Do you need to be at your very best before putting yourself out there in the dating world? The perfect weight? The perfect look? The perfect car? The perfect house? Lately, I have talked to a number of singles whose drive to get to this state of perfection has kept them from moving forward in their dating life. I have to wonder if some of this dating procrastination stems from a need to protect themselves. If you don’t put yourself out there, you don’t get hurt. However, if you don’t put yourself out there, you also don’t get results in return.
Confidence is really the key. If you are confident in your own skin, you will be sexy. If you are always striving for 5 lbs thinner or shinier, pretty toys to show off, you never really feel whole, do you?
Then if someone meets you in this idealized state of yourself you’ll feel that much more pressure to maintain that state. Let me tell you as someone who has been there, you will gain the 10 lbs back after you have a baby or once you get comfortable with the other person…and then what?
What I’m saying is that you have to look at the you that you are right now and find the perfection in your present state. If you have the drive to change yourself, you certainly have the drive to commit to being a confident dater. If you’re staring at that screen wondering if you should sign up for an online dating account or sitting at home wondering if you should go to that party or mixer, the answer has to already be yes. You have to say yes to possibility and yes to yourself before anyone else can say yes to you.