Why do we treat love as a one-time-only adventure?

We often associate love with grand gestures and monumental moments, but those only scratch the surface of what love truly entails. Love is not a one-time event; it’s a continuous journey requiring dedication, effort, and practice.

Daily love isn’t always easy—life’s challenges can distract us and fear can hold us back. That’s why I’ve brought in Dr. Alexandra Solomon, whose new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive”, helps develop a daily love practice.

Plus, we have a futuristic dating dish: Could an AI dating concierge fix your dating life? And our Dear Damona question this week: Is it a red flag if my match doesn’t ask me any questions about myself? Let’s dive in!

DATING DISH (3:40)

Get ready for a heated debate!

NBC News claims AI personas are the future of dating, but Bumble’s founder Whitney Wolfe Herd isn’t fully convinced. We’re diving into this buzzy and controversial topic.

Could AI dating concierges that pre-screen matches be the answer to relentless texting and unfulfilling first dates? Or is the idea of robots handling your romantic life a step too far?

11:19 Dr. Alexandra Solomon 

Dr. Alexandra Solomon, PhD, is a couples therapist, speaker, and professor at Damona’s alma mater, Northwestern University.

She’s the host of the Reimagining Love podcast and the author of two books, “Taking Sexy Back” and “Loving Bravely”. And now her newest book, “Love Every Day 365 Relational Self-awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, grow, and Thrive” is on shelves now.

13:10 Love as a Daily Practice

Shattering the fairy tale myth of effortless love, Dr. Alexandra said “I really like this framing of love every day being okay, so what am I going to do? Because I have the power to shape the dynamic between myself and my partner.”

She’s dropped major truth bombs about making love an ongoing daily practice through small, intentional actions.

15:30 You Have to Shake the Snow globe in Relationships

When you find yourself falling for someone new, brace yourself – your emotional baggage is about to get shaken up like a snow globe!

Dr. Alexandra Solomon has an enlightening take on how diving into a romantic partnership can inadvertently kick up repressed feelings and patterns, even ones you thought you’d worked through. Instead of feeling ashamed, she reframes this as an opportunity for powerful self-discovery alongside your partner.

24:13 Is There a Ghost in the Room?

When triggered by your partner, do you feel the “ghost in the room” – that fear of becoming someone you don’t want to be, like your rageful father or doormat mother?

Dr. Alexandra said to shine a light on these knee-jerk reactions from past wounds. Recognizing these “ghosts” allows you to consciously navigate conflicts alongside your partner rather than just reacting defensively. She shared a powerful exercise to help you reframe your thinking.

Follow Dr. Alexandra on Instagram @Dr.Alexandra.Solomon and grab a copy of her new book, “Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship heal, Grow and Thrive”

48:24 DEAR DAMONA

Submit your questions for our Dear Damona segment on Instagram, X, TikTok, or Facebook, and hear Damona’s answers live in a future episode!

Question from Debbie:

Hi Damona. My name is Debbie. I’m new to dating apps. I find when I reach out to a match and ask a question, he will respond—the majority of the time. My match doesn’t ask a question about me and return. Is this a lack of interest? Thank you.