.
As it turns out, this is really common. Dr. Phillip Lee, notable marital therapist and co-head of the Cornell Medical Center, joins us today to break it down.
According to his new book, Argument Addiction, co-authored with his wife, our biological predisposition to chemistry addiction can make stable relationships difficult.
But there is a solution! Drs. Lee and Rudolph have unlocked the secrets to successful relationships through their extensive research. We cover:
Get your copy of Argument Addiction and be sure to follow Drs. Lee and Phillip on Twitter (@ArgumentBook) and Instragram (@ArgumentAddictionBook)
TECHNICALLY DATING (30:20)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Dating Fatigue & Dumbing it Down
Have you ever wanted to give up on dating?
Today’s episode is all about dating fatigue and finding purpose in dating with author, Kacie Main!
DATING DISH (2:30)
Do ladies dumb themselves down to date?
According to Mirror UK new study shows that 37% of women feel that men are intimidated by their intellect. Damona and Kacie have thoughts.
One trick to get a second date
Daily Mail reports that saying your dates name multiple times may be the key to getting a second date.
Plenty of Fish has banned filtered photos!
What exactly does this mean? Damona and Kacie break it down.
A Drastic Solution to Dating Fatigue
Giving Up Men for Lent & Finding Purpose in Dating
We’ve talked about dating fatigue on Dates & Mates in the past, but have you ever been so burnt out on it that you decided to quit the dating game entirely?
Kacie Main did. In 2017, she got so burnt out on searching for love after a string of questionable decisions, that she decided to hit the reset button and give up men for lent (about 40 days.)
A little drastic, maybe?
Maybe not, it turns out! I loved hearing about Kacie’s journey from what she calls “dating desperation” to really understanding and finding her purpose in dating.
We go in-depth on dating fatigue and also cover:
You can find Kacie at kaciemain.com! Make sure to get a copy of her book “I Gave Up Men For Lent: The story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning” on Amazon!
TECHNICALLY DATING
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Master Class: Dating App Dos And Don’ts
A Comprehensive Guide To Dating Apps
Everything you need to know about dating’s latest developments
There have been so many changes in the dating landscape even just this month! Are you up to speed?
On this week’s episode of Dates & Mates, Damona gives a masterclass on dating app dos and don’ts, especially for Facebook’s NEW dating app.
We know what you’re thinking! ANOTHER DATING APP?!
But today, Damona gives you a step by step assessment of what might be wrong in your dating plan so you don’t feel the frustration of keeping up with all the new developments in dating.
TOP 5 Dating App Problems (2:39)
PLUS, did you know that the latest studies on the marriage market show that there is a shortage of men with marriageable qualities? (21:00)
Damona covers this study published in the Journal of Marriage & Family and gives you the rundown and goes in-depth on:
Facebook Dating is Here! (30:00)
If you or anyone you know is overwhelmed by dating today, don’t miss this episode!
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Bonus reading materials: Damona in Essence and Shondaland
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If you want a more in-depth step-by-step tutorial on Facebook Dating, find @alittlenudge on Instagram here!
Modern Fairytales & FOMO
DATING IN THE DIGITAL AGE
Have you ever logged on to Instagram and it seems like everyone and their mom is getting engaged? Is Instagram-related relationship FOMO impacting your dating life?
On this week’s episode of Dates & Mates, I talk with Hannah Orenstein, Senior Dating Editor at Elite Daily and author of the new novel, Playing With Matches.
DATING DISH (1:58)
What is sexy-poor?
Do poor men actually have an advantage in dating? D’Marge thinks so.
What you can learn from polyamory?
A recent study on polyamorous couples reveals interesting insights for sexuality. Damona and Hannah break it down.
Everything that is wrong with your dating profile
Damona’s dating profile tips were featured in Shondaland! Damona and Hannah discuss.
Are #relationshipgoals ruining dating? (14:00)
How social comparison affects your relationships
Hannah writes a lot about how the pressures of social media impact dating today. Are you really living your best life if it’s not on Instagram?
Yes you can! Hannah and I had a great discussion about social comparison and how it affects dating today.
We go in-depth on:
TECHNICALLY DATING (26:00)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Shondaland: Tired of an inbox full of “hey”?
Damona is featured here in Shondaland for a profile makeover piece, in which she discloses how the 3 C’s can spark more engagement with your dating profile. Here’s a sneak peek:
“THE DATER: Colleen, 25, a wholesale manager for a beauty brand based in the South
For five-plus years, Colleen has had an on-again, off-again relationship with the standard trio of dating apps: Hinge, Bumble, Tinder. So far, she says most of her matches have felt like “a waste of time.” Her inbox is stacked with “Hey” after “Hey” from bland guys with whom she has zero chemistry, and who rarely engage her in conversations about her own interests. Among her lengthy list of duds is the Atlanta Falcons player who commented on her photo with a tired pick-up line (that, at least, resulted in an entertaining screenshot for her friends) and the creepy guy who claimed to coincidentally “run into her” one night while she was out with friends and proceeded to follow her around for the evening.
