I never know what to do when I have a crush on someone. Should I let them know how I feel? Or ignore my feelings until they fade away? How am I supposed to pay my taxes when I get butterflies in my stomach every time my phone buzzes? Why do we even get crushes?
“We get crushes because they are hardwired into our biology,” says Damona Hoffman, a certified dating coach and host of The Dates & Mates Podcast. “We are designed to want to connect, to mate and relate, and that starts from a very young age.”
Not only that, Hoffman says, crushes can get stronger as we age, “because your needs are greater.”
Depending on the situation, acting on a crush can be a good, healthy step – or it can create a lot more trouble than it needs to. Hoffman walks us through how to deal with a crush in four common scenarios.