Shanon Lee – Guest Author
After earning the reputation of a celebrated racial justice activist, Grey’s Anatomy actor Jesse Williams is facing backlash from the black community.
A Page Six article claims he abandoned his black wife for his white co-star, Minka Kelly. Williams addressed the infidelity rumors in JAY-Z’s footnotes video for the track 4:44, denying the demise of his 5-year marriage was due to another woman.
In 2016, Williams famously delivered a brazen BET Award acceptance speech denouncing police brutality, demanding equal rights and defending black women.
Though he identifies as black, his father is African-American and his mother is Swedish. Many feel his recent dating choice contradicts his advocacy efforts for the #blacklivesmatter movement.
Can you be pro-black and date white men or white women?
This question has been posed throughout history. Frederick Douglas, one of the most prominent anti-slavery activist, was ostracized for his decision to illegally marry a white woman in 1884 after becoming widowed. Citing his mixed-race ancestry, he argued any relationship he entered was interracial.
In 2017, society is still trying to police who multiracial people love.
While Williams remains undeterred, other notable artist-activists have severed romantic ties to protect their public image. In a recently discovered letter from 1995, Tupac apologized to Madonna for hurting her – explaining he was unwilling to disappoint his black fan base by openly dating her.
I asked multiracial singles to weigh-in on the topic.
Christa Forman, 33, feels it is unfair to be pressured to live by certain rules and standards. “Being pro-black is not about who you date, it is about understanding black history and working towards the eradication of racism. For me, that includes finding a way to improve society, which is through unity – not division.” Though adopted by white parents, her biological mother is white and her biological father is Kenyan. After struggling with her identity in the past and hiding her biracial roots due to a fear of rejection, she now openly identifies as both black and white. Forman strives to form platonic and romantic relationships with people who are racially unbiased.
Christine Walters, 42, agreed. “Being pro-black has nothing to with who you date, it is about supporting black people. Ignorance, racism and discrimination may never go away, but the heart loves who the heart loves and our ancestors fought for us to have the rights we have today.” Though she has always identified with black culture, she describes herself as mixed. “When I say I am black, people aren’t satisfied with my answer and keep asking questions. My mother was white and my father was black.”
Frances Hardin, 75, believes who you date should be your own business. “I have dated black, white and Asian men. My boyfriend is Russian.” Hardin, who comes from a racially diverse Creole family and identifies as black, called the criticism of Williams “unwarranted and unfair”. “Fighting for equal rights includes the right to date whoever you want.” She also feels it is important to respect and acknowledge all parts of your heritage.
“Who you love and who you advocate for can be two different things,” explained Celebrity Dating Expert and TV Host Damona Hoffman, whose mother is white and father is black. “Dating a white woman is not a betrayal