THE EXPERT: Damona Hoffman
Hoffman jokes that she’s been coaching online daters “since they used to do profiles on stone tablets.” In addition to one on one coaching, Hoffman frequently does public speaking engagements on the subject, offers an online course, and hosts a weekly podcast called Dates & Mates. She thinks of dating profiles as a form of storytelling, and helps clients craft “narratives” designed to engage exactly the people they’re hoping to meet, as opposed to profiles that could appeal to anyone. “You could get a lot of messages, but if they’re a lot of the wrong messages, or you’re not going on dates with the right kind of people, then it feels exhausting, frustrating and overwhelming,” Hoffman says.
We asked Hoffman to review Colleen’s profile and come up with actionable tips that will help this “meh” dater find an authentic connection.”
Click here to read Damona’s tips!
The Game of Desire & Dating With Dominance
HOW TO WIN THE GAME OF DESIRE
Season 7 is HERE!
Modern love has changed DRASTICALLY since I first started the Dates & Mates Podcast 7 years ago but I’m committed to continuing to keep you up to speed on the latest news, tip, and techniques in the dating game.
Speaking of dating, do you ever feel like finding love is just game of cat & mouse between men and women?
Then you’ll want to hear from, SHAN BOODY, sexologist and intimacy expert behind The Game of Desire. She performed a study on how to come out on top in the game of love. Can you actually learn to be more attractive?
Apparently you can! Her book, The Game of Desire is revolutionary in so many ways and I’m thrilled to finally have her on the show after watching her business grow the last couple of years.
We give you the skinny on:
Make sure you and a friend are both subscribed to Dates & Mates this season on your favorite podcast platform so you don’t miss any of the info-rich, entertaining episodes that I have lined up for you this season.
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Hello Giggles: How to talk to your partner about sex
Damona spoke with Ashley Uzer at Hello Giggles about communication and sex. A big takeaway – your partner is not a mind reader! Be open with them about what you need (especially when it comes to kinky sex).
“Start small”
You probably don’t pull out all your sexual stops on the first date, right? Same theory goes for rolling out your toolkit of kinky fantasies.
“Start with mentioning something that turns you on and then ask him how he feels about it, and if it’s something he’d be up for trying,” suggests Hoffman. “You don’t want to bring all 50 shades out the first time you have sex.”
Read the rest of Damona’s advice HERE!
Nice Guys & F Boys
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THE ADVICE YOU DIDN’T ASK FOR BUT NEED TO HEAR
As a dating coach of 15 years, Damona’s made it her mission to show you how to date for a long-term commitment. But this week we got to thinking – what can daters learn from people who aren’t looking for “a last first kiss”?
Enter Clint Coley, comedian behind the podcast, “Advice From A Fuckboy.” (shocking, I know.)
DATING DISH (2:30)
Have you been dogfished?
Have you ever swiped right on someone because they had a cute god in their pictures? You have been dogfished! Damona and Clint break it down.
Jamie Foxx teaches us all about relationship rebounds
Jamie and Katie call it quits and he’s already on to the next. Was Kate getting the 7 year itch? Damona has thoughts.
Can men and women really have platonic relationships?
The Atlantic covers a new study that suggests that men and women may not be able to have platonic relationships. Clint has strong opinions about this one.
Advice from a F***Boy
Dating advice from a man with no relationship goals
Damona and Clint have some VERY different opinions about dating but it makes for great conversation.
They talk:
Make sure to check out Clint’s Podcast, Advice from A Fuckboy!
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
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Good News You Can Use!
Can I share some good news with you?
The Dates & Mates Community is finding TRUE LOVE
It’s been a great month
I don’t like to brag, but I’m giving myself a pat on the back this month. TWO Dates & Mates couples are on their journey to happily ever after!If you watched my tv show, A Question of Love on A+E Networks, you know that we put 3 relationships to the test and helped them explore the insecurities that might be hurting their relationship.
During this time, Nicky was really open and honest about the trust issues she had with men. For her entire life, she watched men leave her grandmother, mother, and aunts.
She was convinced that she would not break the pattern. All of these past disappointments almost led her to lose Jamie, the man that genuinely wanted to prove that he was going to be around forever.
Her trust issues almost killed their relationship! Here’s a short peek at their relationship journey!
Nicky & Jamie’s Relationship Journey on FYI’s A Question of Love from Damona on Vimeo.
I’m so happy for Nicky and Jamie! They were wonderful to work with on the show and I wish them a lifetime of love and happiness!
Also CONGRATS TO ALICE AND HER BAE!
Broadening your horizons really works!
Alice is a long-time listener of Dates & Mates and she’s applied some advice that I gave on the show to make a match:
Are you ready for your love story to begin?
