Have you found yourself thinking more about Falling in Love lately? It’s not your fault! While you’d rather be focusing on hitting your year-end targets at work and planning your holiday trips to see your family, factors outside your control keep pulling you towards a relationship. There’s even a term for it –
Cuffing Season (n): During the Fall and Winter months people who would normally rather be single or promiscuous find themselves along with the rest of the world desiring to be “Cuffed” or tied down by a serious relationship.
The major factors driving you towards falling in love and coupling off are:
Back in the caveman era, being partnered up meant that you had more resources and protection to survive a harsh winter. Even if you fancy yourself an independent spirit, cold weather brings on our biologically-programmed survival skills.
Having to explain to your parents and grandparents why you are attending Thanksgiving dinner solo, yet again, can really wear you out! Your timeline might not align with your family’s expectations – and that’s ok. It is better to take your time and make a meaningful match than to partner up out of family pressure and end up in a relationship that doesn’t bring you joy.
The anxiety over who you will be with when Ryan Seacrest counts down the ball drop on New Year’s Eve in Times Square can be overwhelming. Nothing is more awkward than gathering with a group of coupled friends and seeing them all kiss at the stroke of midnight while you feel like you’re turning back into tattered old Cinderella.
YOUR ENGAGED FRIENDS
41% of all engagements happen between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day. Seeing others falling in love can’t help but make you compare your timeline to your engaged friends and begin to wonder, “Why not me?”
Speaking of Valentine’s Day (the holiday I dreaded most when I was single), it’s only 82 days away from Thanksgiving. Knowing that most Valentine’s Day dates are between committed couples, it’s not too early to start thinking about which one of your matches has long-term potential.
So the next time you start to wonder why your desire to fall in love has been turned up a notch this season, take comfort in the fact that it’s not your fault. That being said, keep in mind that if you want to reach your relationship goals, the best way to achieve them is with a dating plan. Don’t wait for your love life to happen to you, if you’re feeling the urge to be a relationship, let that be the motivation you need to take time this holiday season to date with purpose.