AM I EVER GOING TO LOVE OR LOVE AGAIN?
After a breakup, divorce, or a loss of a partner, we often ask ourselves this question.
In the description of this show we say you’ll laugh, you’ll cry, and you’ll believe in love again. But have you ever had to learn how to love again after loss?
Whether you’ve been through a breakup, divorce, or the passing of your partner this episode is for you. Healing your heart is a long process – A lot of us feel guilty moving on or feel like we’ll never find someone as great as what we once had.
We’ve all been there.
But today we want to give you hope. That is why I’ve brought in Gladys Diaz – a love expert who helps people learn to love and trust again.
She is the co-founder of The Love Twins of Heart’s Desire International.
After being widowed at a young age, Gladys believed that she would never love or be loved again. She and her sister developed a program that women how to love after loss – a program that she followed to meet the second man of her dreams 19 years ago. Here’s the rundown:
DATING DISH
How to find the perfect first date spot
According to GQ, you should find a few first date spots and stick to them. Damona and Gladys discuss.
Do you really need to find your intellectual match?
Damona and Gladys have thoughts on this article from Female First.
Do you want to feel safer when dating?
Apparently there is a brand new chaperoning / matchmaking service that takes away the pressure of meeting a stranger in public for the first time. Is this really necessary?
Love & Loss
Learn to Love Again
Gladys lost the love of her life at age 27. After some time, she developed a program to heal her own heart and open herself up to love again. Gladys now helps women of all backgrounds heal from breakups, divorce, and the loss of a partner.
We cover:
- Gladys’ Love Story
- Breakups and divorces are in a lot of ways like the passing of a partner
- Limiting Belief: I will never love again
- Feeling guilty for moving on
- The two steps you must do before moving on
- Accepting new love in your life
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
- What’s the deal with people who put someone else’s kids in their dating profile?
- Is online dating a must if you’re 39 and divorced?
Dating Horrors & Avoiding Ghosting
WELCOME TO THE DATES & MATES HOUSE OF HORRORS!
via GIPHY
Big Takeaways from this episode are: Don’t be weird on first dates and avoid ghosting!
For everyone who is new to the Dates & Mates community, every year we round up the funniest stories of the absolute WORST dates in history. Let’s laugh together about the most horrible, freaky, WILD dates
Then I break them down and tell you how you can avoid getting yourself trapped in one of these situations!
SPOOKY DATING DISH (1:30)
Should you join a paternity union?
WARNING: Do not procreate with Future. His baby mamas are unionizing and Damona gives us the run down.
via GIPHY
What’s up with the ghosts?
According to a new study from Dating.Com, 45% of daters ghost after the first date because they feel that it’s just easier to drop all communication. Aren’t y’all tired of ghosts and ghosting? Damona has THOUGHTS on avoiding ghosting.
via GIPHY
What is a paperclipping and why won’t it leave you alone?
NEW fun dating term courtesy of AskMen: Paperclipping. Damona breaks it down, but this picture says it all:
LET’S LAUGH TOGETHER (12:00)
DATING A RICH GUY ISN’T ALL THAT GREAT (13:00)
We’re TEAM NATASHA! Don’t forget to subscribe to her podcast, Kinda Dating, so you don’t miss Damona’s upcoming interviews!
PROM NIGHT (22:00)
For more HILARIOUS stories, you can find Rob on instagram (@icecoldrob)
CREEPY STALKERS (25:00)
Rhumel of Girrrl Can I Ask You Something, is GREAT! Check out her podcast!
DON’T STICK YOUR HANDS IN PEOPLE’S MOUTHS! (32:00)
Lysz Flo is cracking us UP! Check out her podcast, Creatively Exposed!
Gold Digger & The Sexuality Secret
I AIN’T SAYING SHE’S A GOLD DIGGER… BUT SHE MIGHT BE A UNICORN
Do you ever wish you could be a little sexier? More free with your sexuality – the way you see people in media?
What could you learn if you could go behind the scenes a Playboy? Well today we have Wendy Miller with us to give us the inside scoop on all those dirty little secrets.
Wendy Miller, Host of Sex Ed The Musical, Former Playboy TV Head of Programming, and self-proclaimed “Sex Sherpa”, gives secrets on how to get comfortable with your sexuality and achieve fulfillment in all types of relationships
DATING DISH (5:50)
Is Kanye Wrong?
Kanye has requested that Kim stop dressing so sexy because it is “hurting his soul.” Wendy and Damona have THOUGHTS.
Everything you need to know before you start your sugar career
Have you ever wondered if a sugar mama or sugar daddy situation is right for you? Damona and Wendy break it down.
