Going out for drinks seems like the easiest way to meet someone on a first, second, or third date. Alcohol socially lubricates, eases tension, and allows people to relax, whereas coffee can make someone jittery or make their stomach queasy. Though liquor and beer are fun, acceptable drinks to chat over, it’s not always the best way to present your best self. Some people can’t hold their alcohol, while others reveal too much. Some are allergic and turn red.
Anyway you look at it drinking on a date has limits, just like anything else with dating. Set a drinking limit BEFORE you head out on a date. It’s easy to feel a connection with someone after a few gin and tonics, but you also have to have a connection in the sobering light of day if you really want a successful relationship.
Here’s the rules for drinking on a date:
1. Trash the Trashy – Avoid anything with a name that makes you sounds easy: Sex on the Beach, Buttery Nipple, Red-Headed Slut (I’d never heard of that one either, but apparently it’s a popular shot with college kids). These types of cocktails scream immature and generally will only lead to you getting wasted, not getting hitched.
2. Choose Class & Culture – Just getting a plain old pitcher of beer translates to your date as a lack of taste or sophistication. If you’re going with beer, choose a microbrew or something unique rather than the stuff you drink with your dad on the 4th of July.
3. No Shots – Shots send the message that you’re saying, “Screw the date, let’s get wasted.” So avoid them unless the only goal is to actually get screwed.
4. Put Down the Martini – Gin plus vermouth equals pure alcohol, which makes the martini essentially two cocktails in one. Even though it looks cool and chicks dig it, you’ll be headed straight for the porcelain god with this libation.
5. Reject the Red Wine – A delicious full-bodied red is lovely at a dinner with friends, but what many people don’t realize is that it can be dangerous to your look. Not only can it ruin your outfit if you get nervous and tip your glass, but it also stains your lips and gives your teeth a grey tint to them. Looking like rigor mortis is setting in can only detract from the conversation. If you like vino, go for white.
6. Mind your Garnishes – In this era of modern mixology, bartenders are trying all sorts of inventive combinations. You might look adventurous ordering the Blue Cheese Martini or the onion-garnished Gibson, but your date won’t appreciate it when you go in for first the kiss.
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