In a few weeks I’ll be launching a new and improved version of my 30 Day Dating Playbook and since you’re part of my VIP community, I’d like to give you access to get EARLY ACCESS the to join the program before registration opens up to the general public. I’ll also through in a special VIP discount for you too.
In a nutshell, The 30 Day Dating Playbook is 30 days of video, audio, tutorials and quick start tips that you can start using right away! You’ll discover things like:
If you want into the VIP Early Access list, all you have to do is click this link and look out for an email from me with registration details in a couple weeks!
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Body Confidence & Mojo Makeover
WOULD DATING BE EASIER IF WE WERE MORE BODY CONFIDENT?
Is it time you got your mojo back?
We get REAL on Dates & Mates this week. Damona says, “Some days I don’t feel great about my body. Maybe you can relate? But I figured that if I opened up and faced my true feelings about my body image, it might help you and I become more body positive together.”
We sat down with Dana B Meyers, the Queen of Mojo Makeovers, and Laurie DiBiasio, CEO of Babe You Lingerie, to talk about body confidence and self love.
This episode is all about:
Here’s the rundown:
Damona’s Story (1:30)
Body Positivity is hard at any age
Your partner wants you to love your body as much as they do (7:30)
Stop deflecting compliments! (8:30)
Dana’s method to transforming NEGATIVE BODY BANTER into a SEXY SELF LOVE AFFIRMATION (9:45)
“If I just lost 10 pounds, I will find love” (16:00)
Building sensuality with another person (19:00)
Especially if you’ve been out of the game for a while or if you and your partner need to spice it up
Choose Babe You! With Laurie DiBiasio (33:00)
Why Lingerie should be visible (34:00)
The hourglass shape has historically been the most desirable shape (36:00)
Do things change when you see someone in a more intimate situation for the first time? (38:00)
We like feeling beautiful – not just for other people! (43:00)
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Date Lab: Are drinking habits a deal-breaker?
This week, Damona covered a date that was set up by The Washington Post Date Lab!
Kate Bohan describes the men she has dated in the past as “good humans” who were just not right for her. The 32-year-old California native who handles billing for a study-abroad provider is seeking someone “genuine, handsome, curious and kind who believes that humanity is all connected.” The Date Lab team set her up with Alex Reading, 28, a George Washington University graduate student studying philosophy and social policy.
Kate says she doesn’t embarrass easily. But she described the feeling of first meeting Alex at Ris in the West End and taking the required photos as “awkward prom.” To break the ice, Kate suggested they order a drink, then noticed an uncomfortable look on Alex’s face. “Oh, God, he doesn’t drink,” Kate immediately realized. She was right.
Click here to see if this was a deal-breaker for Kate…
Choose Babe You
You’re A Babe, Too
As a dating and relationship coach, I know intimacy can be intimidating. Especially since we’re constantly comparing ourselves to the unrealistic bodies we see everyday on tv, magazines, and on social media.
The CEO and Founder of Babe You, Laurie DiBiasio, pays a lot of attention to the way we are affected by these unrealistic expectations and double standards.
Read Laurie’s full article here!
I believe in Laurie’s refreshing approach to lingerie for women. As much as photoshop affects our daily lives, we all would love to look like a celebrity even for just an evening.
Are you missing out on intimate moments in your relationship because you’re worried about the way you look in the bedroom?
Do you feel uncomfortable disrobing for intimacy, or are you stuck wearing a loose fitting granny gown or one of those tiny garter ensembles that push and pinch you in all the wrong places?
They only accentuate our problem areas rather than playing up our positives!
I know how you feel because I’ve been there too. You are beautiful and you deserve to wear something that is going to INSTANTLY make you look and feel sexy.
That is why I am partnering with BABE YOU Instant Body-Transforming Lingerie.
They have spent years designing and crafting a full line of glamorous, seductive, PATENTED body-transforming lingerie that gives us an INSTANT hourglass figure for romance.
At BabeYou.com, you can customize your own lingerie outfits to express your individual style and hide your specific problem areas.
It’s as easy as 1, 2, 3!
Step 1) Select your body-transforming base garment…vivacious pink, sexy red, or sultry black!
You know that little roll that comes over the top of most shapewear or under your bra line?
The base garment helped me get rid of that and cover my stretch marks (from two kids – ya know)
Step 2) Choose from their matching patented add-on system.
They have dozens sexy teddies, bras, negligees, and wraps to wear on your base garment that help you hide problem areas and accentuate your sleek new hourglass shape!
Step 3) Accessorize with their full line of Hollywood style jewelry, shoes, and accessories.
When things heat up, BABE YOU is uniquely designed to remain on during your more intimate moments… if you know what I mean…ensuring that you feel confident and sexy in the bedroom.
BABE YOU: “‘Cuz Just like the Celebrities, You’re a Babe, too!”
Visit BabeYou.com and use the offer code DATESANDMATES to get 10% off your first order. That’s B-A-B-E-Y-O-U .com