How to find a unicorn on dating apps
Actually, “unicorn hunting” is a term for finding a third party to join your threesome. This article brought up a lot of extra questions. Damona asks and Wendy answers.
Sexy Secrets (19:30)
Everything Wendy learned at Playboy
Wendy worked at Playboy so you don’t have to. She gives us the GREATEST insights on everything about sexuality and self love.
We go in-depth on:
Wendy’s podcast, Sex Ed The Musical, gives us LIFE. Don’t miss it.
TECHNICALLY DATING (40:20)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
DO YOU HAVE A DATING HORROR STORY?
Done with Dating & The Cheerleader Effect
BE THE HOST WITH THE MOST
Okay so we talked about breakups last week, what do you do when you are ready to take on dating?
Party!
Samantha Burns, AKA the millennial love expert, tells us her exact steps to ditching dating forever in her new book: Done with Dating: 7 Steps to Finding Your Person
DATING DISH (2:00)
Is it weird that Kayley Cuoco isn’t living with her new husband?
You may remember that in her last divorce – asked for a HUGE alimony. Maybe she’s still healing from that and needs to take it slow? We have thoughts.
Find your soulmate before the end of the world!
Tinder’s new content-forward programming will find help you love while you play a “choose your own adventure” game on their platform. Damona breaks it down.
Did you know there are apps to fix your relationships?
There are dating apps and now there are relationship apps backed by the Gottman researchers. Are these worth it? Damona breaks it down.
DATING IS A PARTY (14:00)
Be the host with the most
Samantha’s new book Done with Dating: 7 Steps to Finding Your Person is a great follow up to her first book Breaking Up and Bouncing Back: Moving On to Create the Love Life You Deserve. She gives us her seven steps to get back on the horse and find your person.
We go in-depth on:
TECHNICALLY DATING (35:00)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
DO YOU HAVE A DATING HORROR STORY?
Love & Loss
AM I EVER GOING TO LOVE OR LOVE AGAIN?
After a breakup, divorce, or a loss of a partner, we often ask ourselves this question.
In the description of this show we say you’ll laugh, you’ll cry, and you’ll believe in love again. But have you ever had to learn how to love again after loss?
Whether you’ve been through a breakup, divorce, or the passing of your partner this episode is for you. Healing your heart is a long process – A lot of us feel guilty moving on or feel like we’ll never find someone as great as what we once had.
We’ve all been there.
But today we want to give you hope. That is why I’ve brought in Gladys Diaz – a love expert who helps people learn to love and trust again.
She is the co-founder of The Love Twins of Heart’s Desire International.
After being widowed at a young age, Gladys believed that she would never love or be loved again. She and her sister developed a program that women how to love after loss – a program that she followed to meet the second man of her dreams 19 years ago. Here’s the rundown:
DATING DISH
How to find the perfect first date spot
According to GQ, you should find a few first date spots and stick to them. Damona and Gladys discuss.
Do you really need to find your intellectual match?
Damona and Gladys have thoughts on this article from Female First.
Do you want to feel safer when dating?
Apparently there is a brand new chaperoning / matchmaking service that takes away the pressure of meeting a stranger in public for the first time. Is this really necessary?
Love & Loss
Learn to Love Again
Gladys lost the love of her life at age 27. After some time, she developed a program to heal her own heart and open herself up to love again. Gladys now helps women of all backgrounds heal from breakups, divorce, and the loss of a partner.
We cover:
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Argument Addiction & Chemistry Lies
Chemistry is a LIAR
Today’s episode is all about Identifying past relationship patterns is crucial to restructuring your dating strategy to find success.
DATING DISH (1:50)
Does your wedding budget predict your chances at divorce?
According to Novi Money, if you spend $1000 or less, you are more likely to get divorced within 10 years. Damona and Producer Leah discuss.
#NationalCourtshipDay
Do you remember the Duggars? Apparently they’re trying to make #NationalCourtshipDay happen. What is the difference between courtship and dating?
Demi Moore spills the tea on her marriage with Ashton Kutcher
Should he respond? Damona and Producer Leah break it down.
Argument & Chemistry Addiction (15:00)
Silent but Deadly Relationship Killers
We’ve said it many times but will say it again: Identifying past relationship patterns is crucial to restructuring your dating strategy to find success.
In Damona’s own personal dating journey, she had to overcome an addiction.
I had an addiction to “chemistry.” She LOVED that serotonin rush she got from a new connection and equated conflict with “passion.” But none of these relationships worked.
As it turns out, this is really common. Dr. Phillip Lee, notable marital therapist and co-head of the Cornell Medical Center, joins us today to break it down.
According to his new book, Argument Addiction, co-authored with his wife, our biological predisposition to chemistry addiction can make stable relationships difficult.
But there is a solution! Drs. Lee and Rudolph have unlocked the secrets to successful relationships through their extensive research. We cover:
Get your copy of Argument Addiction and be sure to follow Drs. Lee and Phillip on Twitter (@ArgumentBook) and Instragram (@ArgumentAddictionBook)
TECHNICALLY DATING (30:20)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Dating Fatigue & Dumbing it Down
Have you ever wanted to give up on dating?
Today’s episode is all about dating fatigue and finding purpose in dating with author, Kacie Main!
DATING DISH (2:30)
Do ladies dumb themselves down to date?
According to Mirror UK new study shows that 37% of women feel that men are intimidated by their intellect. Damona and Kacie have thoughts.
One trick to get a second date
Daily Mail reports that saying your dates name multiple times may be the key to getting a second date.
Plenty of Fish has banned filtered photos!
What exactly does this mean? Damona and Kacie break it down.
A Drastic Solution to Dating Fatigue
Giving Up Men for Lent & Finding Purpose in Dating
We’ve talked about dating fatigue on Dates & Mates in the past, but have you ever been so burnt out on it that you decided to quit the dating game entirely?
Kacie Main did. In 2017, she got so burnt out on searching for love after a string of questionable decisions, that she decided to hit the reset button and give up men for lent (about 40 days.)
A little drastic, maybe?
Maybe not, it turns out! I loved hearing about Kacie’s journey from what she calls “dating desperation” to really understanding and finding her purpose in dating.
We go in-depth on dating fatigue and also cover:
You can find Kacie at kaciemain.com! Make sure to get a copy of her book “I Gave Up Men For Lent: The story of a jaded, hopelessly romantic, health-conscious party girl’s search for meaning” on Amazon!
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Master Class: Dating App Dos And Don’ts
A Comprehensive Guide To Dating Apps
Everything you need to know about dating’s latest developments
There have been so many changes in the dating landscape even just this month! Are you up to speed?
On this week’s episode of Dates & Mates, Damona gives a masterclass on dating app dos and don’ts, especially for Facebook’s NEW dating app.
We know what you’re thinking! ANOTHER DATING APP?!
But today, Damona gives you a step by step assessment of what might be wrong in your dating plan so you don’t feel the frustration of keeping up with all the new developments in dating.
TOP 5 Dating App Problems (2:39)
PLUS, did you know that the latest studies on the marriage market show that there is a shortage of men with marriageable qualities? (21:00)
Damona covers this study published in the Journal of Marriage & Family and gives you the rundown and goes in-depth on:
Facebook Dating is Here! (30:00)
If you or anyone you know is overwhelmed by dating today, don’t miss this episode!
DATES & MATES DEALS: THE PROFILE STARTER KIT
Get your FREE Profile Starter Kit TODAY! Profilestarterkit.com
Bonus reading materials: Damona in Essence and Shondaland
Want to get on the VIP list for the 30 Day Dating Playbook? Click here!
If you want a more in-depth step-by-step tutorial on Facebook Dating, find @alittlenudge on Instagram here!
Modern Fairytales & FOMO
DATING IN THE DIGITAL AGE
Have you ever logged on to Instagram and it seems like everyone and their mom is getting engaged? Is Instagram-related relationship FOMO impacting your dating life?
On this week’s episode of Dates & Mates, I talk with Hannah Orenstein, Senior Dating Editor at Elite Daily and author of the new novel, Playing With Matches.
DATING DISH (1:58)
What is sexy-poor?
Do poor men actually have an advantage in dating? D’Marge thinks so.
What you can learn from polyamory?
A recent study on polyamorous couples reveals interesting insights for sexuality. Damona and Hannah break it down.
Everything that is wrong with your dating profile
Damona’s dating profile tips were featured in Shondaland! Damona and Hannah discuss.
Are #relationshipgoals ruining dating? (14:00)
How social comparison affects your relationships
Hannah writes a lot about how the pressures of social media impact dating today. Are you really living your best life if it’s not on Instagram?
Yes you can! Hannah and I had a great discussion about social comparison and how it affects dating today.
We go in-depth on:
TECHNICALLY DATING (26:00)
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
Shondaland: Tired of an inbox full of “hey”?
Damona is featured here in Shondaland for a profile makeover piece, in which she discloses how the 3 C’s can spark more engagement with your dating profile. Here’s a sneak peek:
“THE DATER: Colleen, 25, a wholesale manager for a beauty brand based in the South
For five-plus years, Colleen has had an on-again, off-again relationship with the standard trio of dating apps: Hinge, Bumble, Tinder. So far, she says most of her matches have felt like “a waste of time.” Her inbox is stacked with “Hey” after “Hey” from bland guys with whom she has zero chemistry, and who rarely engage her in conversations about her own interests. Among her lengthy list of duds is the Atlanta Falcons player who commented on her photo with a tired pick-up line (that, at least, resulted in an entertaining screenshot for her friends) and the creepy guy who claimed to coincidentally “run into her” one night while she was out with friends and proceeded to follow her around for the evening.
THE EXPERT: Damona Hoffman
Hoffman jokes that she’s been coaching online daters “since they used to do profiles on stone tablets.” In addition to one on one coaching, Hoffman frequently does public speaking engagements on the subject, offers an online course, and hosts a weekly podcast called Dates & Mates. She thinks of dating profiles as a form of storytelling, and helps clients craft “narratives” designed to engage exactly the people they’re hoping to meet, as opposed to profiles that could appeal to anyone. “You could get a lot of messages, but if they’re a lot of the wrong messages, or you’re not going on dates with the right kind of people, then it feels exhausting, frustrating and overwhelming,” Hoffman says.
We asked Hoffman to review Colleen’s profile and come up with actionable tips that will help this “meh” dater find an authentic connection.”
Click here to read Damona’s tips!
The Game of Desire & Dating With Dominance
HOW TO WIN THE GAME OF DESIRE
Season 7 is HERE!
Modern love has changed DRASTICALLY since I first started the Dates & Mates Podcast 7 years ago but I’m committed to continuing to keep you up to speed on the latest news, tip, and techniques in the dating game.
Speaking of dating, do you ever feel like finding love is just game of cat & mouse between men and women?
Then you’ll want to hear from, SHAN BOODY, sexologist and intimacy expert behind The Game of Desire. She performed a study on how to come out on top in the game of love. Can you actually learn to be more attractive?
Apparently you can! Her book, The Game of Desire is revolutionary in so many ways and I’m thrilled to finally have her on the show after watching her business grow the last couple of years.
We give you the skinny on:
Make sure you and a friend are both subscribed to Dates & Mates this season on your favorite podcast platform so you don’t miss any of the info-rich, entertaining episodes that I have lined up for you this season.
DATES & MATES DEALS: START DATING NOW!
Damona will announce details about her 30 Day Dating Playbook Program re-release on the show later this month. If you want to get into this premium online-led dating course, The 30 Day Dating Playbook Program, CLICK HERE to get on the early interest list for a special deal.
via GIPHY
Hello Giggles: How to talk to your partner about sex
Damona spoke with Ashley Uzer at Hello Giggles about communication and sex. A big takeaway – your partner is not a mind reader! Be open with them about what you need (especially when it comes to kinky sex).
“Start small”
You probably don’t pull out all your sexual stops on the first date, right? Same theory goes for rolling out your toolkit of kinky fantasies.
“Start with mentioning something that turns you on and then ask him how he feels about it, and if it’s something he’d be up for trying,” suggests Hoffman. “You don’t want to bring all 50 shades out the first time you have sex.”
Read the rest of Damona’s advice HERE!
Nice Guys & F Boys
[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][fusion_text]
THE ADVICE YOU DIDN’T ASK FOR BUT NEED TO HEAR
As a dating coach of 15 years, Damona’s made it her mission to show you how to date for a long-term commitment. But this week we got to thinking – what can daters learn from people who aren’t looking for “a last first kiss”?
Enter Clint Coley, comedian behind the podcast, “Advice From A Fuckboy.” (shocking, I know.)
DATING DISH (2:30)
Have you been dogfished?
Have you ever swiped right on someone because they had a cute god in their pictures? You have been dogfished! Damona and Clint break it down.
Jamie Foxx teaches us all about relationship rebounds
Jamie and Katie call it quits and he’s already on to the next. Was Kate getting the 7 year itch? Damona has thoughts.
Can men and women really have platonic relationships?
The Atlantic covers a new study that suggests that men and women may not be able to have platonic relationships. Clint has strong opinions about this one.
Advice from a F***Boy
Dating advice from a man with no relationship goals
Damona and Clint have some VERY different opinions about dating but it makes for great conversation.
They talk:
Make sure to check out Clint’s Podcast, Advice from A Fuckboy!
TECHNICALLY DATING
Submit your questions Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and hear our answers live on the show! Here’s what our listeners asked about this week:
[/fusion_text][/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]